Friends...at the same time...

I found out at maybe around 14 weeks i lost my baby...I would have been 16 weeks this past saturday... I hung out with some of my friends and met a girl that was exactly the same as i was...except she didnt lose hers. She is only a year older than me. IDK i know i should get over it...and people i am close to keep telling me it will be okay..its not a huge loss...butt o me it was...you know how it feels whens omething just becomes a part of you? Its just hard...i just look at her..she is naming her baby girl Lily. I just look up and ask....why?
you know?

idk...

thanks for listening...

Megan

who ever told you its not a big loss is an idot im sorry. its the biggest loss for you. Maybe not for them they didnt feel the baby inside them. I havent had one I am here for other reasons but speaking as a mother who thought for two weeks her baby could die at any seccond I understand. You will eventually accept it but dont expect to get over it right away. when I first found out about my sons problem every time I saw a woman with a baby or a pregnant woman I envied her so bad why didnt I have a healthy baby also?! It was TO unfair! But after  a time of telling myself over and over its not their fault and there must be a reason for his problem now im fine with it and Ive accepted it. :-) You will to just dont expect it to happen overnight!

I think people who haven't been though it don't know what a big loss it is. I just lost my baby this weekend and am so sad. If i hear "you can have another one" one more time I will scream. I am so sorry for your loss. I don't think it is something that we will ever get over, but I know we have brighter days ahead. Keep your head up, and I will too =)

I agree with Crystal. People that havent been through it do not really understand. I didn't understand how someone could be that upset over losing a baby that they had never felt or seen... until it happened to me. And then, I even felt bad about being so heartbroken because I saw women like I have seen on here that lost their children so much further along or even after they were born. It is sad. I dont know how to describe it. Its like once you see that pink line, you know your child is in your body. And even after you lose the baby, you knew that baby was part of you. Dont feel bad about what you are feeling. You lost a child that meant a lot to you. But remember, that baby is with Jesus and you will meet your child one day. I know that does not make you feel better now, but I promise that it gets easier. To all of the moms who have lost babies, you are very strong and you are great mommies and will be great mommies in the future!!!!!

1. you shouldnt get over it
2. it IS a big loss

dont ever let anyone tell u those things..your child was a huge loss and it is not something your gonna just "get over"

Yea it is definetly a big loss and unless someone is in your situation, they wont understand. My sister lost twins when she was 20 weeks pregnant and at the time I had no clue how bad she could be hurting. But then I lost a daughter when I was 35 weeks pregnant, and I could talk to my sister bc she had been there but I felt bad or not being there for her as much as I should have, but its bc you never truly know how bad it hurts unless your in the situation. Also dont feel bad about being angry that the other girl is pregnant. I had a friend who was pregnant at the same time as me except due a few mths after me. She didnt know what she was having, but after I lost my daughter, she had her baby and the baby ended up being a girl. I completely stopped talking to her. I just couldnt deal with it.

Do NOT discount your feelings...that is a huge loss. You need time to grieve this and heal, don't bury your emotions just because other people tell you that you should be okay. <3