How do you deal with a bully?

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What kind of punishments are you giving him for doing these things?
Take away the DS and other video games.

Take away his toys.

Quoting Viktorya[LazyB]:“ What kind of punishments are you giving him for doing these things? Take away the DS and other video games. Take away his toys.”

she said she did that!

That sounds really bad. My bf's brother was this same way, he was born at 6 months so thats the reason for his anger issues and such. He use to hit everyone and people were seriously afraid of him, they finally had to send him to a facility for mentally and agressive behavire when he was about 8? I think. He is 14 now and still lives there. The other day they were playing tag football (why they would have angier issue kids play football is beyond me) and he beat up a kid because he tagged him. His parents thought it was just a stage when he was young which is why it didnt get delt with sooner. So I would really look into it, it could be seriouse.

No offense or anything but the kid need therapy seriously. Like behavioral medicine. That is really wrong and you need it addresses quickly before the kid gets worse. I know you love him but he needs help. You can try like boot camp type punishment if you want. I dont mean actualyl sending him but every toy in his room comes out so do all his extras. Only a mattress one pillow and one blanket. When he behaves he can play with something for a alloted amount of time. When he is nice to his sister same thing but it needs to be taken away when the time is up and he needs to earn it again. No flashy clothing either. White shirts and blue jeans meaning just basic plain clothing.

hate to say it but sounds to me like he needs a good spanking......i know its horable but...yeah

or maby think about a child theripest it might be just a fase.....but one minet its his little sister the next its kids at his school....detention...suspension....expulsion...where did he learn it does he watch wrestleing or violent video games?

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ No offense or anything but the kid need therapy seriously. Like behavioral medicine. That is really wrong ... [snip!] ... is up and he needs to earn it again. No flashy clothing either. White shirts and blue jeans meaning just basic plain clothing.”

wow

If it comes to you needing to send him to a place that can handle him and his needs please do it. You and your 2 yrs olds lives are at stake here. What if it excalated to weapons??? Really try what you can but dont put yours kids or other people at risk because you dont want to let him go. I knwo it would be very hard for you but if its whats best you know it has to be done.

Quoting Chanisy Yeager:“ wow”

I know it sounds harsh but it is what some kids need.

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ I know it sounds harsh but it is what some kids need.”

I have hered of take'n thing's away my mom did it to me and I liked my stuff so I would stop being bad
op did that and it did not help she said but I dont think she took every thing away it sound's harsh but it also sounds like a good idea!
op might want to try it!!!

do you think he may be jelous of his litttle sis?

Quoting ashleymichella:“ hate to say it but sounds to me like he needs a good spanking......i know its horable but...yeah or ... [snip!] ... at his school....detention...suspension....expulsion...where did he learn it does he watch wrestleing or violent video games?”

he doesnt play any violent video games and i don't let him watch violent movies.. he could be doing these things at his fathers house but i've told his father about his anger and he claims that he doesn't have that problem with him.. but when donovan comes home from his dad's house he's constantly telling me about having to fight his cousin shaun for toys food anything. the little boy is a bully and my son has to fight for anything. his father is all "boys will be boys" but he doesnt realize that he's bringing the survival of the fittest mentality home with him and taking it out on his sister.. it makes me soo angry

Quoting little ms preggo:“ do you think he may be jelous of his litttle sis?”

see that was what I was thinking!!! but being jelous is one thing I just dont see why he would have took'n it so far as to bust her lip and draw blood thaats evil

has he seen much violence any where. or maybe he cant express his feelings... so he express's it in a violent manner??

Quoting HEAD.BiTCH.iN.CHARGE:“ he doesnt play any violent video games and i don't let him watch violent movies.. he could be doing ... [snip!] ... that he's bringing the survival of the fittest mentality home with him and taking it out on his sister.. it makes me soo angry”

well thats exactly where he gets it any you could try talking to don and tell him that is wrong that he needs to share he might be able to explaine where he will understand ask him if he likes it when his cusin does it and when he says no ask him "well do you think your sister likes it" it might work woth a try