re: I want an abortion but I don't? Help????

Quoting | Mama Dee *:" What about co-parenting with your friend regardless of who the father is!?  "

yea but my parents would not support me if it was with the other guy

Quoting (♥ my littles]™:" well if its proven that he's the dad i believe you would get some kind of survivor benefits.."

yea but I wouldn't have any help with the baby at all.

Quoting inevitabledisaster18:" yea but my parents would not support me if it was with the other guy"

sooo....dont tell them?

Quoting inevitabledisaster18:" yea but my parents would not support me if it was with the other guy"

Why do you need their support? You live on your own, have your own job.. if they don't like who fathered your child, they can suck it IMO.

Quoting Liam's Mommy + 1:" you CAN find out pretty early with amnio. i'm not sure how early though...and there is always a risk of losing the baby, but it's extremely small. good luck!"

how could that be made possible?

Quoting HotMom21ERF:" sooo....dont tell them?"

wouldn't matter if I told or not. They'd know. They could tell when the baby is born. They are racist xenophobic and just hate anyone with a different religion race from a different country gays of course. Just anybody who's slightly different. My friend is italian. He's also going to be in the baby's life if it's his and he's bisexual so I know they wouldn't think nicely of him but our child would be acceptable even though it's an immigrant's child. I feel maybe they could get past that if they didn't find that out for like a while... But that might not appear if I was having his baby. The other guy is african american. There's no hiding that.

Quoting inevitabledisaster18:" wouldn't matter if I told or not. They'd know. They could tell when the baby is born. They are racist ... [snip!] ... be acceptable.. But that might not appear if I was having his baby. The other guy is african american. There's no hiding that."

No offense, but you're better off regardless if you have an abortion or not.

Quoting inevitabledisaster18:" yea but I wouldn't have any help with the baby at all."

You can't judge that, you don't know what the future would bring.

Women do it daily with no help. They survive.

There's other options available to you. You have 10 more weeks to decide, but by then you'll feel the baby. It may make it harder.

Don't worry about the who's and what if's. Ask yourself "Am I ready to be a mother?" "Can I provide for this child?" "Am I mentally ready for a baby?"

It's your decision, it's hard, but only you can make it.

If it were me, i'd at least contact both potential fathers (in the case of the one night stand, contact his family) and let them know the possibilities. You may be surprised in what they say, either in a positive way or a negative way.

Quoting inevitabledisaster18:" wouldn't matter if I told or not. They'd know. They could tell when the baby is born. They are racist ... [snip!] ... be acceptable.. But that might not appear if I was having his baby. The other guy is african american. There's no hiding that."

Then that's your parents choice, however, lots of people change their tune when it's their grandbaby.

Quoting inevitabledisaster18:" wouldn't matter if I told or not. They'd know. They could tell when the baby is born. They are racist ... [snip!] ... be acceptable.. But that might not appear if I was having his baby. The other guy is african american. There's no hiding that."

If they want to be like that it can really be their loss. And it will be you who will be feeling the pain not them.

Honestly, I couldn't live my life for anyone else. Especially considering their values.

Quoting inevitabledisaster18:" wouldn't matter if I told or not. They'd know. They could tell when the baby is born. They are racist ... [snip!] ... be acceptable.. But that might not appear if I was having his baby. The other guy is african american. There's no hiding that."

Well truthfully if they don't want anything to do with the baby, that is there loss.
You are 20, you can do it on your own if you have to.
I know a lot of mamas that have more than one child and something happens and they are on there own.
I do wish you the best o luck in whatever it is that you chose.

Quoting K[♥ E]+1:" You can't judge that, you don't know what the future would bring. Women do it daily with no help. ... [snip!] ... family) and let them know the possibilities. You may be surprised in what they say, either in a positive way or a negative way."

I want to but I feel I couldn't alone. I want to be ready I don't feel anything but I know once I do I'm not going to want an abortion.

Quoting inevitabledisaster18:" yea but my parents would not support me if it was with the other guy"

Don't even find out .. just accept your friend as the father.

Quoting | Mama Dee *:" Don't even find out .. just accept your friend as the father."

I'll find out at birth without a test really.

Quoting Squishy*Woman:" Well truthfully if they don't want anything to do with the baby, that is there loss. You are 20, you ... [snip!] ... than one child and something happens and they are on there own. I do wish you the best o luck in whatever it is that you chose."

thanks I know I can I guess it's more of a worry if I'll have enough stregnth to go through it.