This thread is intended to serve as a thread for any member who is struggling with something and needs someone to talk to. As we have seen in recent days, sometimes people are struggling with demons that they are unable to conquer on their own.
We are here to help you.
If you need someone to talk to, you may either post it in this thread and/or PM one of the people listed in this thread.
All of those listed have agreed to not being judgmental, are willing to listen, and would love to help you if you need it.
If you choose to post in this thread, please know that it is a Safe Zone
. Any judgmental comments will quickly be moderated out of the thread. This has been cleared through Mara, the site Admin.
I am also asking, as the OP of the thread, that no one in this thread share suicide stories. I don’t believe that to be helpful and will politely ask you to do it in another thread.
Out of respect for those that feel comfortable posting in here, please do not quote them. That way, if they choose to, they will have the option of deleting their post later. Thank you for respecting their privacy.
Here are the links to the Listeners:
Malia Joy http://members.baby-gaga.com/member729227
Also, if you are having suicidal thoughts, you should call
Or go to
If you do not feel comfortable talking about your problems on BG (for whatever reason), there is also a closed FB group ran by some BG ladies to protect your BG privacy.
BG Depression Group
Here is some information on Suicide Prevention that could save a life! Please read!
I know this won't take the place of an actual seminar or workshop on suicide prevention, but I think it's good information for people to have anyway.
Are there risk factors for suicide?
Risk factors for thoughts of suicide can vary with age, gender, and ethnic group. And risk factors often occur in combinations.
Over 90% of people who die by suicide have clinical depression or another diagnosable mental disorder. Many times, people who die by suicide have a substance abuse
problem. Often they have that problem in combination with other mental disorders.
Adverse or traumatic life events in combination with other risk factors, such as clinical depression, may lead to suicide. But suicide and suicidal behavior are never normal responses to stress.
Other risk factors for suicide include:
Are there warning signs of suicide?
- One or more prior suicide attempts Family history of mental disorder or substance abuse Family history of suicide Family violence Physical or sexual abuse Keeping firearms in the home Incarceration Exposure to the suicidal behavior of others
Warning signs that someone may be thinking about or planning to commit suicide include:
- Always talking or thinking about death Clinical depression -- deep sadness, loss of interest, trouble sleeping and eating -- that gets worse Having a "death wish," tempting fate by taking risks that could lead to death such as driving fast or running red lights Losing interest in things one used to care about Making comments about being hopeless, helpless, or worthless Putting affairs in order, tying up loose ends, changing a will Saying things like "it would be better if I wasn't here" or "I want out" Sudden, unexpected switch from being very sad to being very calm or appearing to be happy Talking about suicide or killing one's self Visiting or calling people to say goodbye
Be especially concerned if a person is exhibiting any of these warning signs and has attempted suicide in the past. According to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, between 20% and 50% of people who commit suicide have had a previous attempt.
What should I do if someone has signs of suicide and clinical depression?
First, if someone you know appears to be depressed and is contemplating suicide, take that person seriously
. Listen to what he or she is saying. Take the initiative to ask that person what he or she is planning.
But don't attempt to argue him or her out of committing suicide. Rather, let the person know that you care and understand and are listening. Avoid statements like: "You have so much to live for."
If someone you know appears to be depressed and talks about suicide, makes a suicidal gesture, or attempts suicide, take it as a serious emergency. Listen to the person, but don't try to argue with him or her. Seek immediate help from a health care professional.
Depressed people are often suicidal. It is a key symptom of the disease. Some studies show that the neurotransmitter serotonin plays a central role in the neurobiology of suicide. Researchers have found lower levels of serotonin in the brainstem and cerebrospinal fluid of suicidal individuals.
In addition, suicidal behavior sometimes runs in families. Remember, any talk of suicide is always an emergency. Have the person talk with a health care professional immediately.
Where can I seek help for suicide and depression?
Encourage the person to seek the help of a mental health
professional. Because the person probably doesn't think it's possible to be helped, you'll probably have to be persistent and go with that person.
If your loved one appears to be in imminent danger of committing suicide, do not leave him or her alone. Remove any weapons or drugs he or she could use. Accompany him or her to the nearest emergency room.
During treatment, be supportive. Help the person remember to take antidepressant
medications and to continue any other therapy that's been prescribed.
If You See the Warning Signs of Suicide...
Begin a dialogue by asking questions.
Suicidal thoughts are common with depressive illnesses and your willingness to talk about it in a non-judgmental, non-confrontational way can be the help a person needs to seeking professional help. Questions okay to ask:
Asking these questions will help you to determine if your friend or family members is in immediate danger, and get help if needed.
- "Do you ever feel so badly that you think about suicide?" "Do you have a plan to commit suicide or take your life?" "Have you thought about when you would do it (today, tomorrow, next week)?" "Have you thought about what method you would use?"
A suicidal person should see a doctor or mental health professional immediately. Calling 911
or going to a hospital emergency room are also good options to prevent a tragic suicide attempt or death. Calling the National Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK
is also a resource for you or the person you care about for help. Remember, always take thoughts of or plans for suicide seriously.
Never keep a plan for suicide a secret.
Don’t worry about risking a friendship if you truly feel a life is in danger. You have bigger things to worry about-someone’s life might be in danger! It is better to lose a relationship from violating a confidence than it is to go to a funeral. And most of the time they will come back and thank you for saving their life.
Don't try to minimize problems or shame a person into changing their mind.
Your opinion of a person's situation is irrelevant. Trying to convince a person suffering with a mental illness that it's not that bad, or that they have everything to live for may only increase their feelings of guilt and hopelessness. Reassure them that help is available, that depression is treatable, and that suicidal feelings are temporary. Life can
If you feel the person isn't in immediate danger, acknowledge the pain as legitimate and offer to work together to get help.
Make sure you follow through. This is one instance where you must be tenacious in your follow-up. Help find a doctor or a mental health professional, participate in making the first phone call, or go along to the first appointment. If you're in a position to help, don't assume that your persistence is unwanted or intrusive. Risking your feelings to help save a life is a risk worth taking.