Ex-Factor

Oh My God i'm so frustrated.

so basically my boyfriend..well ex boyfriend has this stupid ass ex who just keeps pestering him. it did stop for a while (because he got a new number)until this morning i hear the phone ringing (see he had it on silent but something told me to put it on loud so i did) so i ask, who's calling this early and he says 'o its the alarm on my clock' okay--whatever like im an asshole. so i wait about an hour and then i confront him like ' how r u just gonna lie to me like that ur a fucking liar' so then he says 'ok baby i was lying it's (his ex) and i knew u would get mad but my cousin gave her my number and i never answer when she calls!' now mind u ever since he got thatnew fucking phone (excuse my language i am highly upset) we've had a problem because he acts like hes terrified for me to go through it and even has a 4 digit code on it now to check calls (he claims his cousin did it and told me the number only after we got into the arguement) so i ended with him, i told him to get his shit and leave and that i was done with him. but i dont know if i over reacted...i mean yeah he did lie and nothing pisses me off worse than a liar and i do think that he could get that girl not to call if he really wanted but over all he really isnt that bad and i've never had anything like this happen with him until now...i just dont know. i know i at least need some time to clear my head though---this shit sucks im so hurt b/c this is an ex that he once loved and this makes me feel like i dont matter or something

Kicking him out is probably a bit extreme. Especially if he has never done anything like that before. Just keep the lines of communication open and make sure everybody is on the same page. Tell him how you feel about having the EX stop calling you. Especially if he "doesnt answer the phone when she calls" I can usually tell if my guy is lying but we're very honest with each other. He definately deserves a chance to prove your instincts right or wrong.

yeah, i'm starting to think it may have been a bit much, but we are sooo possessive over each other that it is crazy. and he's 20 times worse than me! i know that isn't the healthiest relationship to have but i donno it's just that im sooo tired of that heffer andwe NEVER lie to each other so this is pretty serious to me i
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o and i did let the cousin have an earful of what i was feeling. and he wont let me 30 feet around that girl because he knows how i am and i cant be fighting at 31 weeks  

I think kicking him out was a little extreme. Personally, I would take all my anger and frustration out on the chick that keeps calling or the cousin that gave her his phone number, not the man that you love.

to be honest, Im stuck in the middle, i do a gree that it was a little of the line to kick him out. but at the same time thats what happened w/me and my baby daddy. HE changed as soon as i got preggo and would deny all this shit. till the end i found out he lied like a mofo, and cheated on me. with like fucken 3 gurls...and before that he was never like that throughout the 2 years we were together. he wouldnt even go out. next thing you know he was stuck on myspace, going out clubbing , and smoking and meeting up with lil gurls he meet online...... but like i said im in he middle, things might not turn out like in my situation... talk to him 1st, you know him.. and thnk if its all worth it.

Quoting ThePillDoesntWork4me:“ yeah, i'm starting to think it may have been a bit much, but we are sooo possessive over each other that ... [snip!] ... what i was feeling. and he wont let me 30 feet around that girl because he knows how i am and i cant be fighting at 31 weeks  ”

we were also very possesive.... when we argued he would come to my house at night, and take shit out the car*motor* so i couldnt go anywhere, or if i left he would walk to my house and wait till i get home.....scary..lol.. 

Quoting Jaylani is here! 3/14:“ we were also very possesive.... when we argued he would come to my house at night, and take shit out ... [snip!] ... the car*motor* so i couldnt go anywhere, or if i left he would walk to my house and wait till i get home.....scary..lol.. ”

lol yeah, same exact situation here..he does shit to prevent me from leaving, and its like okay its my car but he does pay for tune ups and change the oil and he just got a new battery so he'll use all that against me when we get into it (which is y im at my moms right now lol) its really not funny its psychotic i know. but yeah he is changing, he's smoking weed again--stayed out clubbing til 630 this morning. i just wanna nip the shit in the bud and let him know i will not stand for this craziness

Quoting ThePillDoesntWork4me:“ lol yeah, same exact situation here..he does shit to prevent me from leaving, and its like okay its ... [snip!] ... out clubbing til 630 this morning. i just wanna nip the shit in the bud and let him know i will not stand for this craziness”

yea.. tell me about it... i basically didnt have a life, and since his punk ass loves to walk, and knows how to get into eny freekn car... it was crazy... lol.but at the same time when he stoped it was awkward..hehehe.. like i said he wouldnt even have a myspace, next thing u know he was on that shit all fucken day... i was told it was cuz they get scared whenresposiblity starts kicking in.. they just want to run and hide..hes loked up now... *things got physical in the confrontation....and like i said we're crazy,* his punishment for cheating was..he got locked up! but now he seems to get thepoint.when you show them that you sont need them.. thats when they want to come back, cuz the more you get mad and cry, only makes them feel like they acn be a better jerk...

I can't relate AT ALL. We love each other to death but we are not possesive AT ALL. It seems like those are dumb games and would prefer to not have that drama in our lives. I don't judge people who choose to stay in relationships lives but I just dont have it in me to live that way. I'm WAYY to independent and he's just not havin it so it works out both ways.

Quoting BabyHuggs08:“ I can't relate AT ALL. We love each other to death but we are not possesive AT ALL. It seems like those ... [snip!] ... but I just dont have it in me to live that way. I'm WAYY to independent and he's just not havin it so it works out both ways.”

..seems like it would be me talking , way back//// dont get me wrong im on my own now n independent. i do things my way. i think the reason i actually stayed was cuz i liked the attention. after beng on my own for so long, then stupid me fell into a deep depression.. anyhow, i was able to get out of it, and im back to old me.. doing what i gotta do for me and my son... im glad things are good for.. congrats!

anyway he came back and apologized and so did i. usually i'm not that irrational but hey, i am 8 months pregnant lol but he understands that. yeah we're crazy in love (and just plain crazy) but in someodd way it works for us

Quoting ThePillDoesntWork4me:“ anyway he came back and apologized and so did i. usually i'm not that irrational but hey, i am 8 months ... [snip!] ... months pregnant lol but he understands that. yeah we're crazy in love (and just plain crazy) but in someodd way it works for us”

Well I'm glad. You just need to remember that you guys are in this together and you need each other to make your relationship strong and last long.

Hey I just read all of this and I'm glad you guys worked it out! But I just wanted to tell you.....People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. Very powerful words to live by in my opinion!

Quoting ThePillDoesntWork4me:“ anyway he came back and apologized and so did i. usually i'm not that irrational but hey, i am 8 months ... [snip!] ... months pregnant lol but he understands that. yeah we're crazy in love (and just plain crazy) but in someodd way it works for us”

i figured u would! congrats!! take care!! good luck!@