How to get over baby daddy?

I dated my daughters father for 3 years. During my pregnancy he didn't take the news too well so he ended up breaking up with me & going out all the time & messing with my head because he couldn't fully let me go. Then our daughter was born & he was a changed man! He moved in but I still had my doubts because of what he put me through during my pregnancy. We were practically living a married life..well about a month ago he walked out. Said he's not in love with me & wants to be able to do thing with his friends without hearing he can't from me. Now I'm a single mom. He's a great dad but he doesn't want me anymore. How do you get over them when you still have to talk & see them all the time?! I'm struggling so much with this!! He's out partying having a good time..while I'm at home crying & taking care of our daughter! I need help!! Advice please?!

I was with my bd for 2 years and then foung out I was prego in december. I haven't seen him since. He had a daughter with his ex and he told he that he has no feelings formy baby and dosnt think she is his. Then I found out he had been cheating on my since november. I'm still not over him tho. I keep thinking maybe he will come around when she gets here but I doubt it. I wish I knew how to get over him but how do you let go of 2 years of memories and love?

I've found the only sure fire way to get over someone is time. Maybe some "taking care of you" things to regain a sense of "me" vs. "we?" Sorry you're dealing with this..

Wow that's ashame you had to go through that   everyone says things happen for a reason & eventually things will get better,.but I don't see how that happens when u date someone for so long & u can't just end it all like you would do in a relationship! Your stuck with that person & it takes longer to get over. I have no desire to go out or meet anyone new. Why are guys so damn heartless?! I hope things work out for you!!


& I'm trying to stay busy ESP. When I have up share her with him I'm trying to hey my life back in order with school & all. It's hard..just hard

me and my babys father arent togther and we kind of werent togther in the first place, he kept telling me that he wanted to be with me n he liked me so basically you know the rest got pregnant etc.im 7 months pregnant and really have no idea who he is . im having a baby with someone who has done coke in the past slept wit every girl possible and harmed my baby n I. thank god it was curable. and he keeps telling everyone how he wants my unborn daughter to be taken away from me. id rather not have him in the picture , n he think hes going to be in the delivery room n be the first person to hold her besides me.. aint gonna happen.

Quoting Sinqle Mommy To Be:" me and my babys father arent togther and we kind of werent togther in the first place, he kept telling ... [snip!] ... the picture , n he think hes going to be in the delivery room n be the first person to hold her besides me.. aint gonna happen."

At least he stuck around lol.
I thought we were in the same boat!
Cept my BD totally blocked me out the day I told him I was pregnant  
guys are smurfs.


&& OP: If he doesn't want to be with you then so be it, at least he gave you a beautiful daughter, there IS a guy out there for you & you'll find him when you need him the most.. all things will heal with time & sooner or later you'll be able to see him & wonder what you even saw in him in the first place. But I promise you there's a guy out there for you who wants to give you & your daughter everything in the world ! Just be patient & he'll come when you least expect it

OH yess no doubt, i tell him all the time im thankful you gave me a babygirl n shes beautiful . butt the hole thing im mad bout is that he trys to convince once shes born hes going to take her to his house which i dont like the ladi he lives with because she basically called me a whore when i know damn well i didnt lay down by myself u know what im saying? n more mad at the fact that he could of givin me n my daughter both somthing that will harm us even more ... N he tells all his friends that hes going to take me to court and try to take my baby away from me when he is the one that is a convicted felon..
but guys are heartless , we all will find someone whos worth it and are children lovee them. just have faith.

I was with my ex for 6 years and then he up and left last year for a new girl and her two kids.

It will take a while to get over him... Im still not over my ex. and he just married the girl that he left me for and shes pregnant and due the same time I am.

Just take it day by day.

Quoting KyliesMom312:" I dated my daughters father for 3 years. During my pregnancy he didn't take the news too well so he ended ... [snip!] ... He's out partying having a good time..while I'm at home crying & taking care of our daughter! I need help!! Advice please?!"

Well even though i never been in this position my sister in law is, shes going through a divorce right now, and my just went againist my whole family etc. its hard but you have to say enough is enough, think bout whats best for you and ur daughter because even though u might not know it your daughter problly knows whats going on..but my mom tells me this all the time regardless if he we have a man or not the women is stuck with everything. your going to find someone who will love you and wont leave you when things get rough and will love your daughter uncondinally . just dont let him come back to you. because your gnna break down sooner or later.

Quoting Sinqle Mommy To Be:" OH yess no doubt, i tell him all the time im thankful you gave me a babygirl n shes beautiful . butt ... [snip!] ... felon.. but guys are heartless , we all will find someone whos worth it and are children lovee them. just have faith. "

ohh yeah, he's pretty dumb for all of that smurf.
he needs help if you ask me..

It takes time but it will happen, my sons father walked out on me when i was 12 weeks pregnant with my moms best friend. I thought i was going to die and that the pain would never go away but it does in time and then eventually you will be grateful for everything that happened. I am sorry to hear that your going through this and hope it getts better for you

Going through the same thing but, he still do things with me like we're an couple buy he things even takes me out.But, when he tried of me again he don't answer his phone or ignore me and I'm now pregnant with our second child  . And yeah, it hard to deal with when an guy you spent almost 7 years with say they don't want u no more and want someone else.

Quoting Sinqle Mommy To Be:" me and my babys father arent togther and we kind of werent togther in the first place, he kept telling ... [snip!] ... the picture , n he think hes going to be in the delivery room n be the first person to hold her besides me.. aint gonna happen."

OMG my BD wants to be in the room too, and he hasn't done a thing for me except cause stress to me and the baby!   they all suck!

Quoting Natalie M Perez:" OMG my BD wants to be in the room too, and he hasn't done a thing for me except cause stress to me and the baby!   they all suck!"

yeaa, theyy doo my BD put me n my daughter at riskk . and thankk god they caught it in time.. he told me that he isnt going to give me money and w.e she needs then he will go with her to the store and buy w.e she wants. but shes going to be a baby for a long time lol so how the hell does that work?

Quoting KyliesMom312:" I dated my daughters father for 3 years. During my pregnancy he didn't take the news too well so he ended ... [snip!] ... He's out partying having a good time..while I'm at home crying & taking care of our daughter! I need help!! Advice please?!"

My thing is if he left you during that difficult time, he isn't worth it. I'm in a similar situation, except my BD left me when I was 22 weeks pregnant, suddenly. 3 days later he already has a new girlfriend and really cares about her, idk, I don't get it either. Maybe he really does, but I doubt it. All relationships start out great anyway. You say he changed when your daughter was born. . . he probably did, but they always end up going back to their bad ways after. I personally think my son's father won't change even when his son is born, but even if he does, I will never, EVER trust him again. Men do this when they aren't happy with themselves + I realized that. It wasn't all my fault, more his. I've stopped all contact with my BD and his family, so even when my son is born, he won't be notified and neither will anyone else connected to him. If he's that interested he'll do his share of work and try to find out before he's born since he knows the due date (his little sister's birthday, how could he forget). If he does nothing, then he was full of smurf the whole time anyway. Don't make it an issue, just do good for you and your daughter, that's what I am doing for me and my son. If he changes, great. Then have a nice life with someone else & look at me in reminder of what you could lose again if you go back to your old ways. Unless he changes drastically, he's out of the picture. We're done for good romantically. That's a given, a final. You should be done with him too. It's all about you and your baby, don't focus on him. Some people change; and some people don't. Don't waste your energy, let them waste theirs. My moto! :) Good luck sweetheart.