Scared I could lose my baby from previous abortion.

I had an abortion about 5 years ago and I don't regret it because it was most definately for the best, I would've been stuck in an abusive relationship. And I found the love of my life! I'm scared to really get attached to my baby because I guess in case I lost my baby then it wouldn't be so hard? I want this baby more than anything but I feel like if I get my hopes up then something might go wrong. Can anyone relate?

Quoting Kelly and Brandon:" I had an abortion about 5 years ago and I don't regret it because it was most definately for the best, ... [snip!] ... I want this baby more than anything but I feel like if I get my hopes up then something might go wrong. Can anyone relate?"

There is really no reason to suspect that a single abortion, done correctly, will effect your ability to carry a pregnancy.

That being said, the chance of miscarriage decreases dramatically after 14 weeks gestation.

Best of luck

Quoting Kelly and Brandon:" I had an abortion about 5 years ago and I don't regret it because it was most definately for the best, ... [snip!] ... I want this baby more than anything but I feel like if I get my hopes up then something might go wrong. Can anyone relate?"

i cant relate but i can pray for your anxiety to go away   i also live in glen burnie

Quoting .Colleen.:" There is really no reason to suspect that a single abortion, done correctly, will effect your ability ... [snip!] ... carry a pregnancy. That being said, the chance of miscarriage decreases dramatically after 14 weeks gestation. Best of luck"

this... Good luck

I'm scared the next baby i concive i wont be able to bond to until its in my arms. thats why i'm scared to start trying again.

What Colleen said.

I had an abortion..then another kid. Then an abortion. Then two more kids.


So...you should be just fine! I hope your stress and nervousness go away soon!

Quoting ❤Bite Me ❤:" I'm scared the next baby i concive i wont be able to bond to until its in my arms. thats why i'm scared to start trying again."

I honestly think alot of women who have had abortions have had it drilled into their heads by the prolifers that we do not deserve children if we have had an abortion in the past and while we know its not true, it still weighs on us.

Best of luck, you'll be ok  

I was paranoid throughout my pregnancy with DD that something would happen to her (my penance for my abortion?). Like... everytime I peed I would check for blood, at every ultrasound and doppler check my heart would race and I would think she was gone. Well, she was born at full term, an absolutely perfect, healthy baby. And yours will be too.   So stop worrying!

Thank you so much! It really helps, I mean I feel her kick alot but when she doesn't I stress a little bit. Not really sure if she is a she yet but hoping for it lol. I'll just feel better when I see her and get to hold her.

Your abortion will not affect your pregnancies afterward. All you can do, I know it is hard, is just relax. It is out of your hands so why stress about it?

Thank you, I know. I suck at just relaxing lol my bf tells me that all the time. But I've been feeling a lot less stressed since I made it to the 2nd trimester and when I feel "her" move.

Quoting .Colleen.:" I honestly think alot of women who have had abortions have had it drilled into their heads by the prolifers ... [snip!] ... if we have had an abortion in the past and while we know its not true, it still weighs on us. Best of luck, you'll be ok  "

I for one, am prolife. & i cant speak for everyone, but i believe every woman deserves to be a mom. I dont think its okay, but if its something you can live with & dont regret.. to each their own. Everything happens for a reason..

Quoting Cassi May:" I for one, am prolife. & i cant speak for everyone, but i believe every woman deserves to be a mom. ... [snip!] ... think its okay, but if its something you can live with & dont regret.. to each their own. Everything happens for a reason.."

I'm glad you do not share that view

And that is a theory that I can no longer subscribe to.
Its simply not true.

Quoting .Colleen.:" I'm glad you do not share that view And that is a theory that I can no longer subscribe to. Its simply not true."

 

Quoting Kelly and Brandon:" I had an abortion about 5 years ago and I don't regret it because it was most definately for the best, ... [snip!] ... I want this baby more than anything but I feel like if I get my hopes up then something might go wrong. Can anyone relate?"

I had an abortion 5 years ago, the same week I had the abortion this last year I was out I was pregnant and was 5 weeks 6 days(the exact measurement I was for the abortion).

At first I was in shock, I though it was too soon and that I didnt deserve it. I counted every week as a milestone, saying to my baby "ok little girl just make it to 14 weeks, ok now make it to 21 weeks" and so on. I am now 27 weeks and I am finally coming to realize that I do in fact deserve this little girl and how much my husband and I love her already. My DH was the father of the other baby, we did not have jobs and were struggling to raise his son(4 then). He was with me the entire time and did not pressure me into my choice, this time around I was worried because we were still living with my mom after moving home from out of state. We make a decent amount of money but were saving to move out so I almost felt like oh god do I need to make this decision again? I called my DH crying because I want to be a mother so badly and I was worried it wasnt the right time, he calmly told me how much he loves me and how excited he is.

We moved out into my old house(owned by my mom but we pay mortgage), and are so excited to be having this little girl. I think of our baby we couldnt have as an angel, that baby gave me this baby and I cannot be more grateful or blessed.


I know how it feels, please feel free to pm me!