Worried about miscarriage

The last time my husband and I were pregnant, it ended in miscarriage at 9 weeks. We waited about a year and then decided we were ready to try again. I am still very early...5 weeks now!   But I find thatall I can think about is miscarrying again. There are a few people that know I'm prego, and every time we get down to talking about baby this, baby that, I alwaysend up adding something along the lines of "if I make it that far this time."
I hate to be so negative about it, and am the happiest person in the world to be pregnant, but am so worried about another sad ending, that it's driving me crazy.
Today, in particular, I'm going nuts because I feel better than lately. I suppose I should be happy that I feel fine, but it worries me to not have symptoms. Am I over worrying myself?

I know exactly how you feel. I had a miscarriage five years ago, and I felt like I was sabataging (sp) this pregnancy with my negatgive thoughts. Try to be optomistic. I try now not to think about my previous loss, because Ill just drive myself insane. I wish you the best. And lots of baby sticking dust.

Stress is a big cause of miscarriages. I know it'll be hard but you need to keep your mind off of it as best as possible. Go do something that'll keep your mind off of stressing. And just try and relax as best as you can. Have faith that everything will work out.

Quoting Mrs. Keeling:“ The last time my husband and I were pregnant, it ended in miscarriage at 9 weeks. We waited about a year ... [snip!] ... than lately. I suppose I should be happy that I feel fine, but it worries me to not have symptoms. Am I over worrying myself?”

I did the same thing your doing. You try not to get your hopes up because you know how bad it hurt last time. I'm now twenty nine weeks pregnant with a healthy baby girl. I don't think there is a way to stop worryinguntil you get into your second trimester. That's when everything cooled down for me. Just try to remember that just because you had a miscarraige with your first pregnancy doesn't automatically mean you and your baby are doomed. Have faith! Your going to be looking back when your seven months along saying "Omg I can't believe I was soooo worried." Good luck!!

Quoting Mrs. Keeling:“ The last time my husband and I were pregnant, it ended in miscarriage at 9 weeks. We waited about a year ... [snip!] ... than lately. I suppose I should be happy that I feel fine, but it worries me to not have symptoms. Am I over worrying myself?”

I have had two miscarriages myself, so I understand your fears. I was actually just talking to my doctor Last week about what would happen should I go into labor early because although I am past the miscarriage stage, I am still very nervous about carrying to term. So miscarriages can do that to you. Try not to worry too much. I found out I was pregnant at 5 weeks 6 days, and what i did to try and keep my fears to a minimum is come to this site and chat with other women, and also read my pregnancy calender updates the site provides. I also talked about it with other girls too you know? It helps when someone has gone through what you have and a lot of the women here are very comforting and encouraging even if they've never experienced what you have. Your fear is going to always be there. I'm almost 22 weeks and am STILL fearful. When I got past the miscarriage stage (and the pregnancy calender here tells you when that it) I was sooo estatic but then I started worry about going into labor early, like I mentioned above.

Sorry so long. I just wanted to try and give you a few things that helped me out. Try to talk about your baby as if nothing has every happened before now. Stay prayerful and try to remain positive and enjoy evety bit of being pregnant! And before you know it, you're little one will be here!

its normal to feel that way but dont let it get to you. i used to have dreams about having another miscarriage with this one. i am now 7 months along and everything is going great. i still worry but i have faith everything will work out for the best

Sorry to hear about your loss with the miscarriage. I wish nothing but the best for you and this baby. I think its normal for you to worry about what could happen. I know I still worry even though I'm almost in my 7th month. I just think its our Motherly natures. Just don't worry to much just relax and just because you don't have symptoms now doesn't mean you won't pretty soon trust me  . Also I haven't thrown up once and some don't I just felt really nauseated so we don't all get it! Lots and lots of sticky babe dust to you. Take it easy and just enjoy not being sick right now.

Thanks for the reassurance everyone! I don't think I'm stressing myself completely to the point of CAUSING miscarriage, but part of me is being completely pessimistic. What I've done, to try to take away some of the negativity, is start a baby cross stitch pattern. I figured working on something that would be for the baby, would make me feel more positive about it less worried. Like if I treated the pregnancy as if there weren't going to be a problem, then there wouldn't be one.
My hubby's been very supportive as well. Always talking about the baby, and how we're going to change things around the house and being protective. That makes me feel good as well.

Quoting Mrs. Keeling:“ Thanks for the reassurance everyone! I don't think I'm stressing myself completely to the point of CAUSING ... [snip!] ... about the baby, and how we're going to change things around the house and being protective. That makes me feel good as well.”

I feel you. It's nice to have a supportive husband. Mine is the same way. He just tries so hard to keep me happy and my spirits up. That has been a huge help to me.