Once again I get myself into a crazy situation...

So here's my problem. Today I hung out with a very close male friend of mine. Now, he is not the father of my baby, although I'd be lying if I said I didn't wish he were. The real father, to make a long story short is a complete ass. He totally denies our soon-to-be here baby girl, and say's he wants nothing to do with me OR her but will pay child support. He will deny she is his in any way, which I don't mind because that day will come when she's here where I can prove it to him and laugh and dance in his face.   But besides that, my close friend has always been here for me. He was even here the day I took my pregnancy test and found out my life would be changed forever. One day he offered to be the father figure in my baby's life, since the real father is now over sea's in the Navy until next February. (not that it really matter's since he doesn't want her). Today is the first time I've seen this friend in a while. I feel so bad because the last time I was with him I really pushed him away because I had just found out about the pregnancy and was scared with what was going to happen. I didn't want to drag him into anything ("drama") so I told him to stay away.   Now, I am needing someone like him in my life so badly that I would do anything for him to be there. Being with him today was so amazing. He would even give my HUGE baby bump attention that no one ever has. I just honestly have no idea what I should do. I would feel awful if anyone thought I was using him in any way just to cope. He really mean's a lot to me and I just don't know if this is right to the baby. Please help.

Any man can be a dad but it takesa real man to be a father

Quoting MAKAILEE'S MOMMY!:“ So here's my problem. Today I hung out with a very close male friend of mine. Now, he is not the father ... [snip!] ... him in any way just to cope. He really mean's a lot to me and I just don't know if this is right to the baby. Please help.”

i know its hard but if your trying to make it work with your babys real father you cannot be vulnerable with someone else..if you really want to-tell your babys father its over for good

i think that this is something that youll really have to think about. I mean, would u 2 be together or would he just be a "father figure type"? and if u are gonna be together do you love each other? would u wanna be with him if u werent pregnant?....personally i tihnk if he wants to be the male role model, that perfectly fine, but if its gonna be more yolu should really think about it

I know for a fact that the father and I will never be "together". He's already engaged to another girl for one thing. His personality and my own completely clash now. Of course he wasn't like this before I was pregnant. (And before he got what he wanted.) I was sort of seeing the friend of mine before I found out I was pregnant. I think since the real father has someone else, then maybe I should too. I'm just scared that the baby will become confused when it comes to her 'daddy'.

Quoting MAKAILEE'S MOMMY!:“ I know for a fact that the father and I will never be "together". He's already engaged to another girl ... [snip!] ... has someone else, then maybe I should too. I'm just scared that the baby will become confused when it comes to her 'daddy'.”

what? Ohh okay -well maybe take it slow then..make sure hes the one because you deserve it-PLUS u dont want your kid going through all these dif guys until u find him(i dont mean like slutty sleep with-just dating different ones

Your baby probably won't have "Daddy confusion" if the biologicalfather wants nothing to do with her.
Personally, if you really like this guy, he likes you and he is willing to take the package deal, what is it going to hurt to get involved with him?
Take his child support and raise a happy healthy family without him. When the time comes, if things get serious with you and this new guy he could adopt your daughter and the schmuck will be out of the picture for good.
Sounds like a brick around your neck any ways. Cut him loose and move on to someone who cares.

I would definitely wait to start a relationship with anyone.Your hormones,emotions and feelings are out of whack and it is going to be awhile before they all get back to normal. If it is meant to be,it will happen.

Quoting Charly's an Angel:“ Your baby probably won't have "Daddy confusion" if the biologicalfather wants nothing to do with her. ... [snip!] ... be out of the picture for good. Sounds like a brick around your neck any ways. Cut him loose and move on to someone who cares.”

amen-great advice 

if u guys have already been together, then i dont see any harm in getting back together. And as someone else already said, the baby wont have daddy confusion if the daddy wants nothing to do with it

Quoting MAKAILEE'S MOMMY!:“ I know for a fact that the father and I will never be "together". He's already engaged to another girl ... [snip!] ... has someone else, then maybe I should too. I'm just scared that the baby will become confused when it comes to her 'daddy'.”

Even if you two dont get together or dont stay together he can be a male figure in her life just let her know later on that he may not have been the one to make her but he was the one always there for her if thats the case but yeah take it slow relationship wise you dont want to confuse her dating a hole bunch of guys. but even if you date someone else he can still be there for her too. Just because your ex is ingaged doesnt mean you have to be in that same situation espescially if its not the right one for you at this time.

Thank you for your comments and thoughtful suggestions.  

I really do have alot of thinking to do. And like someone said above... my hormones are in a really weird stage right now and myemotions are crazy. I may want something now that I may not want later.

It may be best to wait until after she is born.