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Pillow Angel

posted 12th Mar
http://www.cnn.com/2008/HEALTH/conditions/03/12/pillow.angel/index.html

Disabled girl's parents defend growth-stunting treatment

NEW YORK (CNN)
-- It's been a year since the parents of a severely disabled child made public their decision to submit their daughter to a hysterectomy, breast surgery and drugs to keep the girl forever small. Today, the couple tell CNN, they believe they made the right decision -- one that could have a profound impact on the care of disabled children worldwide.




The profoundly disabled girl known as Ashley, now 10, has achieved her full height, 4 feet 5 inches.

"The 'Ashley treatment' has been successful in every expected way," Ashley's parents told CNN exclusively in a lengthy e-mail interview. "It has potential to help many others like it helped our precious daughter."

While unwavering in their belief in the treatment, Ashley's parents continue to insist on anonymity. In the year since Ashley's parents went public, not only did the hospital that sterilized Ashley admit it broke Washington state law, but also the doctor who treated Ashley committed suicide.

As scrutiny of the case deepens, so too does the chasm in the medical community: Is it mutilation, with doctors "playing God" -- or, is stunting growth a liberating option for caregivers and the disabled children who will need constant care for the rest of their lives?

Ashley is now 10 years old and, at 4 feet 5 inches tall, has achieved her full height and weight, 63 pounds. The treatment permanently closed her growth plates and took more than a foot off her anticipated height.

"Ashley did not grow in height or weight in the last year, she will always be flat-chested, and she will never suffer any menstrual pain, cramps or bleeding," say her parents, who felt it important to publicly address their decision after repeated interview requests, in the hopes of sharing their experience with other families.

They responded by e-mail only, to protect the family's identity. (Read the complete interview)

Ashley's current state -- to them -- is the definition of success.

She was born brain-damaged, with a condition described as static encephalopathy, or cerebral palsy. One of her doctors described her mental capacity as that of a 6-month-old, dependent upon her parents to meet every need. She does not walk or talk; she's fed through a tube and wears diapers. When Ashley was 6, her parents approached Children's Hospital and Regional Medical Center in Seattle, Washington, for the operations. They believed this would make it easier to cuddle and carry a child who can do little more than lie propped on a pillow.

Weight and height are the "worst enemy," they write, for children such as Ashley, for whom they've coined the term "pillow angels."

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In 2004, Children's Hospital performed a hysterectomy, removed Ashley's breast buds and gave her high-dose estrogen to retard growth and sexual maturation -- a procedure that has risks, but to date has not harmed her, her parents say.

While the "Ashley treatment" was first published in the October 2006 issue of the Archives of Pediatrics & Adolescent Medicine, it wasn't until the family posted its blog last year that a firestorm erupted in the blogosphere, with responses from "inhumane" and "perverse" -- to "walk in our shoes."
"If parents of children like Ashley believe this treatment will improve their children's quality of life, then they should be diligent and tenacious in providing it for them," her parents write. "We have a sacred duty to do what we believe is right for our children."

But in Ashley's case, what her parents thought was right wasn't legal.

In May 2007, Children's Hospital admitted it broke state law by giving Ashley a hysterectomy without a proper court review. To perform any such treatment today would require a court order, as well as review by a panel of experts in medicine and ethics and people with disabilities, says Dr. Douglas Diekema of Treuman Katz Center for Pediatric Bioethics, the consulting ethicist on Ashley's case.

So, will doctors stop the growth of more children like Ashley?

Right now, no growth-attenuation therapy is being administered by other doctors anywhere in the nation, according to pediatric experts. Supporters wonder whether another factor, the suicide in September of Ashley's endocrinologist, Dr. Daniel Gunther, may have slowed wider adoption of the treatment.

"We know from reliable sources his treatment of our daughter was a source of energy and motivation for him," Ashley's parents write. "He was frustrated about being blocked from providing this treatment to other children in need. He strongly believed this treatment should be available to them."

The family appears to be the lone voice with that opinion; CNN shared the family's comment with Children's Hospital, but did not get a response. In media reports, colleagues and family members were said to believe Gunther's suicide was not related to the treatment of the girl.

Another complicating factor -- some doctors remain adamant the treatment shouldn't be available.

"Adults can consent. But for a child, we're making decisions for them and hoping in our heart of hearts we are making the right decisions," says Dr. Nancy Murphy, chairman of the American Academy of Pediatrics Committee on Children with Disabilities.

Murphy will push for consensus among doctors at a pediatrics conference later this year, but acknowledges strong discord as critics continue to insist that keeping children small reduces them to a permanent infant-like condition, denying the basic human right to experience an adult body, adult feelings and adult relationships. But for Ashley, that may be moot.

"[This disability] shatters the reason we become parents: to watch kids grow, to be part of their lives and to launch into their own lives," says Murphy. "When you have a child with lifelong dependency, you don't get to launch your kid, and your caregiver options are limited."

But like many other people with disabilities, 43-year-old Anne Rader, who also has cerebral palsy but in a much less severe form than Ashley's, sees the treatment as dehumanizing -- and perhaps most significantly -- irrevocable.

"The parents are not seeing the potential of the child; they are seeing a baby," says Rader. "People with disabilities have to look at the potential of our lives: of available new technology, new equipment, medical advances. Things can change so quickly now."

Some ethicists, too, remain staunch in their assessment that the "Ashley treatment" is a violation of not only human dignity, but also of a physician's oath to do no harm.

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"I think mutilating surgery involving removal of breast buds is indefensible under any circumstances," says Arthur Caplan, the chairman of the Department of Medical Ethics and director of the Center for Bioethics at the University of Pennsylvania. "Growth retardation is not a substitute for adequate home aides and home assistance."

Ashley's parents remain convinced what they did for Ashley is the most loving choice they could have made for their daughter and want that for other disabled children. "We feel that if our time and effort ended up helping a single pillow angel... then it is worthwhile."

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Personally, I feel that four words from the article nicely illustrate exactly who this procedure is for: liberating option for caregivers.

C.
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I have 1 child & live in St. Catharines, Ontario
posted 12th Mar
Reading this made me a little sick to my stomach.
Kind of funny that they're totally okay with the choices they made, but not okay enough to show their faces publically.
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I have 1 child & live in Deltona, Florida
posted 12th Mar
That made me sick to my stomach. I feel for those parents, but they had no right to do that to that child.
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I have 2 kids & live in Hattiesburg, Mississippi
posted 12th Mar
disgusting, Only God should play God.
clearly the parents wanted things easier on them
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I have 1 child & live in Tennessee
posted 12th Mar
I sympathize with her parents. You don't need a a child with the capabilities of a six month old to weigh 140 pounds, and have to worry about menustration a what not. The surgery made it easier for them to help her, as she will need it her whole life.
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I'm due June 10th (a girl) & live in Utah
posted 12th Mar
Quoting Baby Girl-Liesel May:“ I sympathize with her parents. You don't need a a child with the capabilities of a six month old to weigh ... [snip!] ... to worry about menustration a what not. The surgery made it easier for them to help her, as she will need it her whole life.”

How does removing her breast buds help them?

C.
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I have 1 child & live in St. Catharines, Ontario
posted 12th Mar
I'm not too sure what to think.
Doing all these operations illegally was wrong. And obviously the doctor thought what he did was wrong, because he committed sucide.
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I'm due September 12th (a boy) & live in Ohio
posted 12th Mar
this is hard.
i can't imagine changing the diaper of a 10 year old throughout the day, nonetheless dealing with a period (among many other things of course, this is just an example) but i also can't imagine putting my child through those "unnecessary" procedures.

i do have a neighbor with a severely mentally retarded daughter though and i know that height and weight definitely are the enemies when it comes for caring for someone like that (she is now larger than her mother)

anyways, i honestly don't know how i feel about this issue...
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I have 2 kids & live in Huntington Beach, California
posted 12th Mar
Quoting Baby Girl-Liesel May:“ I sympathize with her parents. You don't need a a child with the capabilities of a six month old to weigh ... [snip!] ... to worry about menustration a what not. The surgery made it easier for them to help her, as she will need it her whole life.”
its actually something u should smpathize with little ashley about. I care for young, teen age and adult disabled people. THEY ARE STILL PEOPLE!!!!!! Their child is there resposibility so to do surgery to take the weight off their shoulders is dispicable!!!!!
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I have 1 child & live in Tennessee
posted 12th Mar
What's she gonna use her breasts for? They would increase the care needed via a) buying bras (which tend to dig in and be uncomfortable, the poor girl can't adjust them herself). Also, most people have no problem bathing an infant, but feel a bit akward (or like they're perverts-although they aren't) about bathing an adult whose body has matured. (I've heard complaintsfrom several friends who work in nursing homes). Although it shouldn't bug caregivers, often times it does (especially if it's a family member who is essentially babysitting). It's also just one more thing to clean, adjust, and try to work around.
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I'm due June 10th (a girl) & live in Utah
posted 12th Mar
Quoting Baby Girl-Liesel May:“ What's she gonna use her breasts for? They would increase the care needed via a) buying bras (which tend ... [snip!] ... it's a family member who is essentially babysitting). It's also just one more thing to clean, adjust, and try to work around.”
WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What are you using your belly button for????? lets cut it off!!!!!!
.............Does that make sense?
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I have 1 child & live in Tennessee
posted 12th Mar
Quoting Shaquana:♥'s:Jade:“ WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What are you using your belly button for????? lets cut it off!!!!!! .............Does that make sense?”


That isn't really a comparison. Belly buttons tend not to sexually arouse people or make them uncomfortable.
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I have 1 child & live in Deltona, Florida
posted 12th Mar
Your belly button doesn't get in the way of anything, or make you difficult to pick up, or require it's own set of clothing. Breasts do (and if she were heavy breasted would lead to back problems).
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I'm due June 10th (a girl) & live in Utah
posted 12th Mar
weird...it's pointless...and wrong on so many levels.
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I have 14 kids & live in Maine
posted 12th Mar
Quoting Baby Girl-Liesel May:“ What's she gonna use her breasts for? They would increase the care needed via a) buying bras (which tend ... [snip!] ... it's a family member who is essentially babysitting). It's also just one more thing to clean, adjust, and try to work around.”

So they should remove them just so she doesn't have to fuss with a bra?

I seldom use my legs, should I hack them off for getting in the way?

C.
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I have 1 child & live in St. Catharines, Ontario
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