re: Just a question (stepparenting)

I think that I would have a problem with it, only because I don't foresee a 3 year old saying "stepmomma" for long. I would have a huge problem with my son calling someone else "Momma" which is what I would think it would end up turning into.

My first thought would be yes. But my daughters father is worthless and blames the reason he can't see her is on his gf being jealous.

My dad remarried when I was about 10 and they just divorced 4-5 years ago. I still talk to her all the time. More than my dad actually and we get together quite often! And my bf has a stepdaughter from a previous marriage and she calls him all the time. I never called my step mom, Mom though. But this girl calls my boyfriend Dad.

I have a HUGE problem with my oldest calling his father's girlfriend mommy. Thats only bc they pushed him on it. If the mom isnt around and does nothing I would say no. If she is then you might want to consider asking her how she feels about it.

Im a step-parent to three little ones , and they all call me lissa ( their nickname for melissa) the only time they refer to me as their step mom ifeven then , is if someone asks who I am , and then its lissa my dads wife , or lissa my stepmom depending on which little one you ask .....

i wouldnt like it at all! momma is a special word and it belongs to u!

I am a step mom. My husband has a 4 year old who lives in a different state. She lives with her Grandma whom she calls momma. She knows who her mom is. She knows her 'momma' is her grandma. The way I see it is if the child chooses to call someone a name, its that childs choice, its not pushing the real mother out of the picture. I am called by my name! I am perfectly fine with that but if she wanted to call me something else I would be fine with that too, so would her mother because we have discussed this. For my case, sad to say, but I think my stepdaughter will be the reason for my divorce later on. I dont know how many times my husband has told me she isnt my kid.. as if I dont already know. But thats a whole other story! So I say... as long as it isnt being pushed on the child, it should be fine.

Quoting Jamie A.:“ Let's say you have a baby, you and the father of your child have not been together for 3 years, now your ... [snip!] ... a problem with your child calling his fiancee' 'Stepmomma' ? And if the child did and you found out, would you try to stop it?”

i'd say the new fiance would have to prove herself...that she actually cares about my kids befor they call her mom. I'm not with my kids dad anymore, they're 6 and 4. My daughter went to her dads for almost a month ( was supposed to only be 2 weeks) and that was September of 06'. A few weeks ago she tells me about a "secret" she couldnt tell me and immediatly I got worried and convinced her to tell me. She's like theres a baby at daddys new house   i was like haha ok....back then it was a secret because we were still together, he was living 8 hours away because he was looking for work...turns out the new "woman" was his cousin   so whatever...lol....but i dont think ill have to worry about him and his new girlfriends, because he hasnt seen them SINCE sept 06

Quoting Jamie A.:“ Let's say you have a baby, you and the father of your child have not been together for 3 years, now your ... [snip!] ... a problem with your child calling his fiancee' 'Stepmomma' ? And if the child did and you found out, would you try to stop it?”

stupid thing, i didnt mean to double post. sorry

Quoting missa116:“ Im a step-parent to three little ones , and they all call me lissa ( their nickname for melissa) the ... [snip!] ... is if someone asks who I am , and then its lissa my dads wife , or lissa my stepmom depending on which little one you ask .....”

i had step kids and they called me "hoe" or "bitch" but thats cuz their mom was psychho and told them to tell me she was gonna kick my ass   now my kids have a step dad, and they call him Robbie. They know he is their "daddy" but they dont call him that.We figure when theyre ready theyll call him that.

Quoting Emmalee'sMummy:“ i had step kids and they called me "hoe" or "bitch" but thats cuz their mom was psychho and told them ... [snip!] ... call him Robbie. They know he is their "daddy" but they dont call him that.We figure when theyre ready theyll call him that.”

Ive been waiting for something like bad mommy lissa to come out , b/c in my hunnys ex's eyes Im a bad parent simply b/c she doesnt know me .. Its a really stupid reason as to why Im a bad mom . I mean most people say that , with atleast " their proof" of why that person is a bad mom ...... But the kids are really good kids and they dont repeat too much , that they overhear or are told ... Im completely happy and content being called lissa by them and if they were to ever cross that line and call me "mom, momma, or mommy" Id correct them on thespot b/c i prefer to be called lissa( melissawhen they get older) by them  

My husband was raised by his aunt and uncle and calls them mom and dad along with his real parents mom and dad. He will occasionally call his step parents mom and dad but its usually joking around cause afterall his step mom is 27 and he is only 22 lol

We have discussed it if we ever broke up what we would do in that sort of situation. He says he personally would not want our kids calling anyone else mom in any way but them calling someone else dad is another story. For example if he met a girl he wouldnt let the kids call her mom but if I met a guy he would actually encourage it so the kids would have a better home life because they would more then likely be living with me and whoever is in there life needs to treat them as their own and love them just as much. I wouldnt mind if they called another girl mom if she married him but not a girlfriend. I think it makes things a lot more calm in the home life because everyone is closer.

Quoting missa116:“ Ive been waiting for something like bad mommy lissa to come out , b/c in my hunnys ex's eyes Im a bad ... [snip!] ... me "mom, momma, or mommy" Id correct them on thespot b/c i prefer to be called lissa( melissawhen they get older) by them  ”

it would be different if my kids dad was in the picture and they had a healthy relationship with him, but they dont, and he has no interest in them. My fiance on the other hand is AWESOME with them. Hes not the kind of guy who just gives them whatever they want to make them happy. He teaches them things, he does things with thtem, and he listens to them. HE helps them when they need it, and he's being a good daddy to them just by being him.. hes a good person and i would rather them think of him as their dad then their real dad. He hasnt seen them (like i said) since sept of 06 and not even made an effort to see them.Then again he had 5 kids when we were together (2 from me) and who knows how may now. anyway, i would prefer it if they never saw their real dad again. FOr now it's my decision and i know its the right one, but when they get older and decide they want to seee him, i cant stop them.

Quoting Cole's mommy!:“ why would you have a problem with this?”

I don't, I'm actually the stepparent. It's that the mother of my fiance's child would probably have a problem with it. I didn't want to completely take over and his daughter call me 'mommy' or anything, but I would like something. I dunno about anyone else, but I'm not comfortable bein' called by my first name or being called 'Ms'. I don't see why it should be a prob when I'm having her call me by my title. But the baby mom just hates me b/c she thinks i stole my fiance' from her. thanks for all y'all responses. I just wanted to hear other people's thoughts on the issue. pretty good turn out.

Quoting Jamie A.:“ I don't, I'm actually the stepparent. It's that the mother of my fiance's child would probably have a ... [snip!] ... from her. thanks for all y'all responses. I just wanted to hear other people's thoughts on the issue. pretty good turn out.”

Why don't you come up with a "new" name for the baby to call you? Like a nick name from your childhood or something?

Quoting Jamie A.:“ I don't, I'm actually the stepparent. It's that the mother of my fiance's child would probably have a ... [snip!] ... from her. thanks for all y'all responses. I just wanted to hear other people's thoughts on the issue. pretty good turn out.”

I can see what you are saying I would hate to be out and hear "oh thats my dad and his wife ______" Technically you are her "mommy" just not her first mommy. I personally think a step-parent should have the smae reltionship with a child as their biological parents because they are to treat the child as there own so why shouldnt they be called the same. I dont think its right for a parent to teach a child to hate someone new in their lives just because we dont like them. I'm not a step-parent but I am the child of one and honestly I think its in the childs best intrest to see the step-parent in their lives as a real parent. Its okay to call more then one person mom or dad. It just makes them feel twice as loves as other kids instead of feeling like their parents hate each other. Sometimes that makes a kid feel unloved because they are forced to hold a grudge even if they dont want to.