water?

ive been having trouble getting my daughter to listen to me. someone suggested getting a spray bottle and squirting her with water till she starts listening better. Wouldnt that be abuseful to a child? what do ya'll think cause i cant stand the thought of doing that to my daughter if it will cause her to have issues later in life.

Quoting TexasMommy2008:“ ive been having trouble getting my daughter to listen to me. someone suggested getting a spray bottle ... [snip!] ... do ya'll think cause i cant stand the thought of doing that to my daughter if it will cause her to have issues later in life.”

Gzz i would feel the same way...
I heard of people doing that to there cats... but never a littl kid
How old is your little one?

shes 2. i think shes more acting out due to the fact that i had a baby a month ago....even though my older kids are still getting the affection i've always given them and nothings really changed except for another baby.

that most likely is the reason why.
i dont know how my lil one is going to act... but she will only be almost 1 when i am suppose to have this one....
Do you think she is to young to realize and wont take it as hard as an older child would?

Quoting ~* Mandy *~:“ that most likely is the reason why. i dont know how my lil one is going to act... but she will only be ... [snip!] ... i am suppose to have this one.... Do you think she is to young to realize and wont take it as hard as an older child would?”

Honestly i think your 1 year old will take it well. My oldest was one when my second was born and she was more curious and wasnt rough or anything with the baby. but my now 2 year old is more than likely jealous cause she had been the baby for so long and now she isnt anymore

Quoting TexasMommy2008:“ shes 2. i think shes more acting out due to the fact that i had a baby a month ago....even though my ... [snip!] ... my older kids are still getting the affection i've always given them and nothings really changed except for another baby.”

Uhm...who the HELL would do that to a child?! She's not an animal! My daughter is a handful and constantly acts out. She did before my baby boy was born and she continues to do so. All you can do is be firm and no matter how irritating it may be, continue to get onto her. Put her in time out and if she screams, let her go on until she calms herself down and then talk to her. It may not seem to help, but it will as she gets older.

NEVER do anything like that. I'll spank when it's warranted, but that's RARE. I would never spray my child in the face with a water bottle.

Quoting *Wicked Mama*:“ Uhm...who the HELL would do that to a child?! She's not an animal! My daughter is a handful and constantly ... [snip!] ... like that. I'll spank when it's warranted, but that's RARE. I would never spray my child in the face with a water bottle.”

thats what i've been doing is being firm and spank when needed but i was still shocked at the whole water bottle thing even though my husband thinks its a good idea i havent seen him do it yet but he has threatenend it. i just wont let it happen

Quoting TexasMommy2008:“ thats what i've been doing is being firm and spank when needed but i was still shocked at the whole ... [snip!] ... even though my husband thinks its a good idea i havent seen him do it yet but he has threatenend it. i just wont let it happen”

That's just crazy. My daughter is a handful, too, and also two years old. It's hard sometimes, but my God. I could NEVER do that.

Yeah, I have definitely heard of using that for dogs, but never for a child!! Yikes. Two years olds are smart! She's prob taking advantage of the fact that you can't always discipline her right away or you sometimes will let something slide if you're busy with the baby. It's actually somewhat common with middle children. They don't think they'll ever be the "perfect" older child and they are n'tthe "cute" baby, so they don't know what their place in the family is. If she doesn't listen to you, then she gets a little extra attention. I would make sure you discipline her as soon as she does something wrong, whenever possible and once you choose to enforce a rule, make sure it's always enforced the same. Toddlers like consistency above all else. She may also get a lot out of some extra one on one positive attention from you. My mom used to give all three of us seperate bedtimes 730, 8, and 830. And that whole half an hour she would spend just with us, reading stories or what ever. My dad watched whoever's bed time it wasn't yet. I would make it a priority to find something that works though, otherwise it will become a habit. Good luck!

Lol...I havent ever heard of using that as punishment for kids. I do that to my son playing sometimes...he cracks up.
Have you tried time out?

If I tried to use that with my 2 year old she would laugh at me...and then ask me to spray her again! It sounds pretty absurd to spray a child in the face as punishment. I just had a baby and my daughter acted out a little bit, mostly with whining and needing us to do things for her that she can nomally do herself. We make it a point to give her extra one on one attention and just basically smother her with love. I really think its made a difference with how she's reacted to the addition of her brother and her mood in general.

Also remember to give her praise when she least expects it. Like, when she's behaving really well for you while you are attending to your other little ones and telling her how proud you are that she has been such a good girl=) Positive reinforcement goes such a long way and gives them the opportunity to seek out that positive attention rather than negative attention. If there is another baby int he picture and she is feeling a little distanced because of the attention the new one is getting, she may be acting out a little more just for the attention, because even if it is negative attention she is still getting some form of it.

I just started babysitting an 11 month old and my 2 1/2 year old is trying to get used to me sharing my love between the two of them. So I have been doing the same thing with her, telling her how wonderful she is when she helps me do things or gets me things for the baby. Even when she shares or plays nice I constantly tell her how great she is doing so that she knows that I'm not trying to leave her out.

i think shes going through a attention phase.. my son went through the same thing while i was pregnant and after i had his sister. What i suggest to you is watch when she reacts or dosent listen to you .... If you see signs or her wanting you and nothing to do with the baby then its a case of jelousy.
I breastfed my daughter till she hit 6 months , so while i breastfed her i would make him feel apart ... when i fed her he would chose one book and we would read it together on my bed while i fed her. Then when it came to diaper changes i would have him get a diaper ,wipes and cream and put it as a game.... we told him to `find `Gabby`s diaper .... then the wipes etc.... he easily saw that even if mommy is busy she still has time for me.... you can pm me anytime ive got loads of tricks.uck   its a phase in about 2 months it will pass even before that ;)

Quoting Dreamfyre:“ Also remember to give her praise when she least expects it. Like, when she's behaving really well for ... [snip!] ... she shares or plays nice I constantly tell her how great she is doing so that she knows that I'm not trying to leave her out.”

Absolutely! My daughter loves to be the little helper, thuogh sometimes it's a little too much. Still, I praise her efforts in order to keep her from getting upset or jealous. It's worked great so far. She hasn't acted out anymore than what is normal for her. You just have to find a happy medium of discipline AND praise. So many parents forget about praise!

Yeah i give tons of prasie and shes def. mommys little helper...i think she is going through an attention phase cause shes been acting out more than anything...lately shes been getting into trouble when she knows i'm feeding her brother or changing diapers and stuff but when her brothers sleeping she doesnt want anything to do with me even though i'm trying to play with her....oh and timeout for her doesnt work