re: Loss?

Quoting Tara: Beautiful Momma:“ I don't think that's out there at all. My goal right now is to loose almost 20 by the end of May (don't think it's going to happen but that's my goal, lol)”

lol Well, I've never actually set goals for myself as far as weight loss goes. I was happy with a few pounds here and there. But now that I am finished having children (at least for awhile...I am always changing my mind lol) I am done with being fat. I want to look and feel good. Just eating healthier has given me a lot more energy, so I think it's helped. I don't think I've ever kept my house as clean, either lol It's my form of exercise because I don't have a gym membership yet, so I am constantly finding things I need to get done just to burn away calories.

And I would LOVE to find myself 20 pounds lighter by the end of May lol If I'm lucky it'll happen lol

Quoting *Wicked Mama*:“ lol Well, I've never actually set goals for myself as far as weight loss goes. I was happy with a few ... [snip!] ... to burn away calories. And I would LOVE to find myself 20 pounds lighter by the end of May lol If I'm lucky it'll happen lol”

I set small goals so that when I reach them I feel motivated to do more. My "real" goal is to drop 10 lbs by the end of May, but my "super" goal is 20 if that made sense, lol.

I understand what you mean about feeling better. My major problem is I've always ate healthy and exercised (moderatly) so now that I want to loose weight it just seems alot harder to do than before. I dropped almost 60lbs before I had Will then gained ALL of it back during pregnancy (damn bedrest)! I'm now about 20lbs away from my pp weight and 30lbs away from my "goal" weight. So, we'll see.

I just really like having all the extra energy that comes from being active. I was so inactive for so long after having Will that it's a bit hard to get back into the routine but I think I'm doing pretty well   .

Quoting Tara: Beautiful Momma:“ I set small goals so that when I reach them I feel motivated to do more. My "real" goal is to drop 10 ... [snip!] ... inactive for so long after having Will that it's a bit hard to get back into the routine but I think I'm doing pretty well   .”

I know EXACTLY what you mean. After being down for almost 20 weeks, I've found it hard to get up the energy to do much of anything. I am feeling myself getting into a decent routine and doing more things, but it's been difficult. I'm surprised I didn't gai na ton on bedrest, but between the insulin and diabetes diet, I don't think it was possible to gain anything at all.

The biggest goalds are so hard to reach that I have set a path for myself. My golas are to lose about 20 pounds every three months. I think I can manage that.

Quoting *Wicked Mama*:“ I know EXACTLY what you mean. After being down for almost 20 weeks, I've found it hard to get up the ... [snip!] ... to reach that I have set a path for myself. My golas are to lose about 20 pounds every three months. I think I can manage that.”

Sounds good to me, lol.

Since I'm enrolled at a college I was able to sign up for a class at the fitness lab that requires me to be in there at least 2 hours a week or fail the class. That's been my biggest motivator and much much cheaper than a gym membership. After I'm done with school, though, the hosptial has a wellness center and gym and you can apply for scholorships to take the classes so I think I'm going to do that to keep myself on track.

I know I'll never be skinny minny, and I really don't want to. But I do like feeling healthy  

Quoting Tara: Beautiful Momma:“ Sounds good to me, lol. Since I'm enrolled at a college I was able to sign up for a class at the ... [snip!] ... to keep myself on track. I know I'll never be skinny minny, and I really don't want to. But I do like feeling healthy  ”

Exactly. It's just not my body style to be a skinny girl. I will always be a bit thicker through the hips and, unfortunately, through the arms. I have big thighs, I have a big ass, and I am perfectly okay with that. In fact, my biggest issue is my arms. Truthfully, if they weren't so big, I wouldn't look as big as I do. Iw as blessed with a small waist for being a big girl. But I don't know what to do about them :-\ I feel discouraged because I was told once they get big like this there really isn't any toning them :-(

Quoting *Wicked Mama*:“ Exactly. It's just not my body style to be a skinny girl. I will always be a bit thicker through the ... [snip!] ... to do about them :-\ I feel discouraged because I was told once they get big like this there really isn't any toning them :-(”

I honestly don't know about all that. My biggest issue for me is the double chins. I've always had them no matter how tiny I was...

Quoting Tara: Beautiful Momma:“ I honestly don't know about all that. My biggest issue for me is the double chins. I've always had them no matter how tiny I was...”

I've always had somewhat of a double chin, even when thin, and my cheeks have always been really pudgy. I have better pictures than my avi to show that. I have a very round, "baby doll" face as it's been described a million times. I have no hope of really losing any of the face pudge.

However, before I got pregnant with my daughter I was 251 pounds. After I had her I was 235 (GD diet...gotta love it) and the difference in my face really surprised me. We had taken pictures two months before I got pregnant with her. A year later, when she was three months old, we did family pictures again. I matched the pictures up of the ones of me and I was just floored. I looked HUGE. The pictures from the year before were so bad my husband was ASHAMED to show them to people :-\ He never SAID that, but I took a hint when he said he didn't need the pictures of him and me :-( He wasn't trying to be mean, I think he was just afraid of people really passing serious judgment.

So, the face pudge does go away to an extent, But I know what you mean about being thin and still having it. It's always been my problem, too.

Quoting *Wicked Mama*:“ I've always had somewhat of a double chin, even when thin, and my cheeks have always been really pudgy. ... [snip!] ... does go away to an extent, But I know what you mean about being thin and still having it. It's always been my problem, too.”

I know what you mean about telling the difference in pictures. I didn't even realize I was "big" untill I got my wedding photos back 3 years ago and I just about had a cow. Well, I was a cow, lol. That's what got me motivated to loose weight in the first place, I looked horrible in my wedding pics.

Quoting Tara: Beautiful Momma:“ I know what you mean about telling the difference in pictures. I didn't even realize I was "big" untill ... [snip!] ... Well, I was a cow, lol. That's what got me motivated to loose weight in the first place, I looked horrible in my wedding pics.”

I always knew I was big, but seeing those family photos was my own eye opener. And if it had been me and I felt my wedding photos looked awful, I'd redo them after I lost weight lol It's like until you see yourself in pictures you make excuses and tell yourself "it's not that bad." In reality, it IS that bad!!! I can't believe I made excuses for so long.

But it wasn't until about 2-3 years ago I even started caring, really caring, about what I looked like. I was like one of those people you see on What Not to Wear lol I gave little thought to what I wore or how my hair looked. I had never even worn make up unless it was some special occassion and even then that was rare.

I decided I'm tired of looking frumpy. I wanted to look hot. And while I feel I am a decent looking big girl...I want to be a hot thin/thicker girl lol

Quoting *Wicked Mama*:“ I always knew I was big, but seeing those family photos was my own eye opener. And if it had been ... [snip!] ... frumpy. I wanted to look hot. And while I feel I am a decent looking big girl...I want to be a hot thin/thicker girl lol”

He he, I've honestly thought about re-newing our wedding vows after I lost weight just because I looke awful for our wedding! I really couldn't believe I had let myself go like that.

I still don't really care about my "appearance". I wear little make up and I know I'm frumpy at times. I just figure if my clothes are clean and fit and I have my hair looking decent I'm presentable. Otherwise, I don't care and I never have.

Quoting Tara: Beautiful Momma:“ He he, I've honestly thought about re-newing our wedding vows after I lost weight just because I looke ... [snip!] ... if my clothes are clean and fit and I have my hair looking decent I'm presentable. Otherwise, I don't care and I never have.”

I never did, either. Then I looked in the mirror one day and hated what I saw so much. I started straightening my hair and wearing more flattering clothing. I felt good enough about myself to WANT to lose weight.