re: Should I be upset?

Quoting Lanni:" I'm glad that I'm not the only one who sees it like that. I mean, I'm well aware my son didn't make ... [snip!] ... why she told us, so we could be prepared in case they do choose that name and so she can tell them how SO and I feel about it."

Well at least they will know how you feel. If they still go about naming him that there is not much you can do but at least if you know now you can try and be a little more comfortable with it. You will always have your little man in your heart and his name will always be James no one can take the away, regardless if they have the same name or not.

Quoting Love my babygirl:" Well at least they will know how you feel. If they still go about naming him that there is not much ... [snip!] ... man in your heart and his name will always be James no one can take the away, regardless if they have the same name or not."

I agree, I think I'm just thinking so irrationally. I know I'm entirely resentful of them, and that I do feel bad about. It's not their fault that James was sick and I had to make that choice, but I can't help but be jealous.

Quoting Lanni:" I agree, I think I'm just thinking so irrationally. I know I'm entirely resentful of them, and that ... [snip!] ... I do feel bad about. It's not their fault that James was sick and I had to make that choice, but I can't help but be jealous. "

It's normal, you definitely have a right to have the feelings you do.

Quoting Love my babygirl:" It's normal, you definitely have a right to have the feelings you do."

Well thank you, I'm glad to know it's normal and it's not me just being over emotional.

Quoting Lanni:" Thanks, I'm someone who gets really freaked out by what people think, so I always try to not come off ... [snip!] ... my mom, SO, MIL and my bestfriend or I have no idea where I'd be right now. And again, thank you for your kind words <3 "

not a problem at all hun! Have you tried writting a journal at least until you find a counsellor that clicks with you?

Quoting Lanni:" Well thank you, I'm glad to know it's normal and it's not me just being over emotional. "

Your welcome, if you ever need someone to talk too you can always PM me.  

Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" not a problem at all hun! Have you tried writting a journal at least until you find a counsellor that clicks with you?"

I do keep a journal, I don't write in it every day but I do when i'm really upset and just need to get my feelings out and I have no one around who I can talk to.

Quoting Love my babygirl:" Your welcome, if you ever need someone to talk too you can always PM me.  "

Thanks   I really appreciate it.

I'm sorry about your baby, but he's an angel now and that's the best kind you could possibly have  
i know it may feel personal to you about the name but i'm sure they don't mean it in a way to offend you or hurt you if they decide to go with it.