babys dead beat dad..

well i have two kids with my ex-boyfriend
and hes gettin mad because i wont let him see them
but... he dosent help me out with them at all..
he knows my number and dosent try call them..
i take care of my two babys by myself while he
goes out and partys with his 16 year old g.f

am i being a bitch by not lettin him see the kids..
or do i have a good enough reason not to??

No. If he's so intent on seeing his kids, then he needs to step up and be a real parent. You have to be there for the not-so-fun parts of parenthood, not just the easy, free ones.

There is no way in hell that you are being a bitch by not letting your douchebag ex boyfriend see your kids.
As far as I see it, if he doesn't want to help out or be a part of your kids' lives.. Then why should he even bother with visiting them?
He sounds like a bad influence on the kids anyway, with his drinking and partying.. Clearly he is not ready to grow up and face the facts that he is now a dad, and they do not need someone like him in their lives.
If he doesn't leave you alone over this issue, then get a restraining order or something on him, so that he can't go anywhere near the kids.

No you not being mean you don't want mess around your kids. If is butt not giving you any money to help.I don't think so, but later down the road you would want them to know him so they know that mom made the effort when he didn't. I have that same issue and my daughter knows her dad is sorry not because I say but because he doesn't do anything for her, but I got the military to get me that check every month

Thats what i thought.. he hasent seen the kids in...about 4 months.. there still babys but its kinda hard i dont know what to tell my 3 year old daughter shes always asking me "wheres my dad?" and"is my daddy always gonna be my daddy??" and i cant answer her because i dont know what to say..

omg im only 19 and i feel so lost right now...

Oh and i cant take him to cort for child support because he has no job...

Quoting ~Vee~:“ Oh and i cant take him to cort for child support because he has no job...”

That sucks. Not trying to offend you but he is sorry as hell. What kind of example is he setting for the kids. Heck no you not wrong in not letting him see them. He is not helping you at all. No job..Oh I don't think so. He was old enough to have kids he needs to take some responsiblity.

Quoting ~Veeam i being a bitch by not lettin him see the kids.. or do i have a good enough reason not to??”

no, ur not bein a bitch-i understand where ur commin from..but look, when u had the kids, u have to seperate ur personal feelings and do whats best for them
my dad left and it still hurt...then afew years ago he tried to contact meeh, and my mom said no because he hadnt dont anything n the past...well then i blames her for the 1 time i could have met him..she took that away from meeh because of how she felt...and didnt care what i thought
in the long run it may effect the kids, cuz i still havent gotten over it, and i know im not the only one-im jus usin maseld as an example
jus for the kids..let him see the kids-jus dont conversate him... do like i do wit my baby dady "if i aint about the kids, shut up cuz we dont have anything to talk about until u man up"
honey, jus do it for the kids

Quoting ~Vee~:“ Oh and i cant take him to cort for child support because he has no job...”

do it anyway. i dont know about where you live but in wi they back date their childsupport so even if he dont have a job now when he gets when they'll start from when you filed for childsupport.

I agree with the others. He doen't sound like he deserves to see his kids. How old is he?

hes 21... i grew up not seeing my dad too it is hard but i got over it.. and im not saying he can never see them just saying he cant see them tell he starts helping me out a lil bit.. if he makes an effort ill make an effort with him too..  


and with the child support thing im gonna have to look up on it.. file and see what happens...

Everytime I read this title I always think it says babys dead....
Im not tryingto be mean, so dont take it that way=/

lol real crazy...

Quoting ~Vee~:“ well i have two kids with my ex-boyfriend and hes gettin mad because i wont let him see them but... ... [snip!] ... with his 16 year old g.f am i being a bitch by not lettin him see the kids.. or do i have a good enough reason not to??”

no hunni your not been a bitch you are doing wot is right bye your kids and if he wonts to go out and party let him you no at the end of the day your babys are cared for and loved and have there mummy im the same my baby not here yet and im not with my baby daddy and he has my number and dose not call or text he to just wonts to go out and party with my best mate now so no your not been a bitch you keep doing wot you are doing with your kids all a baby needs are there mummy sxx

Quoting i love my boy growing ins:“ no hunni your not been a bitch you are doing wot is right bye your kids and if he wonts to go out and ... [snip!] ... best mate now so no your not been a bitch you keep doing wot you are doing with your kids all a baby needs are there mummy sxx”

some men are such dogs...
yeah thats true all a child need's is there mother.. its all i needed...