Quoting KyliesMom312:" I dated my daughters father for 3 years. During my pregnancy he didn't take the news too well so he ended ... [snip!] ... He's out partying having a good time..while I'm at home crying & taking care of our daughter! I need help!! Advice please?!"
My thing is if he left you during that difficult time, he isn't worth it. I'm in a similar situation, except my BD left me when I was 22 weeks pregnant, suddenly
. 3 days later he already has a new girlfriend and really cares about her, idk, I don't get it either. Maybe he really does, but I doubt it. All relationships start out great anyway. You say he changed when your daughter was born. . .
he probably did, but they always end up going back to their bad ways after. I personally think my son's father won't change even when his son is born, but even if he does, I will never, EVER
trust him again. Men do this when they aren't happy with themselves + I realized that. It wasn't all my fault, more his. I've stopped all contact with my BD and his family, so even when my son is born, he won't be notified and neither will anyone else connected to him. If he's that interested he'll do his share of work and try to find out before he's born since he knows the due date (his little sister's birthday, how could he forget). If he does nothing, then he was full of smurf the whole time anyway. Don't make it an issue, just do good for you and your daughter, that's what I am doing for me and my son. If he changes, great. Then have a nice life with someone else & look at me in reminder of what you could lose again if you go back to your old ways. Unless he changes drastically, he's out of the picture. We're done for good romantically. That's a given, a final. You should be done with him too. It's all about you and your baby, don't focus on him. Some people change; and some people don't. Don't waste your energy, let them waste theirs.
My moto! :
) Good luck sweetheart.