re: Considering Abortion, please help don't judge

when i was 9 wks pregnant i was sad, i cried all the time and i didnt want another child. i have two girls already and i did not want a third i love them to death but they are a handful. i considered abortion to myself.. and i just kept thinking i cant do that. but then i would tell myself all the reasons that sounded right to me to have one but i could not make myself believe it. i am now 20 weeks pregnant and its a boy, if i had gotten that abortion i would never have known. what im trying to say is you have not made up your mind and having a child does not ruin your life.... they have made mine better, and could possibly bring you joy as well. whatever you decide is your choice and your right. and only you can make it nobody else.... i advise you to think it through completly before you decide it is a very important decision and if anybody tells me otherwise they are selfish. It is important and could cause alot of grief or joy.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stephjay1989:</b>" when i was 9 wks pregnant i was sad, i cried all the time and i didnt want another child. i have two ... [snip!] ... important decision and if anybody tells me otherwise they are selfish. It is important and could cause alot of grief or joy."</blockquote>

!!! As happy as I am that I'm pregnant again, my SOs drinking got seriously out of control for about a month when we found out. I was so scared he was going to take us all down the drain- I even considered an abortion and taking my daughter and leaving. We have worked things out and he has made the choice to choose his family over the bottle. I am so glad that I didnt do it but I honestly went there in my head. Now beiNg excited about the pregnancy again, I'm almost a little thankful i had to consider it, it showed me what i truly want in.my heart, and that's to stick with my SO and add to our family.
everyone who has considered abortion has a different story, I don't think in this case she should be shamed for writing in here.

Just want to thank everyone for the support. Seriously, thank you. I feel grateful to have an outlet and that women are willing to defend my right to consider options without persecution.
I am not proud of my circumstances but none the less must cope with them.

I can't stand people who instead of offering help, decide to preach about their perception of right and wrong.. if you feel strongly about abortion, don't answer a vulnerable woman's question about it. Nothing makes me angrier.
I'm not a judgemental person, and I've always been pro choice.
My question is, how long have you known you're pregnant? A few days? A week or two?
I'm going to be honest, when I found out I was pregnant, my first thought was "I've got to terminate the pregnancy." After sleeping on it a few nights, thinking about it, and talking to my SO, I arrived at the conclusion to keep the baby.
My best advice to you is, as hard as it may seem, try to take some pressure off of yourself. If this is a decison you stress about, you could end up doing something out of pressure and regret a descion.. Don't back yourself into a corner. Take a breathe, talk to your husband, express your concerns, and go from there. Take some time to really, truly think and do some "soul searching". Do what you feel is best for you, not others. I think visiting a doctor, if you haven't already, to discuss options would be a good idea. A dcotor could offer some insight and give yousome facts to think about. This is a highly personal choice, and at the end of the day, it's yours alone. But don't be afraid to reach out to your husband and express the concerns before making the decision.. And I think talking to your health care provider and going over some options and facts would help you see things a bit more clearly.. Good luck & best wishes.

Quoting Erin-Emely:" "

1. Abortion Survivors. There are rules when commenting in this forum.
2. This is an account open for ANYONE to use. It's not the same person posting lots of different threads.

Quoting kr.r:" 1. Abortion Survivors. There are rules when commenting in this forum. 2. This is an account open for ANYONE to use. It's not the same person posting lots of different threads."

unquote it was hidden

Erin there are rules for posting in Abortion Survivors. Any unsupportive comments, prolife propaganda, etc will be modded. Learn them and follow them. Your opinion is unacceptable here.

no you aren't ALLOWED that's why you're being MODDED

Quoting Captain Obvious:" no you aren't ALLOWED that's why you're being MODDED"

I modded that post as well. Please unquote.

Quoting Queen leaky tits:" I modded that post as well. Please unquote."

yes siree bob.

Quoting kr.r:" 1. Abortion Survivors. There are rules when commenting in this forum. 2. This is an account open for ANYONE to use. It's not the same person posting lots of different threads."

I actually want to apologies for that, I thought it was the same person posting a bunch of crap for attention. So my apologies for being ignorant to whom ever posted this.

Quoting Captain Obvious:" yes siree bob."

thank ya ma'am.