Official TTA (Trying to Adopt) Thread.

There are a bunch of ladies on here trying to adopt, and while there is an awesome adoptive parents thread, theres not much for those who are still TTA. Please feel free to message me with stuff you would like added  


There is a magazine that is all about adoption. It is 1 year for $24.95 or 2 years for $39.95. This magazine comes out every other month.

Agency Adoptions
Independent Adoptions
International Adoptions
Foster-Adopt
Step-parent Adoptions
Family Adoptions
Support Group: I was Adopted
Support Group: Parenting Adopted Children
Support Group: I am a Surrogate
Support Group: I need a Surrogate
Support Group: I am a Birth Mom
Funding Adoption
Surrogacy and Donor Eggs or Sperm Information
Resources regarding adoption

your so sweet...you can ad me...<3

DH and I have 2 of our own but would love to adopt one as well. I think a TTA sticky would be amazing  

Finally!! Im so happy you did this! Now lets hope it sticks  

DH and I are just beginning the adoption process. Although right now we live overseas, we are taking this time to read up on the different types of adoptions and even foster to adopt. We are putting together out adoption profile as well as creating a blog on our process. We are nervous and excited all at the same time. It is difficult to look up the different states law on this because we wont know exactly where we will be next until around April/May of next year. But its more than likely going to be Florida. Anyways...thats kind of our story  

Hello ladies!!

Thanks for letting me know about this. Right now we are in the early stages of trying private adoption with an attorney first and seeing how that route goes. We are letting everyone know we are wanting to adopt family, friends, co-workers etc.., starting a blog, FB page, looking through adoption sites, classifieds and just getting as much info as we can. If it ends up being where that doesnt work we may try an agency and/or fostering to adopt. No matter what we'd like to foster just depends on when it will happen. That's it in a nutshell. 

Quoting Mama C hopes to adopt #4:" Hello ladies!! Thanks for letting me know about this. Right now we are in the early stages of trying ... [snip!] ... and/or fostering to adopt. No matter what we'd like to foster just depends on when it will happen. That's it in a nutshell. "

We were considering trying private/independent adoption first as well. We are hoping that we can succeed by doing things that way. Have you tried the website: http://www.hopingtoadopt.org/ ?
We are adding our adoption profile there and they have these things called Pass Along Cards that I think are a neat idea.

Good Luck in this process!!

I adopted 2 beautiful boys at birth. From start to finish it took us 20 months to have two baby boys in our arms and that's with 2 failed adoptions. Our boys are 14 months apart in age. Our oldest son we found through an online listing my husband and I saw through an agency out of state (there are many ads posted online from agencies who can't find a family for a specific BM) and one classified as an "independent adoption" where we found the BM on our own.

I know I've connected with a few of you ladies, but if you need anything please let me know! I'm willing to share anything about our story, our frequented websites (that there are BMs on waiting to be matched from an agency), our adoption profile..anything.

Our local adoption agency just recently asked us to speak to families who are TTA. Our main message was be as open as possible (carefully consider what types of children you are open to accepting) We were open to mild special needs, any race, any age under 2, any family history, mild use of alcohol or drugs. We also never sat back and waited for someone to find us. We were online making connections EVERY NIGHT. Contacting agencies, facillitators, online postings---anyone who was reputable and would show our profile for free. That's the reason we've had so much success. Our openess and our determination and drive.

I wish you ladies the best of luck. TTA was actually harder for us then TTC.

I emailed Mara about trying to get this a sticky thread.. but about my story.

I'm 22, DH is 25 (well.. in October he is) and we started TTC in September of 08 and started talking about wanting to adopt. After 2 miscarriages, my doctor finally agreed to help us and did infertility testing to come up with the conclusion of unexplained infertility. We did several rounds of treatments and had 2 pregnancies both resulting in miscarriage as well.

We decided after 4 miscarriages it was time to move on to adoption. We looked at our options; private/independent, agency, and foster-adopt. We called a few agencies to get price quotes and decided its going to be too much for us to do right now, so we went on to calling social services. We took all our classes and got fingerprinted, ect to get our foster care license and now we are waiting for placement. We haven't given up on a private adoption though either, but we aren't actively searching for a BM. If someone comes to us wanting us to adopt we will gladly get a lawyer and get that process rolling.

A lot of people freak out on us because we are so young and are adopting, but honestly, what do we have to lose? We have been together since 07, married since 09 and have had 4 miscarriages. Having biological children isn't in our cards and we want to have kids at this moment in time, so I tell people to shove it :]

Our journey is blogged here: http://www.babyhenshaw.blogspot.com

Quoting Casey :]:" I emailed Mara about trying to get this a sticky thread.. but about my story. I'm 22, DH is 25 (well.. ... [snip!] ... kids at this moment in time, so I tell people to shove it :] Our journey is blogged here: http://www.babyhenshaw.blogspot.com"

We dont get alot of "talks" about us being too young as much as we used too. We got married at 19years old and are now almost 25. So people dont judge us for that. BUT they did!!! We started TTC right after we got married and its unbelievable how many comments we recieved about being too young and what not. IMO...age doesnt qualify you for how good of a parent you can be. ANYONE can be a good parent...if thats what they truly want to do. I wouldnt worry so much about your age! Like you said...what do you have to lose? You and your hubby want children and are wanting to do a great/wonderful thing by doing the foster to adopt. In fact...from your previous posts and actually your blog, you have opened my eyes up to wanting to find out more about fostering.

I hope you get your child placement soon and I cant wait to hear all about it!!

Quoting hopingtoadoptagain *Mama :" I adopted 2 beautiful boys at birth. From start to finish it took us 20 months to have two baby boys ... [snip!] ... Our openess and our determination and drive. I wish you ladies the best of luck. TTA was actually harder for us then TTC. "

As I continue to read more about adoption and research it, it does seem like the more OPEN you are about what type of child you want...like age group, race, medical problems, abuse history, family background...ect...that the better chance of getting to take home your child. And by looking at all of our options, we are beginning to be more open to those types of things.

I enjoy reading stories like yours because it gives me hope. I know that there are days when I just sit here and think to myself...that by the looks of things, its never going to happen. We just now stopped TTC after almost 6 YEARS! To me, thats a long time and I know there are women out there who have tried even longer. But adoption is what we want to do...and honestly it doesnt have to be a newborn...but we would like to adopt a younger child. And even after that...if adoption goes well for us then we even talked about adopting a second, third child...and an older one at that.

There are sooo many kids out there that its hard to believe. I want to be able to help them all but we all know thats impossible!! So us TTA-ers are heros in my eyes. We are saving a child/childrens lives and giving them a chance at life!! Its so wonderful!!

Quoting [[hoping to adopt]]:" As I continue to read more about adoption and research it, it does seem like the more OPEN you are ... [snip!] ... are heros in my eyes. We are saving a child/childrens lives and giving them a chance at life!! Its so wonderful!! "

At first DH and I were not as open. We live in a small town (currently around 1,200 people) and it's not diverse at all so I was worried about adopting a child that was not the same race as us. I also had concerns about special needs children and children with "bad" family history such as drug abuse or alcohol. After seeing the need for people to adopt children who are african american, hispanic etc.. we finally realized that no matter what a child has (disabilities etc..) or what they look like---we'd never love them any less.

Jamie our 19 month old is half guatamalen and was born with bi-lateral club feet. His BM contacted an agency in her home state and there were NO interested adoptive parents willing to take a bi-racial child who was going to have club feet (which is if you research club feet it is completely correctable!). So her agency contacted facillitators and other agencies hoping to find someone for this BM. We ended up seeing a posting on a website for this situation and contacted the facillitator. There were only 3 couples presented to this BM and we were chosen. How sad in my opinion. Only 3 people nationally were interested in this little boy? I think if more people opened their hearts they would be matched quicker.

Now, our son is walking around and you can't even tell he had club feet at one point. He does have special shoes he has to wear to bed, but that's it. His skin tone is gorgeous especially in the summer. If I would have passed up on his little boy because I was afraid of what the community would think or that he may be different--I would be crushed.

I have a family friend who adopted 2 children 15 years ago. Both BMs were heavy cocain/herion users and were actually drinking and using on the day they gave birth to their kids. One of her children had some issues in school of falling behind, but is now caught up. Her other child is perfectly healthy.

Just wanted to pop in and say....Good Luck to all you super brave mommies to be in here!! Casey you're an awesome Leader!

Quoting Annette & Mark:" Just wanted to pop in and say....Good Luck to all you super brave mommies to be in here!! Casey you're an awesome Leader!"

Thanks Annette!

Quoting Casey :]:" http://www.cafepress.com/adoptionmama"

those are super cute!!