re: Official Testing Buddies Thread

So doctor said it sounds like pulled muscles said to lay with the heating pad but got to hear a nice strong heart beat we will be finding out the sex either tomorrow or Thursday

Quoting *Mac and Keagan's Momma*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tyler and AJ's Mommy:</b>" Whew Jen, I'll be you are busy! ... [snip!] ... little girl. Life would be nuts and kids would share rooms. Unless we moved again. Not something I want to do. So who knows."

Oh I know just what you mean. Especially now that I'm working again. I get home and I'm torn between stuff that needs to be done and spending time with the kids. I try to leave a lot of the housework for after Tyler is in bed and AJ is napping and on the weekends, but that leaves ZERO down time for me. Most of my downtime during the week is while my husband is driving us home from work and maybe a tiny bit of time late at night before I go to bed--if AJ is sleeping. We don't get home until almost 6 and Tyler goes to be at 8, so it's almost no time since we have to do dinner in there. The weekend is a little better, but still there aren't enough hours in the days. I don't know how you do it.

AJ is a clockwork baby too--wants to eat pretty much every three hours, sometimes closer! We're doing a tiny bit better at night the last week or so, sometimes if we feed him at 10 or so we can feed him at 2ish and then get to 6ish. That's helped a bit, without two feedings at night. But during the day, he wants a bottle every 3 hours and it feels like you're feeding him all the time.

We'd definitely have to move before we had another baby. We want to regardless, so we'll see if things fall into place financially. We were hoping to move next summer, but there are a lot of variables. If we did have a third Tyler and Aj might end up sharing a room at some point. Is your current place a 3 bedroom? would you put the two boys and the two girls if you had another girl together?

Quoting OurChloeBugBowtique:" csection is fine ;) thanks"

Updated! That's just a few days before Tyler's bday on the 28th!  

Quoting -Jen:" Thanks girls   Mel- Yeah for now I'm just getting through the end of this externship and getting a job.So ... [snip!] ... and getting a job.So for now it's what happens, happens. Probably wont be close to a year before i see the specialist again. "

Here's hoping it happens naturally!  

Quoting Family of 3 +1 (16 weeks):" So doctor said it sounds like pulled muscles said to lay with the heating pad but got to hear a nice strong heart beat we will be finding out the sex either tomorrow or Thursday"

Glad everything is okay! Can't wait to hear what you're having!

I'm happy Olive is great sleeper but she's mixing her days/nights so between 11pm and 3am, we're up. It's not that bad now but when I go back to work in Feb it will be hard being that I get up for work at 4am. I have to say I have my days though where I have crying spells. I think it's mostly because of no sleep and I feel as if I'm denying Isabella, even though I'm not. Not sure if that makes sense. I'm trying to bond with Olive and I feel so bad because Isabella wants to get out of the house and do the things she did before but because of the baby and weather, it's hard. Thank God for my mother because she'll pick up Isabella and take her for a few hours to run her errands with her. Izzy loves it because she's out of the house but my mom says after a while she realizes I'm not there and starts asking for me and Olive and wants to come home. I don't think I have PPD but if it continues I will def talk with my dr. I think I just need time to adjust.

Another part of my crying spells is because I get anxious because I'm trying to do so much, in the sense of housework, preparing for Christmas and trying to make everyone happy. I know things can wait and I should let them wait but it's not in me. Sorry for going on and one and for jumping all all over the place. This is really the only place I can come and talk like this because I don't think Jason understands. I think he thinks that since I'm not pregnant and Olive is here, all should be back to normal with myself but I tell him that it will be around 6 weeks until I'm "myself" again. All these hormones are still raging and it will take time.

Quoting Mama to Izzy and Olive:" I'm happy Olive is great sleeper but she's mixing her days/nights so between 11pm and 3am, we're up. ... [snip!] ... I tell him that it will be around 6 weeks until I'm "myself" again. All these hormones are still raging and it will take time."

Oh Laura *hugs*! I had such a hard time the first few weeks after AJ came too! I cried a lot and I was really snappy too! I felt like I couldn't even bond with AJ and I was always frustrated with Tyler too. I kept saying "I am just no good at this!" A lot of it is hormones, but a lot of it is just plain hard too! We are still trying to figure things out--Tyler is really having some adjustments and it's hard to have the same routine as before now that the baby is here--there is a feeding schedule to work around, plus sometimes I just can't do something for Tyler when he asks because I am busy with the baby. Anyway I can completely relate and I promise it does get better! I was still stressed and anxious after the first few weeks, but it was much better and most of the time I felt like I could handle it. I spent a lot of days counting the hours though! Hang in there--the hormones and lack of sleep get better pretty quickly and the rest of the adjusting will happen soon as well!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tyler and AJ's Mommy:</b>" Oh I know just what you mean. Especially now that I'm working again. I get home and I'm torn between ... [snip!] ... some point. Is your current place a 3 bedroom? would you put the two boys and the two girls if you had another girl together? "</blockquote>




We have a four bedroom house so two would have to share and two would have their own room. We could also potentially build a bedroom in the basement. But my husband would like a bigger lot and stuff one day so who knows.

I can't imagine working and then coming home to the chaos. I don't know how you do it. Though sometimes I wish I did work part time just to get a break.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama to Izzy and Olive:</b>" I'm happy Olive is great sleeper but she's mixing her days/nights so between 11pm and 3am, we're up. ... [snip!] ... I tell him that it will be around 6 weeks until I'm "myself" again. All these hormones are still raging and it will take time."</blockquote>




I still have days I cry and I am five months pp almost. I talked to my doctor and she said its normal to feel overwhelmed for a bit. I need to try and get out and exercise and that would help. I think I just feel like I never ever have time away from the kids. Like today for me is a bad crying day. Declin was up at least six times last night. I am sick and I feel horrid with a fever and chills and sore chest. But my husband feels being at work is more important for the money even though he has sick days. I don't get that and it hurts. I just want to crawl in bed and try and feel better which I never get to do. Lack of sleep and this horrible season of flus and colds has been horrible for me.

Quoting Tyler and AJ's Mommy:" Oh Laura *hugs*! I had such a hard time the first few weeks after AJ came too! I cried a lot and I was ... [snip!] ... Hang in there--the hormones and lack of sleep get better pretty quickly and the rest of the adjusting will happen soon as well!"

This is exactly how I feel! I just said to Jason yesterday, I feel like all I do is yell at Isabella these days. She loves her sister and is good with her but has really been testing us and acting. I knew this would happen but it's hard once it does happen. I just have to get the mindset that things WILL get better and learn to let some things around the house slide.

Quoting *Mac and Keagan's Momma*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama to Izzy and Olive:</b>" I'm happy Olive is great sleeper ... [snip!] ... try and feel better which I never get to do. Lack of sleep and this horrible season of flus and colds has been horrible for me."

Wow being sick on top of everything--that's just impossible! You never get a break from the kids and that's really needed. Like you said, work for me is mentally exhausting but it's a break from the kids and as much as I hate to admit it, I need that.

Adam is the same way about sick time, I'm always the one who takes off work if the kids are sick or my babysitter is sick. I work on salary and he's hourly, so i get it, but I have responsibilities at work too and I could get in trouble if I take off too much time. he doesn't have a lot of sick time, but sometimes he just doesn't seem willing to take what he does have. As mom's we can't do it all!

I hope you feel better soon Jen!

Quoting *Mac and Keagan's Momma*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tyler and AJ's Mommy:</b>" Oh I know just what you mean. Especially ... [snip!] ... then coming home to the chaos. I don't know how you do it. Though sometimes I wish I did work part time just to get a break."

It's hard to work and take care of everything at home, but honestly I don't think I could keep my sanity and stay at home all the time. I love my kids more than anything, but the "break" of going to work is something I am used to. I wish I had more time with my kids, like working more part time or something, but we need my income badly.

Quoting Mama to Izzy and Olive:" This is exactly how I feel! I just said to Jason yesterday, I feel like all I do is yell at Isabella ... [snip!] ... it does happen. I just have to get the mindset that things WILL get better and learn to let some things around the house slide."

Exactly! I'm constantly after Tyler to quiet down or whatever. He's definitely been acting out some since the baby was born. We're muddling through it, trying to find ways to make him feel special and show him that things haven't completely changed, but it's really hard. And it's so hard to balance showing him that bad behavior isn't okay and being understanding as to why he's acting out.

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Quoting Family of 3 +1 (16 weeks):" IT'S A BOY !!!! So excited he looked great and was moving all over I'm on my phone so I can't upload ... [snip!] ... [IMG]http://i1236.photobucket.com/albums/ff456/chelseap06/83921D69-E279-45F9-B65F-E5199A80C4E6-23441-0000049A5897904B.jpg[/IMG]"

AW! Congrats!!!! So exciting!