re: fuckin fool i am...long message***

Quoting RebeccaK:“ I think an ultamatum would be appropriate. If you don't grow the eff up your baby and I will be contacting you through the court for child support.”

he already told me he didnt care just as long as he had nothing to do with me anymore
hes just being selfish and when he loses both of us hes going to go crazy and feel like a fool
what gets me mad is he tells me he loves me but hes not showing it at all

Quoting MAMA ABBY:“ he already told me he didnt care just as long as he had nothing to do with me anymore hes just being ... [snip!] ... both of us hes going to go crazy and feel like a fool what gets me mad is he tells me he loves me but hes not showing it at all”

Exactley. He's going to think you won't really do it. Especially if you have threatened this before and never acted on it. I would seriously pack up my stuff and go to my moms for a couple of days and show him your serious. He'll be begging you to come home before the first day is over guarenteed. Then give him a set of rules to abide by. He'll probably want you home so bad he'll be falling all over himself to obey.

dude that reminds me exactly of my ex!!! omg super douchebag!!! girl, you need to leave him like those kind of guys dont fucking change, trust me they dont, at least youll get over him even if he is sephens dad cuz i got over my babys daddy its so possible you deserve better, what a fucking asshole!!!!!!

i cant beleive he told you he got the point, shit when you were explaining to him about sephen thats the perfect example of what a big fucking douchebag he is!!!!

Quoting MAMA ABBY:“ i know i do bcause he never shows any affection for me anymore”

Your remind me of me. ahah. I used to say things to my boyfriend just to see if he cared. He reminds me of your boyfriend. We ended up breaking up. I couldnt stand being treating like that anymore. It hurt me too much. I dont like mind games.

You need to make a "coles notes" version of that convo for us lazy people- dang that was long. Ok my opinion he is being a jerk but I can see why he's so hostile. All those horribley rude and jackass comments of his are his way of saying he's still hurt and he's not over it. I mean first you did cheat on him and its hard for anyone to gte over being hurt even though you've been good to him lately. And second it seems you are being a lttile pushy to make him stay- it pretty much sounded like you were begging him.

A child would rather be from a broken home then live in one (as that fool Dr. Phil says) but it's true its not healthy for you or anyone in that house including the baby.

ok so i just got to work and read this very long message... i know we arnt close or nothing but if you were one of my really good friend i would tell you that really you are doing all the trying for nothing.. he has it set in his mind that he doesnt not want to be with you and is going to live in the past and let it bother him everytime he thinks about you or sees youhe is doing the whole laughter and i dont care thing just to make you feel like shit. (believe me i have been through all this..) but i tend to alwasy fight back with tony and win. i dont understand how when you said that you are going to leave with sephen all he said was bye and tell him that he loves him.. abby i am so sorry that you have to go through this i know its hard now that you have your son there. like i want to talk to you about this cause i know i can relate to you so much but i know how hard it is you need to be strong for your son. he will soon stop acting like a dick and finally realize that the partying thing is old and needs to grow up and be a FATHER

Wow tell him to take a hike. What a fuckin jerk,

Quoting MAMA ABBY:“ idk what to do anymore i'm head over heels in love with this boy and all hes doing is hurting me”

im going through the same thing with my bf will weve been together for 9 years and he cheated on me 5 years ago i got really mad and cheated back its funny cuz its always my fault he never says anything bout his cheating but only mine we have a 4 year oldson and one on the way i love him more than anything ive been with him since i was 15 now 24 but he keeps hurting me i dont know what to do espescially with our other son on the way i dont want to be alone with two kids but i dont want to be hurt anymore!!!!! so i feel u jus stay strong all i can say

 
i'm in the same situation as him.
my baby's father was sleeping around while we were broken up & i was at home pregnant [a little different, but it still hurt].
i don't think i'll ever be able to forgive him.

Quoting dee || gigi's mommy:“   i'm in the same situation as him. my baby's father was sleeping around while we were broken up & ... [snip!] ... up & i was at home pregnant [a little different, but it still hurt]. i don't think i'll ever be able to forgive him.”

i don think i can forgive him.
idk if this is TMI but last night we made love and it felt so weird i cant see him the same anymore after all this
i have to force myself to tell him that i love him idk why its going down little by little

Quoting MAMA ABBY:“ i don think i can forgive him. idk if this is TMI but last night we made love and it felt so weird i ... [snip!] ... him the same anymore after all this i have to force myself to tell him that i love him idk why its going down little by little”

yep, same with me. i think i'll always love my baby's dad, just because hes the father of my child, but it will never be the same & the love is definately dissapearing. he betrayed me.

but hes definately still hurt by what you did.
yall need to figure out if hes ever going to let the past be the past, & if he won't, then its prolly best that yall go your separate ways.

I am the only one who read this right, cause I really don't find him being a jerk

Do you really want to spend another second with a guy who called you an idiot in an IM argument??? The longer you are with him, the longer you have to wait to find a real man who will love and /respect/ you. You are wasting time you could be using to have a chance at a new, healthy relationship without a history of infidelity.

And I don't even know either one of you from Adam and I can tell he is lying to you. Take control of yourself and your life!

Quoting ♥ Mellow Yellow &:“ I am the only one who read this right, cause I really don't find him being a jerk”

Same here.

i don't understand why everyone thinks he's an asshole for feeling the way that he does. She cheated on him and he's having a hard time getting over it... for some people no matter how hard they try to forgive they just cant. It seems like he loves his son a lot and is willing to take responsibility... he doesn't need to be with her to be a good father.