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I come on here most every day...and I see just how positive y'all stay (especially MM and 2Happy, just off the top of my head). I had an unplanned pregnancy end at the beginning of January, and I can't get over it. I grew up just wanting to be a mom and for some reason felt I could never have children. When I found out I was pregnant I was so happy (and eventually my live in boyfriend was too). But he was more "practical". See the picture I have posted is of me, him, and his son from a previous marriage. My boyfriend realizes he has child support and blah blah blah... but I want to get married and start a family. I know now it will be at least 6 months before we start trying and I am devastated! I want MY baby so bad. I get so upset seeing children still, and talking about the pregnancy...no one in my family understands. They all think I should be over it by now! I feel like I am back to square one, I think I can't have a baby again...I just get so depressed. It is so frustrating. I am sorry, I just need someone to talk to right now. Thank you for reading this  

Thank you for thinking I'm positive. I have my days. Some days I feel like poop, and I have a small pitty party, it's just a party of one, but I cry and I over think everything. Then I have days where I understand that things happen for a reason. I can't control everything. As a person who feel best when I can control things, being pregnant and doing all that I can to have a healthy pregnancy only to end up loosing it later was very hard on me, for more than one reason. OHH that was a tuff lesson to learn. To be honest, I"m still learning. It's a day by day thing, sometimes it's a min by min kinda of thing. I'm not sure of what faith you might have, but you need to believe in something. I'm not going to go into the preaching, (I'd like to, but this isn't the site to do it) but believe in something. Believe that things will come our way. I think our lifes were maped out before we were even born, and the child we lost or may loose in the future were all planned. Keep your head up and your heart open, or you might miss something great. Hugs from me to you!

For me it is my son and husband. Everyday we just laugh and it is so wonderful to know at the end of the day I have been blessed with a child wether it is my last or not that I carry and I have been blessed with the most amazing husband and he is also my best friend. He goes with watever bullets are thrown are way and it has made this so much easier for me. I know one day more children will come in our lives it just a matter of when and how. I also beleive in the lord and know his plan is his plan and all I can do is live it as best as possible and think of all the blessings I do have. It is going to take time but things will get better that I can promise you  

Thanks guys! I almost cried just reading the sweet and uplifting things you wrote   I do believe in God, but I feel like at this time my faith is truely being tested. I want to stop thinking..."right now I would be finding out the sex of my baby", and other things that I can't help but think about all the time! I can only hope time will make things easier, plus we have each other to lean on. Thank you ladies, y'all are so sweet

I know things like this really do test your faith but also make you a stronger person. I used to think the same thing this is when my baby would be due and so on and now I look to the future and I look ahead at all the other stuff in my life that I can be excited about so I dont let it consume me ya know. Plus the ladies up here are great and talking to people who have been through it and are now preggos or having children or even just trying again helps so much.

AWEEE Honey.
I know your hurting right now, But like I have told myself, and I have told a lot of the other ladies who have miscarried that your precious child was picked out just for you, and even fopr just a few weeks your baby knew you and knew how much you loved them, and just think they are on the lap of Jesus telling them when they want you to have another baby.
It most def will happen soon, and in God perfect timing! I am so sorry for your loss, but without losses how would we help eachother, and how would be be stronger. I am praying for you!

it definitely is HARD staying positive and maintaining faith .. but other than becoming mired in the depths of despair, what else can we do? keep taking steps forward, not back, and i am naturally an optimistic person although this has been seriously tested at times. the memories of our lost pregnances will always remain with us, and we have each other. all of us are in the same boat, sharing each others joys and sorrows. hopefully within the next few months all of us will have JOYFUL news!!!  

MMforver2708 wrote: AWEEE Honey.
I know your hurting right now, But like I have told myself, and I have told a lot of the other ladies who have miscarried that your precious child was picked out just for you, and even fopr just a few weeks your baby knew you and knew how much you loved them, and just think they are on the lap of Jesus telling them when they want you to have another baby.
It most def will happen soon, and in God perfect timing! I am so sorry for your loss, but without losses how would we help eachother, and how would be be stronger. I am praying for you!

Oh my gosh I am bawling after reading this. I bet that is completely true, Melissa..

Although what I have been through cannot compare to some of you ladies, I have the same kind of days...I was actually going to post a VERY similar post right after I read this..that was kind of ironic. Some days I am so positive and strong, and others I feel like I am losing this trecherous battle that breaks my heart. Today I almost lost it and started singing hymns in my head that I hadn't thought of too much since I was young...about how God blesses us so much..and He really does. After I'm over my little pity-parties, I feel guilty about having them because I have so much to be thankful for. My husband and I have been through more than I can talk about, and we got through it when the ods were against us. Did you know that if you have a roof over your head and extra change you can put in a jar/dish by your bed, you are in the top 8% welathiest people in the entire world? It's amazing. And when I get impatient about our baby coming I just look to God and thank him. I don't often whine and cry to Him, because he deserves so much thanks...we have so much more than any of us deserve. One day he will give us our children, ladies, and it will be our constant reminder of how awesome God really is. Let's keep our heads up, lean on each other, and keep our eyes on Him. Today is not a good 'n strong day for me, but I know it's just not our time yet, but it will be before we know it.

tmarsh06 wrote:

MMforver2708 wrote: AWEEE Honey.
I know your hurting right now, But like I have told myself, and I have told a lot of the other ladies who have miscarried that your precious child was picked out just for you, and even fopr just a few weeks your baby knew you and knew how much you loved them, and just think they are on the lap of Jesus telling them when they want you to have another baby.
It most def will happen soon, and in God perfect timing! I am so sorry for your loss, but without losses how would we help eachother, and how would be be stronger. I am praying for you!

Oh my gosh I am bawling after reading this. I bet that is completely true, Melissa..

Although what I have been through cannot compare to some of you ladies, I have the same kind of days...I was actually going to post a VERY similar post right after I read this..that was kind of ironic. Some days I am so positive and strong, and others I feel like I am losing this trecherous battle that breaks my heart. Today I almost lost it and started singing hymns in my head that I hadn't thought of too much since I was young...about how God blesses us so much..and He really does. After I'm over my little pity-parties, I feel guilty about having them because I have so much to be thankful for. My husband and I have been through more than I can talk about, and we got through it when the ods were against us. Did you know that if you have a roof over your head and extra change you can put in a jar/dish by your bed, you are in the top 8% welathiest people in the entire world? It's amazing. And when I get impatient about our baby coming I just look to God and thank him. I don't often whine and cry to Him, because he deserves so much thanks...we have so much more than any of us deserve. One day he will give us our children, ladies, and it will be our constant reminder of how awesome God really is. Let's keep our heads up, lean on each other, and keep our eyes on Him. Today is not a good 'n strong day for me, but I know it's just not our time yet, but it will be before we know it.

Wonderfuly said, now I"m crying!!!!

chin up and smile, thats how u do it an of course friends in this site. your time will come same as the rest if us.

I think I am a day late on my period...I don't know though! I haven't been keeping track since we have been "careful" and not trying. I have my first followup on Friday since my miscarriage at the beg. on January (I have rescheduled many times). Does anyone know if they test you at every appointment to see if you are pregnant (when they take a urine sample)? I am not getting my hopes up or anything like that, just a little bit curious. Sometimes I think I am having light period cramps, and other times it feels like little tingling feelings in my belly (hard to explain)! Anyway, just wondering guys!

For me at my follow up they didnt check for pregnancy they just did a pap to make sure everything was out. I am sure you can ask for them to check to see if you are preggos again with a urine or blood test and they shouldnt have a problem. Good luck!

Hey sweetie! My doctor took a pregnacy test because it has been 8 weeks since the miscarriage and still no AF. So they will most likley do a prego test. Good luck!!!!
XOXOX

cng0809 wrote: I think I am a day late on my period...I don't know though! I haven't been keeping track since we have been "careful" and not trying. I have my first followup on Friday since my miscarriage at the beg. on January (I have rescheduled many times). Does anyone know if they test you at every appointment to see if you are pregnant (when they take a urine sample)? I am not getting my hopes up or anything like that, just a little bit curious. Sometimes I think I am having light period cramps, and other times it feels like little tingling feelings in my belly (hard to explain)! Anyway, just wondering guys!

Keep us posted. Good luck on Friday and let us know what they say!!!

hmm, no i didnt have a preg test at my 4 week checkup, post D&C. i definitely wasnt pregnant anyway so no need for testing.   no urine specimen or anything. just a pelvic exam and a pap. however if u have any suspicions, do mention it at ur appt and ask if u can submit an urine sample.