re: When Did You Have

i had one after giving birth to my 3month old @ age 18.parent tank me to read my story

Quoting MissWhit12:" Then I feel sorry for you."

Ditto

Quoting MissWhit12:" Then I feel sorry for you."

Ditto

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I had one when my 2nd daughter was 9 months. I was in no position to take care of another one because of finances and my ex and I were on the rocks because of his drinking. I was about 9 weeks. I knew from the second I found out I was pregnant and have never regretted it for a second. The children I already have come before any potential child.

<blockquote><b>Quoting MomMommyMa+1:</b>" When did you have your abortion? And how did it effect you? Regret or no regret? Abortion stories appreciated, but not needed...only if any of you have the time. Thanks"</blockquote>


I had mine a few years ago.I was very,very early in the pregnancy.
I'm not sorry I did it, but even though it was right I had periods of mourning and "what if's".
Despite that , I wouldn't have done anything differently except not get pregnant in the first place.

This is my first time talking about this so please bare with me...

I had it done when I was 3 weeks pregnant. I was in a horrible situation that I put myself in. I had it done within the past month. So I am really hopeing I come to terms with it. But it is REALY taking it's toll on me. I had a dream I gave birth and sliced open my own child's throat.

I hadn't really been thinking about it too much since it happened until I had that dream. Now all I can think about is my childs blood on my hands, I cry every day. I look at my daughter thinking of how I could have given her a silbling and think about when I became pregnant at 18 I didn't abort her, knowing she had a 50% chance of having a genetic disorder. I kept her, currently I am really regretting what I have done because I know I could have given that child a decent life.

I rushed through the proccess. And didn't take any drugs so I was awear of EVERYTHING. And because I was so early there was a higher change of the doctor not getting all of the 'tissue.' So after the doctor preformed the abortion she went to see 'if she got everything' and she came back smiling and saying is a loud cheery voice that I will never forget, "We got it all!" I remember thinking I just killed my own baby I am not really excited you 'got it all'...

For me it was the easy way out and a way of not dealing with a stupid mistake I made. I havn't talked to anyone about it not even my SO because I am not good at showing people my emotions. He is being suportive. But to be honest, I really smurfing hate myself right about now.

BTW I am all for pro-chioce and think it is every womens right to decided what she wants to do.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Had my 10/10/10 baby!:</b>" This is my first time talking about this so please bare with me... I had it done when I was 3 weeks ... [snip!] ... hate myself right about now. BTW I am all for pro-chioce and think it is every womens right to decided what she wants to do."</blockquote>




I'm so sorry to hear the feelings you are having. Every time you begin to think those negative thoughts remind yourself of why you choose it. Remind yourself that you put yourself & your needs 1st. Your still young enough to give your little one siblings. Plus as the little one you have grows , in the end you'll be thankful that you made such a strong decision and were able to spend that additional time with the child you have. What really really helped me was going over the "Pro" list of why I chose what I did. Again I'm so sorry & sad to hear the situation for you. I will keep you in my thoughts, you will over cOme the feelings that you are having.

Quoting Kim Elliott:" I had one when my 2nd daughter was 9 months. I was in no position to take care of another one because ... [snip!] ... found out I was pregnant and have never regretted it for a second. The children I already have come before any potential child."

I had mine for the same reasons. Mine was back on Feb 10, about a week after I found out. I was in no position to be bringing another child into this world. I am the single mom of 2 boys already. Things would are tight enough as it is, and another baby would put more strain on all of us and take more time away from the two that I already have. I don't regret my decision, it was the best one for me and the two kids I already have. There were some rough patches, but mostly it was whiile I was actually going through the procedure and passing the large clots. I was home alone and super stressed. But afterwards, I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders.

I had one at age 25. I had just started dating the guy, we had been together maybe a month and a half when I found out. Had only had unprotected sex 2x. He was supportive of whatever I wanted to do. I didn't want to keep the baby as I didn't want to be tied to someone that I really didn't know all that well. Did the pill, my bf was supportive through the whole thing. Went on to marry him 3 years later and we have a son now. Don't regret my decision one bit.

Quoting MissWhit12:" That isnt a stupid comment. Anyone who gets an abortion just because they can is a sorry piece of crap! ... [snip!] ... then obviously you didnt choose to become pregnant. If you did choose to have sex then you should deal with your consequences."

you're entitled to your opinion but please don't post that smurf in AS. Those of us who have had one believe that there are other reasons that justify an abortion. post your views on abortion somewhere else. This is a forum for women who have had abortions to get support, not be knocked for their decisions.

i had my first abortion at the age of 24 i was 9 weeks pregnant when it was done and i only did it due to the simple fact i am already a mother of 4 wonderful children, i only did it cause i knew it would not be good for me to bring another child into this world when i knew i couldnt give it the love and attention it needed do i regret it in some ways i do but in some ways i dont. would i do it again no i wouldnt just due to the simple fact of how it affected me i recently found out i am pregnant again and right now im about 8 weeks and i am going to have this baby and do the besxt i can raising it.

Quoting MissWhit12:"

Maybe you should read the smurfing rules dumbass.
http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about545917.html

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kim Elliott:</b>" Maybe you should read the smurfing rules dumbass. http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about545917.html"</blockquote>


You are so kind. Cussing must make you feel so smart   REPORT me. I don't care. This website is ridiculous.