I want an abortion but I don't? Help????

I am 14 weeks. I don't know if it's my friend's or a one night stand. I don't know how to make a decision if I don't who the dad is. My friend and I would agree to co-parent. The other guy I wouldn't have any support. My family wouldn't accept the baby. I feel I am not financial stable enough to do this on my own. So how do I make a decision without knowing something so important like this? Please help? I mean how can I have a plan if I don't know who's it is? Please help?

Isn't 12 weeks the cut off for an abortion?
I believe so. So, what about adoption?

Quoting ma ♥:" Isn't 12 weeks the cut off for an abortion? I believe so. So, what about adoption?"

No it's not. In most states (and in Canada) the cut off is 23-24 weeks.

Quoting inevitabledisaster18:" I am 14 weeks. I don't know if it's my friend's or a one night stand. I don't know how to make a decision ... [snip!] ... knowing something so important like this? Please help? I mean how can I have a plan if I don't know who's it is? Please help?"

you CAN find out pretty early with amnio.

i'm not sure how early though...and there is always a risk of losing the baby, but it's extremely small.

good luck!

have you looked into adoption? abortion isn't your only option! good luck with everything!

Quoting inevitabledisaster18:" I am 14 weeks. I don't know if it's my friend's or a one night stand. I don't know how to make a decision ... [snip!] ... knowing something so important like this? Please help? I mean how can I have a plan if I don't know who's it is? Please help?"

Are you living on your own? Would your one friend support you regardless?

Quoting Liam's Mommy + 1:" you CAN find out pretty early with amnio. i'm not sure how early though...and there is always a risk of losing the baby, but it's extremely small. good luck!"

It's not that small. Most doctors won't do an amnio for that reason unless court ordered.

Its a decision that you need to feel ok with. Good luck.

Quoting Boobylicious:" No it's not. In most states (and in Canada) the cut off is 23-24 weeks."

In Nevada it's 24 weeks.

If i where you i'd consider adoption since your so far along.

How old are you? I'm assuming you dont have a job? Is your family not supportive at all?

Quoting ma ♥:" Isn't 12 weeks the cut off for an abortion? I believe so. So, what about adoption?"

Here it is 20something.

But OP, you can get a test done I'm pretty sure. I can imagine it will be expensive though... I'm not sure.

Imo you shouldn't make the decision based on who the dad is. You can get a DNA test after your baby is born, and either way the father will have to help you at least financially. If you want the baby, then keep the baby. If you're not ready then you have other options available to you.

If you're not financially stable enough then abortion or adoption are both great options for you.

Quoting Liam's Mommy + 1:" you CAN find out pretty early with amnio. i'm not sure how early though...and there is always a risk of losing the baby, but it's extremely small. good luck!"

 
and the cut off for an abortion in most of the states is 12 weeks.
if you don't think your financially stable then put it up for adoption, at least you can still see your kid. at LEAST once a year.