how to cope...long.... :(

Well, my husbands grandfather died... 
this morning... 

He just had surgery for a pacemaker.
cuz his heart sometimes would skip a beat..
& was transfered to maybe start dialisis..
{his kidneys were failing...}

well, I'm due this month to have our daughter.
& hubby was wicked close to his grandpa.
& I grew a relationship w/him & love him too.
he even gave his house to us cuz he had to live with my in laws.
& knew we needed a place for that would be good for the baby.

hubby's fear was he wasnt gonna be able to see our daughter...
well, it's true now & I dunno  
& I has hit me but not..cuz I saw him yesterday & alive.

& he was doing soo good.
he was even saying he wanted to go home
cuz this summer he wanted to have a picture of his two great grandchildren.
{hubby's sister is due in June.}
I know he is with god & with his 3 wives.
{no worries his first wife died young- had diebetes,
second wife died too & his true love wife died 8 years ago from a stroke.}

I'm not very good on death..
I was just wondering how you cope with a loved one dying &
your gonna bring life into this world?!
just anything would help right now...
thanks...   

although ive lost people never have i when pregnant unless you can count a cat in that...

i also dont cope well at all with Death i cant imagine what you are going through ...

main reason for this reply is to say i am so so so sorry just be there for your husband and you guys will get through this sad time.. will be thinking of you and your family

I'm sorry. I know its hard. I lost my very fantastic grandmother last April. It was really hard on my family and me. My mom had entered a slump that I thought she would never shake. Well 5 months later I was preggers and when I told her it brought her out of her depression. I feel as though God does these things for us (aka a new life) to keep us going and to bring us joy that has or had been destroyed by a daeth. I feel as though I got pregnant when I did to give everyone in my family joy again. Once again I am so sorry and what I continue to tell myself is "My nana no longer suffers it is ours to bear now and I can move forward knowing she is not hurting" Good luck to your family.

Quoting malibucaz:“ although ive lost people never have i when pregnant unless you can count a cat in that... i also dont ... [snip!] ... so sorry just be there for your husband and you guys will get through this sad time.. will be thinking of you and your family”

thank you..
it helps a lot.
sorry about your cat.
pets are family two.
i got 2 cats & a dog.
I'd be just as sad if anything happened to them..
thanks again.

Quoting Molly K:“ I'm sorry. I know its hard. I lost my very fantastic grandmother last April. It was really hard on my ... [snip!] ... "My nana no longer suffers it is ours to bear now and I can move forward knowing she is not hurting" Good luck to your family.”

thank you for understanding...
true god does know the plans he has for everyone...
I'm trying to stay postive for my husband & our daughter in womb.
I just wish I had her already.
I'm sorry about your grandmother.
thanks again...means a lot.

Quoting karin♥'s {dustin}:“ thank you for understanding... true god does know the plans he has for everyone... I'm trying to stay ... [snip!] ... & our daughter in womb. I just wish I had her already. I'm sorry about your grandmother. thanks again...means a lot.”

This is way off subject but you favor my sis in law. She is due April 24th I think. *lol*

Quoting Molly K:“ This is way off subject but you favor my sis in law. She is due April 24th I think. *lol*”

wow, that's werid cuz my SIL is due June 3rd as well.
kinda creepy.
& your SIL is due april 24 & I'm the 20th.
haha, too funny.

My mom passed away thursday morning from ovarian cancer. I'm due August 31st with her first grandchild that she was so excited about. The best advice I have heard is that my son has a guardian angel that we know will do their best to protect him.

Quoting CaraCruz:“ My mom passed away thursday morning from ovarian cancer. I'm due August 31st with her first grandchild ... [snip!] ... excited about. The best advice I have heard is that my son has a guardian angel that we know will do their best to protect him.”

i'm sorry for your loss.
thank you.
it helps.
I keep telling myself that.
We {SIL & I} both have an guardian angel to protect our babies.

i know its not the same but the other girl in my department lost her son(he was the youngest at 17) in a freak gun accident in november and it was rough on her and her family and on me cause i know all of her kids. The month before that her daughter had a miscarriage so she was gone from work for a lil bit. When she came back she wasnt the same but when i found out that i was pregnant in january and told her, she slowly became her old self. Then about two weeks later her daughter found out she was pregnant again so now my co-worker is back to normal knowing that grandbaby number 2 is on the way plus my baby. Shes back to her old self but she still has her bad days but when she does i just remind her that hes in heaven being happy watching over everyone.

Quoting ~*Mrs.Kassuba*~:“ i know its not the same but the other girl in my department lost her son(he was the youngest at 17) in ... [snip!] ... self but she still has her bad days but when she does i just remind her that hes in heaven being happy watching over everyone.”

thank you.
it helps.
it is similar no worries.
well, god has a plan for all of us & I just have to remind myself that.
& now his great granddaughters will have an angel to look over them.
I'm sorry for your loss.
but it will make us stronger & better ppl.
this is how we learn.
even tho I wanna be selfish & wish he could have stayed longer.
but I know he still be there for her birth...  
& all the memories are good too.
thanks again! it's helping to hear from other ppl as well.

I saw this late..
But here is my advice/story...

My grandfather died in may of last year, we spread his ashes at a family gathering in July.. I saw him for the last time 2 weeks before he passed on. Well, his memorial service was the hardest experience of my life and i said that day sitting by the beaver pond at the bench he used to write at, That my grandfathers memory would always live on in my heart and i vowed to myself that when i had children even though he would never know them and they he that i would do my best to help them know who he was. I got pregnant the next week in july.. and found out on his birthday in august that i was going to have a baby.. If kadence had been a boy she would have been named for him, but instead she is being given his mothers name for a middle name and we plan on doing her baptism in the church his father preached at in boston. Losing somone u are close to is terrible.. i know..

But i think that the loved ones souls never truly leave us.. and your daughter will know her grandfather, even if they never truly met.. Take her to his grave with her cousin so he can see them together like he wanted.. And leave him a picture because that is what he wanted so badley