re: Question? possibly touchy....

A baby is an angel.. no matter how far along you where or if you where still pregnant.

I have 2 angels and if someone ever told me otherwise I would feel like she slapped me in the face and wouldn't take it too kindly.
You took it very well!

Never believe your baby wasn't an angel!

I believe that any baby that dies NO MATTER HOW OLD is an angel. 5 weeks or 3 years old it doesn't matter. They are all beautiful angels

you poor thing. I agree w/ everyone else...your baby is an angel. And how about I take the place of that " so called " friend of yours. Really, If you feel you have lost a friend, you have gained another with me. Please feel free to pm me anytime especially at this time of saddness and loss. Iam so sorry and apologize for RUDE people like her!

You were not in the wrong! Im sorry for your loss and a friend like that is no friend at all.. if it were me I would never talk to her again!

Quoting Calliesmommy27:“ Hi everyone, I have a question /issue that I am seeking some support on. I suffered a miscarriage on ... [snip!] ... for it. I don't really know what I am looking for I was am just so hurt and confused right now........thanks for listening.”

That's crap! a baby' heartbeat starts beating at 3weeks after conception. So you have every right to say you have an angel baby. I have 4 btw. She obviously is not a real friend and if I was you, would not have anything to do with her.

first Im sorry for your loss, but I wouldnt have said Im sorry to her when clearly she was the one in the wrong.
Maybe she feels she needs more attention and sympathy because she lost a twin at a longer stage than you, but whethe 1 weeks or 30 its still a big blow, and a heart break for anyone.
Both of you dont deserve to have such a loss, so It would have been better to stick together instead of her reacting in such a cruel way.

I was going to say the same thing as Mrs. K. Going by her severly messed up critera, a baby's heart starts beating at 3-4 weeks. Forgetting that this was still your child therefore this child is still an angel. I'm so sorry for your loss! My thoughts are with you!

First I am so sorry for your loss. We lost our baby on 1/31 6weeks 1day. And we are VERY much devistated! I not only have to heal from the emotions but now surgery from having a D&C and I gotta tell you - it's emails like these ones that can set a grieving gal back a few steps (See my post at Why Can't People Just Stop At.....). I do believe that your friend has some undealt with grief of her own and she is obviously lashing out at someone who is equally as weak as she is at the moment. You did nothing wrong in refering to YOUR baby as an ANGEL BABY! As we all know life is NOT black and white, it is filled with a TON of grey and so I think this applies to words as well. Your friend needs to realize that the BOTH of you used this term to comfort themselves in an unfortunate situation...and that is what is MOST important about this all - TO HEAL - TO FEEL COMFORT-TO MOVE ON. So, in my book you should use any words necessary to get you through the pain. Good luck to you. And I hope someday your friendship will mend, but for now just worry about you.

Quoting Ryan's mom & preg.:“ you poor thing. I agree w/ everyone else...your baby is an angel. And how about I take the place of that ... [snip!] ... feel free to pm me anytime especially at this time of saddness and loss. Iam so sorry and apologize for RUDE people like her!”

Thank you, I appreciate your kind words and reaching out to me. It's been a very painful and harsh few days and I just want to get past this. Because this person and I belong to a "group" of moms I feel like I am losing my friends and support because she and I were both in the core of the group. It just sucks, to have this happen to me on top of everything else. I added you to my parenttank  

Quoting Calliesmommy27:“ Hi everyone, I have a question /issue that I am seeking some support on. I suffered a miscarriage on ... [snip!] ... for it. I don't really know what I am looking for I was am just so hurt and confused right now........thanks for listening.”

Like you said, from the moment of conception, that baby is a baby, regardless of how far along you are. You've suffered the loss of a child and you have every right to grieve. My heart and prayers are with you and I hope that you find comfort. I'm sorry this has happened to you. She was probably speaking out of anger towards her own loss which is expected. Shes expressing her loss the way that she knows how to right now. Try not to take it too personal.

i've had a m/c in 05 at 13 weeks and an eptopic pregnacy at 9 weeks and they are my angel babies... they were still mine and no mater for how long they were alive inside of me. and if any one ever told me diffrent i would be angry .. to me they went to heven becouse god knew that they would have problems and that they were to good for this world.. as for now and the situation i'm faced with today with my lil girl that i'm carring today. if she does'nt make it . then she will be my 3 lil angel baby. that god let grow and then called her home for he did'nt want her to suffer.. so you call your lil bean an angel baby cuz thats what he/ she is... i'm sorry for your loss

Wow, the nerve of some people. I swear if anyone were to ever say something like that to me I would completely LOSE it!

I lost my baby recently also, had a D&C on 2/1/08.....I was supposed to be 12 weeks the baby passed at 10 and I saw my lil angel's heartbeat at 8 weeks. But, my point is....that was your baby your angel and how dare she try to downgrade your child. I understand she is grieving also but, that still doesn't give her the right to say that. I am soo sorry for your loss and know what you are going through, it's soo tough....I see more good than bad times right now, but I am sure to have my bad days again too. You can definetley PM me too, if you ever need to talk...you don't need to consider people like that your friends there are plenty of us at BG that would love to be your E-friend and support you in every stage of your loss!!
Take Care!!

Yourfriend was wrong to write that to you, and I hope that once she calms down, she'll realize that and do some apologizing herself. It's a shame she feels that her loss "trumps" yours and is disregarding your pain instead of using the opportunity to share eachother'sheartache and lean on eachother. A mother's love is a mother's love. I also lost my baby and had to have a D & C this week, and this emptiness and intense pain inour hearts and souls is real. Our babies ARE angels, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

She is probably letting her own grief get to her.
I agree with the comments above, you absolutely have every right to call your baby an angel baby. However, try to remember that your friend is in a very painful place right now as she has experienced a tremendous loss...in her eyes, bigger than your own. I too felt angry when I lost my baby at 18 weeks and a girl said, "oh that happened to me at 5 weeks". I've lost a baby at five weeks and it was NOTHING like the pain I felt by losing it further along. But I don't believe anyone really knows how anyone else feels and you have every right to grieve your child and call it whatever you want! Hang in there sweetie, if you ever need to talk feel free to message me.

I miscarried at 6 weeks 1 day and i believe that i havean angel baby in Heaven now! Like everyone else said, it doesnt matter how many weeks or how many months or years... It still hurts like hell to lose a baby. Im so sorry for your loss hun! Dont let anyone tell you otherwise about your Angel Baby!
R.I.P To all the little Angels in Heaven!