baby daddy is with someone else

im hurt really bad because my bd is with anohter chick n i feel like im being used by him cuz i have sex with him sometimes. im in love with him so its hard to stop but i dnt know what to do about it. one minute he wants me then the next he wants her. he leads me on n it hurts badly to feel like im the other woman when im caring his child. 


anyone have any advice for me?

uh.. leave him? Stop sleeping with him?

he doesn't sound like he's worth it.

Weren't you talking about this in a previous post?

My advice would be stop having sex with him and move on. Too many other men out there.

how old are you? Not that it matters, I was just curious, so you don't have to answer.

Although it may be hard to leave him since you love him and now you're going to have this baby that's half his, I seriously doubt it will get any better the way it's going. If you let it keep going on, he's going to think it's okay to do it. And if you don't tell him it's not going to happen like that, he will keep doing it and it will hurt you even more. If he can't get rid of her, get rid of him. And if you don't speak up and say something about it, you are kinda responsible for hurting yourself.

Quoting tee_5/31/08:“ im hurt really bad because my bd is with anohter chick n i feel like im being used by him cuz i have ... [snip!] ... me on n it hurts badly to feel like im the other woman when im caring his child.  anyone have any advice for me?”

i know how u feel ma.. but best thing to do is say fuck him becuase YOU do not need him!!!!! no one should treat u like that so.....i say ... u tell him buzz of!

Seriously? seriously??


you're going to catch something.

I know it is really hard and you probably have so many emotions wrapped up in him. But you are hurting yourself by allowing him to treat you this way. I would recommend you let him know that you will not be second best to anyone and you will no longer allow him to use you for sex when its convenient for him.

cut all ties, you know what he is doing is wrong so why put yourself through that. leave him forget him. take your losses and move on.

I agree with kmg83 because in the long run god forbid u get burned by him! Its not cool to get std's and getting them while pregnacy is even worse! You need to think about that baby and forget him because in the long run the baby is going to suffer!

You need to let him go.

I think you know the answer to your own question. It doesn't make sense to love and sleep with a guy who does not love you and hurts you especially when you are carrying his child.

Again another guy who must have a golden rod. I don't understand girls who put themselves through this.

Quoting We're having a GIRL!:“ how old are you? Not that it matters, I was just curious, so you don't have to answer. Although it ... [snip!] ... of her, get rid of him. And if you don't speak up and say something about it, you are kinda responsible for hurting yourself.”

i am young just barely about to be 18 but i do speck n i tell him that its not going to happen but then he comes over n my word is just gone out the door. he is not a bad person he just i guess got tired of my mood swings n stuff but its not my fault. he told me that he hasnt slept with her yet but i dnt know for sure.

Quoting tee_5/31/08:“ i am young just barely about to be 18 but i do speck n i tell him that its not going to happen but ... [snip!] ... got tired of my mood swings n stuff but its not my fault. he told me that he hasnt slept with her yet but i dnt know for sure.”

He is not a bad person? Um I believe he is a very bad person. Good people don't hurt the ones they love. Wake up dear.

Quoting tee_5/31/08:“ i am young just barely about to be 18 but i do speck n i tell him that its not going to happen but ... [snip!] ... got tired of my mood swings n stuff but its not my fault. he told me that he hasnt slept with her yet but i dnt know for sure.”

doesnt matter if he slept with her or not hes still with her and probably plans on sleeping with her or who ever else he can and still come back to you since he knows you will put out. im sorry i dont mean to be mean but you need to get out of this situation before it gets any worse you need to realize he is using you.