OMG! Please help 5 year old peeing pants!

My son is having a heck of a time not peeing his pants at school   We have tried everything taking things away, giving rewards, yelling, screaming, etc. My ex just called me and he's so frustrated with him. He said he was gonna take him to Great Wolf Lodge this weekend but now he doesnt want too because he just wont stop peeing his pants. We both are at our whits end with it. I even spoke with his teacher and she spoke with him in front of me that helped for like a week. Now we are at square one agian and hes still coming home with his pants wet. When we ask him he says there was a line at the bathroom. Im not sure what the heck else to do we are so lost and upset. Any suggestions please?

dont shout at him thats not gonna help maybe he is doin cos he feels left out?

You think punishing him is going to make him not pee his pants?

C.

punishing him is the WORST thing you could do. dont u think the embarassment of wetting himself at school is punishment enough??? Mayb he has a bladder infection or some other kind of medical problem. I would take him to the dr not make him feel like shit.  

yeah it seems like you have a new baby. thats how some children will react to a new baby. they regress back to doing baby stuff, such as potty training, talking, etc to get more attention. make sure you are giving him enough attention. one thing you need to do is reward his good behaviors, not acknowlede his bad ones. when he pees his pants just change him and let it go. when he goes in the potty tell him "i am so proud of you for usuing the potty like such a big boy". eventually he will see the way he gets attention is by going in the potty, not by wetting himself. right now he is reacting just to get attention, whether it's good or bad attention. so you only want to give him attention for the GOOD things he does. and the rules to acknowledging good behavior is to be promt- meaning acknowledge the good behavior as immediate as possible, be specific- meaning you have to say the exact thing he did that made you happy, not just "good boy". and you have to be consistent. keep up with acknoledging the good things he does because if you forget one time and he's not out of this stage, he might regress because he will feel like you dont care that he's doing good things for attention anymore. good luck.

Hey, I did that when I was younger, up till the age of about 14 or 15!!!

Your son may have a problem with his bladder, as I did.

They even talked about doing reconstrcutive surgery for me, back then, and now that my son is born, Im having the same problems, so I am being sent in for that surgery!

DONT yell at him, or make him feel emabrassed... TRUST me... That will only make it worse!!!!

Let him know that your there for him, that you love him, and that it is normal for that age (which it is!!!)
If you are that concerned about it, take him to the doctor.

His bladder may not be growing with him!!!! Or some other problem!

Or it could be the new baby, and if thats the case, Yelling at him is the WORST thing you can do!
You have to let him know that hes loved, and will continue to be, with a new baby!
He may be doing that for attention!


PLEASE, PLEASE stop yelling at him!!!

I guess I should've been clear we stopped yelling at him back in October (this has been going on since September) because I spoke with my councelor and she said it was the worst thing we could do. When I spoke with his teacher she said the same thing. She actually said dont even give rewards for going to the bathroom she said just tell him good job and move on. Since October we have just changed his pants and moved on. Lately it has seemed to have gotten worse and we really werent sure why. I didnt even think of the new baby being an issue. I will definately keep that in mind now. We both are just very frustrated and both loss at what to do. I did mention to his dad maybe we should take him to the doctor his dad said the last time he took him to the doctor his peditrician told him to just keep working at it. He keeps blaming it on the line at the bathroom so maybe I should speak with his teacher about more reminders and making sure he gets in there more. I do know yelling isnt the way to go, I was just looking for any suggestions that anyone else may have. If I have too I will take him back to the peditrician and see what he thinks agian. Thanks agian for the inputs

Quoting Mommy Jessica:“ I guess I should've been clear we stopped yelling at him back in October (this has been going on since ... [snip!] ... else may have. If I have too I will take him back to the peditrician and see what he thinks agian. Thanks agian for the inputs”

ah...i see you in a whole new light!!!   I'd def take him to the pediatrician. Sorry if I seemed bitchy wasn't meaning too  

my son had a slight herna and water in his balls sack; I know werid but that is what caused him to pee his pants and he had surgrey and he is all better now   i never knew about the water thing before; the doc asked me if he was always swollen on his sack and i said yes and thats when i found out it was a problem; it is very common in boys i never knew that; hope things work out; my brother didnt stop till 8 yrs old;

My son is five and has only recently stopped peeing his pants (almost 2 months). He was doing all the time after having good overall control. We took him to his doc and he was ok. We finally just made it his problem. He pees, he cleans up and changes clothes etc..
He was pretty unhappy because the pee was "super gross" but it helped him realize how important it is to make time to go to the bathroom.

We just kind of gave up I guess after trying everything. He has the occasional accident but it is so rare now. Good luck and this too will pass.

Quoting PrncessConsuelaBananahmmk:“ ah...i see you in a whole new light!!!   I'd def take him to the pediatrician. Sorry if I seemed bitchy wasn't meaning too  ”

No its exactly what I wanted was suggestions and inputs. We arent perfect parents so just trying to do whats best for our 5 year old more than anything we both are so sad for him because we are at a loss at how to help him. He is such a sweet boy and this issue really affects him.

Quoting *angel eyes*:“ my son had a slight herna and water in his balls sack; I know werid but that is what caused him to pee ... [snip!] ... out it was a problem; it is very common in boys i never knew that; hope things work out; my brother didnt stop till 8 yrs old;”

Thanks, I will take him to the peditrician and mention this. If he wont do anything I will get a 2nd opinion

Quoting Boy's mommy:“ My son is five and has only recently stopped peeing his pants (almost 2 months). He was doing all the ... [snip!] ... up I guess after trying everything. He has the occasional accident but it is so rare now. Good luck and this too will pass.”

We tried this actuallya friendsuggested it but the crazy part was he didnt even mind being wet or changing his own clothes

hi there i am new to this. but i was reading your post about your son who is 5 and still peeing in his pants.. My son just turned 5 and he still pees in his pants. I am in the same boat you are in, not knowing what to do for him, cause like your son he doesnt mind staying in wet cloths or still sleeping in pull up at night. I have tried most everything, and like everyone has been suggesting to you take your son to the doctor, my family has been telling me the same thing. SO i just might do that just make sure.

My first advice would be to take him to the ped to make sure nothing is wrong. If nothing is wrong, it could be that he's just having too much fun -and doesn't want to interrupt his playing with something boring like going potty.This was the case with my grandaughter (and my son has also done it a couple of times).

This is going to sound horrid, but thelast time my GD did it, I stripped her down, made her clean up the pe and threw her in the tub in mildly (not bitterly) cold water. She was VERY unhappy that the water was cold. I said I was sorry, but we needed to get her cleaned up. When herMom came home, shementioned that it made sense because she'dnormally get thrown into a nice warm tub where sheended up playing. Her Mom did the same thing the next time it happened and she never wet herself again. She did NOT want to have to take that cold bath. I know it sounds mean, but sometimes a good aversion works wonders.