re: Pregnant by a way older man..

Wait...the father of your 17 year old friend is 30 years old?

I would tell everyone the truth. It's not like you're married to the 20-year-old and from what you described of him, doesn't sound like he's ready to be a father anyway.
Just come right out and tell your parents. They'll be more mad when they find out you lied then if you just tell them. It seems so scary now but by the time your baby comes everyone will already be over it.

Quoting BG Secrets:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BOB MARLEY™:</b>" It's time to be honest sweetheart. The truth ... [snip!] ... The biological father knows the truth as well though. I just don't know how to tell my parents the truth. I'm terrified"

Just tell them. You may be terrified....but it's the best thing to do. You should have thought about it before you did what you did....

just be honest... carrying this around isn't healthy...

<blockquote><b>Quoting Katie's Bees:</b>" This. And it's irrelevant but I'm confused... your 18 year old friend has a 30 year old father???"</blockquote>


She's 15, I'm 17 turning 18

First of all, I think the bio father took advantage of you. You are 17 years old and he is your friend's father.

I think you need to be honest with your parents and boyfriend about the baby's paternity. Yes, it's hard. Being an adult is hard. But you made adult decisions, and now you need to accept the consequences. That might mean your parents and boyfriend have hurt feelings or get really mad. But they will eventually get over it. They can't support you if they don't know the truth.

Quoting Mombom:" You didn't have sex, you were raped by him. He's 30 and you were drunk? Tell the truth."

She said he was touching her and they ended up having sex and decided to keep it a secret. she never said she was forced. she agreed to go to the bathroom with him and to sleep on the floor. she did what he wanted her too.

Quoting Mombom:" You didn't have sex, you were raped by him. He's 30 and you were drunk? Tell the truth."

She wasnt raped... it was consensual [sp?] sex.

It sounds like you're putting the blame on everyone except yourself. You need to be honest. If the man has 3 other kids I'm sure he won't mind taking care of another one. It's not right to make someone believe they have a child when they don't. I personally wouldn't be able to live with myself knowing that I was lying about something so serious like that. Like someone else said- the truth will set you free. GL

<blockquote><b>Quoting BOB MARLEY™:</b>" It's time to be honest sweetheart. The truth will set you free."</blockquote>




  people may be mad at first, but now it's about you and that baby. I promise you'll feel so much better.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lil' Nugget.:</b>" She said he was touching her and they ended up having sex and decided to keep it a secret. she never ... [snip!] ... never said she was forced. she agreed to go to the bathroom with him and to sleep on the floor. she did what he wanted her too."</blockquote>




She was a drunk minor. He took advantage of a teenager. How sick.

Good luck, I decided to delete my post-- Whatever decision you make I hope it works out for you.

Quoting Y = A & E [♥]:" She wasnt raped... it was consensual [sp?] sex."

he is still an adult and she isnt though...

you dont need to lead the 20 year old guy on. you dont have to say who is the father but dont let him think he is when he is not

Quoting Jas ♥:"   It may turn ugly but at least you won't feel anxious because you know you're lying to everyone."

Agreed. Just do it now and get it over with. The longer you wait the harder it will be for everyone.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Y = A & E [♥]:</b>" She wasnt raped... it was consensual [sp?] sex."</blockquote>




Can they have consensual sex when she is 17?

You NEED to tell you mom, PLEASE! He needs to go to jail that is horrible. He took advantage of you because you were young and now your going to have to take care of his child at a young age. Please tell your mom she needs to know the truth.