Quoting BG Secrets:" Usually when my LO is taking a nap im cleaning or cooking. I feel like a wife from the old days this ... [snip!] ... he was 6 months old. and we went out and spent over $150 in baby gates and my LO has mastered the art of climbing over them."
honestly, if hes only working 3 days a week, he needs to get off his ass and be an adult, and a parent, and a partner.
Besides that though- when you talk to him, maybe offer an option? Like "I need help with the house, and the baby. Which would be easiest for you?"
I know that sounds weird, but heres why:
My hubs LOVES his child, a million billion times over. But multitasking is not his thing, at all, and sometimes initiative isnt his thing either. So if I tell him I need help with the house, its easier for him, because those are really clear-cut things: he always does the trash, the dishes, a lot of vacuuming, the gardens, and walking the dogs.
That frees me up to not have to deal, so I can get some down time when Addison is asleep.....
And with her, he always does bath time. Its a clear cut "thing that needs to be done", that hes willing to do, and frees up time for me as well- I know that every night, I have about 30 minutes to clean up after dinner, or whatever, so once she goes to bed, I dont have to do it.
That was long winded, but you get my point? It seems to help to give him specifics. Hes more than happy to be involved, if hes knows exactly what needs to be done. But "i need help with the house/baby" doesnt get me far, because hes willing, but not sure what that specifically entails.
RE: monkey kid-
Hes right on the edge of really understanding things, and knowing how to respond. I think if you can get some time "off" from dealing with it, youll find it doesnt bother you as much when it does happen because youre not so stressed and tired.
And then, do you put him in time out? At 18mo, he could be in time out for a minute, minute and a half. If every time he climbed over a gate, he was put in time out- you would have one really smurffy day of LOTS of time outs, when you first start, but pretty quickly he would probably learn its not worth it to climb.