mother in law advice

I need some advice with my mother in law. We get a long great! She comes over about everyday to help out with my girls while my husband is at work. There are a lot of people she works with that have grand children about the same ages as my girls. I feel like she compares my oldest child (2) a lot with these other kids. The other day she came over saying that some child is doing really good potty training and is talking in sentences. I don't know if she wants me to feel bad or if she is just making small talk but it bothers me. Should I say something or am I making too much out of this?

Hey I sort of know how you feel and I never know if i"m over reacting or not, the only difference is its my OWN mother. EVERYTIME i bring up something ot do with Emmalee(not even born yet) she cuts me off and says "Oh Shayanne....blah blah blah" Shayanne is my 2 month old neice. When my sil was pregnant I was pregnant too, and I would tell my mom about something we bought for baby she would say...oh garth and brandy have EVERYTHING already....they bought their crib at blah blah blah and they have this and that. I never know if shes trying to piss me off, or whatever, i dont think she is because shes so sweet all the time...it just bugged me.

I swear mother in laws just have a certain way to say lil things just to bother us or something! I dunno what it is, but I would just try to ignore it! Kids go through things at different times!

i doubt she means anything by it.
She probably doesn't even know it bothers you.
Which it shouldn't....babies all grow and develop at different paces--maybe you could mention that next time she starts comparing your baby to others.

I agree that she probably doesn't even think that it bothers you. I personally would probably just ignore it and brush it off, but you can try telling her that it bothers you too.

I'm guessing she doesn't mean anything by it either. I always forget that you shouldn't do that. I am so bad about comparing Katelyn with other kids her age, it's just kind of a natural thing to do. If it really bugs you, you can tell her the ped says she's growing right on schedule and you shouldn't compare her to other kids.

She probably doesn't mean anything by it, but I can understand why it would be frustrating. My sister lives about a block from my parents (and I live on a whole other continent), and so they are always watching my neice and telling me how smart she is, and all of the great and wonderful things she can do. Which is great that she is so smart, but it just makes me feel like, well, what about my son? Do they brag about him the way they brag about my neice? IDK. Just know you are not alone!

I get a long with my mother in law great too, but she lives 5000 miles away.   I think they really don't mean anything by it, but last year when I went to visit, she kept on saying how my boy was trouble, all the time....Come on lady! Give me a break! I tried to just ignore it, but she kept on saying it so I nicely pointed to her that it is normal for a small child and a very active child at that, to get in trouble sometimes, and that to me that is a totally normal behavior. So she stopped after that  

Quoting Ash&Had's Mommy:“ I need some advice with my mother in law. We get a long great! She comes over about everyday to help ... [snip!] ... to feel bad or if she is just making small talk but it bothers me. Should I say something or am I making too much out of this?”

definately say something if it makes u feel bad. she may not realise she is doing it!! we all know that all children develop differently!! and if it makes you feel any better my son is 3 and a half and is still struggling a little with the toilet and definately couldn't use full sentences at the age of 2

My mom does the same thing with my DS and his two cousins (one is a whole YEAR older than my DS and the other is 6 months younger). My mom has actually suggested to me that DS could have autism (keep in mind that my mother hadn't seen my DS in about 9 months at that time since I was living in GERMANY at the time and she was in the States). Her biggest reason for thinking that is b/c my younger nephew knows all his colors but DS doesn't but DS knows some German and his cousins don't.

The comparisons are the reason my DH doesn't really like my mom. I know she doesn't mean anything by it, and I've mentioned it to her, how much it bothers us, but I know that she's not going to change.

Apparently my mother in law does something like this too, but about MY son to my sister in law. And it REALLY bothers my sister in law (because the whole world revolves around my sister in law~not because she compares). My son is with my mother in law 2 days a week while I work, so she spends a lot of time with him. Maybe she is talking about the other child because she dosen't have anything else to talk about?? Maybe change the subject~ and if that doesn't work~ you probably should say something.