Considering Abortion, please help don't judge

I am married with no children, 33 years old and 10 weeks along. I was never sure if I ever wanted children. Now that I'm pregnant I have mixed feelings bc I obviously don't have an easy choice either way. My concerns are that I don't feel 100% confident in my marriage. We've only been married 6 mo's and we have some issues. I left my prestigious career and all my family and friends in another state to move here for his career. Now I don't work and I am alone ALL of the time. I already resent that I gave up my life. Plus he knew long ago I never intended to stay here long term. But he always tries to talk me into it and now I just feel more trapped and a little manipulated. I can't leave bc we need his insurance if I carry to term. All my biggest life events are spent alone, while he has his family and friends here. (this is his home) I feel so out of place and like I'm living someone else's life completely. This is not what I ever wanted. It's not a bad life, per say. It's just everything he wants and nothing I want. I can't imagine being home alone all day with a baby. I just don't want that life. Not yet at least. I still have my own set of needs. Plus, I definitely would not ever have kids knowing I would be single, and we may very well not make it. This just makes me think I would only have it bc he wanted to, not bc I really did. That doesn't seem healthy to me. So I'm considering abortion. Most days I feel that's what I want for sure, but some I get confused. I can not seem to embrace or get excited about pregnancy. Even baby stores and magazines upset me. The clock is ticking and I need to decide.

I think you need to have a serious talk with him. Does HE want this baby? If so, I would tell him that if he wants you to keep this baby, that he needs to understand that you are not happy living where you are.

Maybe he will understand.

Quoting BG Secrets:" I am married with no children, 33 years old and 10 weeks along. I was never sure if I ever wanted children. ... [snip!] ... to embrace or get excited about pregnancy. Even baby stores and magazines upset me. The clock is ticking and I need to decide. "

If you have mixed feelings don't do it. Will your husbands insurance cover a therapy visit? They might be able to help you work through this to sort out your feelings. If you are not 100% positive then you might regret it for the rest of your life and that my dear is one heavy cross to bear.

it has to be something you are sure you want to do I think.

if it was me.
I would leave and go back to my job....no one should ever have to feel like they are settling.
the abortion thing though..you have to figure out what you want..and would this be something he would use as a pawn to keep you and manipulate you?

This is abortion survivors, therefor this post that you just made is entirely inappropriate and unacceptable. Delete.

Quoting Aquila Coleman:" "

It's a protected forum, miss. Have all the opinions that you want on the matter, but don't bring them here. It's a forum for support, not sly persuasion.

You don't seem to understand. Babygaga has rules, and posting anti-abortion crap in "Abortion Survivors" is not allowed and will result in your posts being moderated. You DO have to delete, or it will be removed by moderators FOR YOU. It's not acceptable and not tolerated here.

Quoting Aquila Coleman:" "

It's absolutely unreasonable to think that everyone who doesn't want a child is going to abstain from having sex. Please stop.

Quoting Aquila Coleman:" "

If you don't care about the rules, stop using your account.

Unquote her.

how do you unquote someone?

Quoting Charity_Amber:" how do you unquote someone?"

Click on edit at the top of your post and then just delete what she said. Then hit post reply.

Mary, make sure you unquote the two hidden posts you quoted to avoid getting modded.

I love how people proudly preach about gods perception of abortion but have zero problem with premarital sex. Hypocritical are we? OP, if you want an abortion just make sure you are 100% sure. If you can live with it then do it, if you can't, don't.