Quoting Adoption is Awesome:" Kiki - you should talk to an adoption agency in your state so that you can understand the laws. I am ... [snip!] ... and keep us posted. This is not as bad as it seems and you are an angel for not aborting that baby. You will not regret it. "
I've never considered abortion as a solution to what many teens think is a simple problem. But thank you.
Also, thank you for the website, but the main problem with him is he refuses to accept help or to "rely" on an outside source to help support the baby. If he doesn't hesitate to say no to welfare or food stamps ((Heck, even welfare to help pay for the medical bills that I can't pay.)) he's most likely to say no to any other source of help.
My mother once put it like this "Well he can't just keep this kid so he can say to others 'Oh yeah, I have this baby, isn't he cute?' He needs to accept the other responsibilities. But right now he'd rather sit home and play his video games and go visit friends. What else is he doing to contribute? And going with you to your doctor appointments doesn't count."
He still hasn't quite grown up yet, and I don't believe having a child will change that. He wants the kid, but doesn't want any of the responsibilities, and still wants everything to be like it was before. As it is, I only see him once every two weeks when I have my doctor appointments.
And yes, I have talked to him about open adoption, but he's dead set on the fact that adoption period is evil, and that somehow, someway, our child will end up in an abusive home that won't take care of him.