Should I feel bad? (sorry about the length)

Ok. My hubby and I have been together since Sept 22, 1999. We just got married on September 22, 2007. Yes, our 8 year anniversary. We have a 7 year old son and we are expecting a baby girl.

With my son - that pregnancy was fine. I was not violent, had no violent feelings towards anyone or anything like that. Never even got jealous.

With my daughter. Wow! I get violent and jealous. Not over every chick that talks to my husband, just one. She grabs his butt, makes sexual comments towards him and flirts with him ALL the dang time.

Keep in mind he is a bartender and heck, I knew he was a flirt when I got with him. It never bothered me before. But now, as I said it does.

She is a co-worker of his and I can't stand her. I know there is no way he would cheat on me. I trust him. I just don't trust her. She wants to get him drunk. He quit drinking.

Now, I have mentioned this to him and he said that she does not want him in that way. That she is like that with all the guys. But I only notice her being like that with him. Trust me, I observed her with other guys. Single, Married and Involved. But then some of her comments got me wanting to bash her head off the bar.

For example:
He asked her if she g ot the $2 tip he left her. She nodded and then said 'If you want to give me more of a tip we can go in the back' - Mind you I am sitting right there.

Earlier she mentioned a vistor to her friend, but then mentioned that he had extra baggage with him. When I looked at her she shut up and went to another area of the bar. I told my husband that and he said that there is no way she can think of him in that way when he just thinks of her as a sister. At this point I remind him of how I trust him and not her. He got quiet and did not talk to me for about 2 hours.

Here is the violent part. I woke up during my fourth month. It was about 5 am. I look over at my husband and smile because i love him so much. Then out of no where I get the urge to bash him over the head with the alarm clock, then yell at him for bleeding on my bed AND finish it all off by smothering him with a pillow. NOW instead of doing all of that, I slipped out of bed and went downstairs to the couch. I told him about it and he did not sleep for 3 weeks. Go figure.  

Quoting Cynamon:“ Ok. My hubby and I have been together since Sept 22, 1999. We just got married on September 22, 2007. ... [snip!] ... I slipped out of bed and went downstairs to the couch. I told him about it and he did not sleep for 3 weeks. Go figure.  ”

"Here is the violent part. I woke up during my fourth month. It was about 5 am. I look over at my husband and smile because i love him so much. Then out of no where I get the urge to bash him over the head with the alarm clock, then yell at him for bleeding on my bed AND finish it all off by smothering him with a pillow. NOW instead of doing all of that, I slipped out of bed and went downstairs to the couch. I told him about it and he did not sleep for 3 weeks. Go figure."

Oh my God. Are you kidding? I was totally siding with you up until that point. That's just psychotic!

lol...that's a little extreme, yes. if you trust him enough to know that he would never cheat on you, then the other girl really doesn't matter...but omg!!! she shouldn't be grabbing his ass or saying things like that to him, at all, whether you're there or not. i would soooooooo want to kick her ass, and his, too, for not listening to me and making her stop what she's doing, bc he knows that it bothers you.

Uh so was I lmao. Wow. I would hate that chick, srsly it sounds horribly inappropriate. And no wonder he didn't sleep well for three weeks. I would most def not tell my hubby if I had a feeling like that...wow he already thinks I'm insane (incident that happened two years ago long story) he'd move out lmao if I told him some stuff like that. But yeah it sounds like you're totally justified about teh chick tho

I can't reall side with the bashing him in the head part... You might seriosuly talk to your Dr about that... However, I MAY have bashed my hubby in the head for letting another woman touch his arse and speaking like that to him... Hell,I WOULD have bashed her. So, I would just tell him that I don't care how sisterly he thinks she is he needs to tell her to stop. NOW. As for random psychotic urges to cause him bodily injury, seriously, talk to your Dr.

Quoting karla.:“ "Here is the violent part. I woke up during my fourth month. It was about 5 am. I look over at my husband ... [snip!] ... for 3 weeks. Go figure." Oh my God. Are you kidding? I was totally siding with you up until that point. That's just psychotic!”

LMAO!!

ask your ob dr. you know i would be pissed about the girl but the alarm clock thing would scare me too. i could nt sleep next to ya after that.

WHOA  If I were him, not only would I not sleep for 3 weeks, I would move out, & join the witness protection program. Seriously.

Quoting Ladee:“ Uh so was I lmao. Wow. I would hate that chick, srsly it sounds horribly inappropriate. And no wonder ... [snip!] ... he'd move out lmao if I told him some stuff like that. But yeah it sounds like you're totally justified about teh chick tho”

LOL I don't think I would tell mine either... I am already too often reffered to as the "Psycho bitch wife" (In a loving way, of course LMAO)

if i was you i would be keeping up on his cell phone calls and texts and phone records.... if he didnt alk to you for 2 hours after saying that then there is something wrong... and i understand how you feel... i have felt that way but over a different matter. i had my surgery and i blamed him for it and i got so mad that i couldnt help myself either... but never did anything or said anything... haha i though it was funny but your married now things are going to bug you a little more

Quoting LoraChristine:“ WHOA  If I were him, not only would I not sleep for 3 weeks, I would move out, & join the witness protection program. Seriously.”

Hahaha.. no kidding! Seriously though, that's just.. I don't know. I think I would definitely be afraid if I were him..

Quoting karla.:“ Hahaha.. no kidding! Seriously though, that's just.. I don't know. I think I would definitely be afraif if I were him..”

I wonder if you can join the witness protection program if you didn't witness anything  Perhaps he should join the "i'm hiding from my pregnant wife" protection program...

Quoting LoraChristine:“ I wonder if you can join the witness protection program if you didn't witness anything  Perhaps he should join the "i'm hiding from my pregnant wife" protection program...”

Hahahahaha.. oh man, hilarious! I'm sure TONS of men would be in that program. And the OP's husband would probably be president.

Quoting karla.:“ Hahahahaha.. oh man, hilarious! I'm sure TONS of men would be in that program. And the OP's husband would probably be president.”

LMAO. I'm sure tons of men are already in that program, it's just not official yet. Poor man though, all he wanted to do was sleep 

When i was pregnant, my fiance made me SOOO MAD.
i dont remmeber what about though.
but, i was still mad at like 4 in the morning.
So, i smacked him real hard, and he woke up,
I pretended to be asleep and acted like It was an accident, hah.


I was pretty violent, as well. lol