re: I want an abortion but I don't? Help????

Quoting Boobylicious:" Are you living on your own? Would your one friend support you regardless?"

yea I'm living on my own

Quoting Saraneth [37]:" It's not that small. Most doctors won't do an amnio for that reason unless court ordered."

This!

OP- If you aren't 100% sure that you want an abortion, my advice would be to not get one and keep considering your options.

Quoting Jasify:" In Nevada it's 24 weeks. "

There ya go.  

I couldnt do it.. i wasnt finacially stable but i found ways to take care of my daughter at 16 and i dont know who her father is it was a one night stand and the next day i was raped... it's gonna come down to wait do you want to do and whats best for baby. you can also consider adoption too. but dont let noone make a decision for you cause you have to live with the decision they dont. so just weight everything out.... and take time to think cause you dont want to live the rest of your life in regret.... hope things work out for you.....

To get an abortion is your own decision but I would choose to get one based on guilt of not knowing who the father is.

Quoting Boobylicious:" No it's not. In most states (and in Canada) the cut off is 23-24 weeks."

Oh gosh  
Idk where I got 12 weeks then... oops.

Weigh the pros and cons, OP. Whichever feels "more right," go with that.

i wouldnt abort just because you dont know who the dad is. there is a lot of programs that can help you, as well as adoption may be an option.

Quoting HotMom21ERF:" How old are you? I'm assuming you dont have a job? Is your family not supportive at all?"

no they wouldn't be if it were the other guy's baby. I'm 20. I have a job as a waitress though.

Cut off in NY is 20 weeks...most places don't do it past 12 but a woman can get it done up until 20. Crazy!

Quoting inevitabledisaster18:" yea I'm living on my own"

As much as family support helps, it really isn't needed... You have a little while longer to figure this out, and you'll definately need to take a closer look to the pros and cons of having this baby.

What about co-parenting with your friend regardless of who the father is!?  

If you're not certain you want an abortion, then I wouldn't go through with one because of not knowing who the father is.
There's other options.
Unfortunately, you're the only one who can make those decisions though as tough as they might be. Good luck

Quoting inevitabledisaster18:" no they wouldn't be if it were the other guy's baby. I'm 20. I have a job as a waitress though."

OP, if you want to abort then that is totally up to you. However, if you are unsure, there are ways to get around the financial aspect of it. Working more hours, getting government assistance, buying used baby items...