re: baby daddy is with someone else

Quoting tee_5/31/08:“ i am young just barely about to be 18 but i do speck n i tell him that its not going to happen but ... [snip!] ... got tired of my mood swings n stuff but its not my fault. he told me that he hasnt slept with her yet but i dnt know for sure.”

Thinking he can use you makes him a bad person.

Think about this. Would you want your kid around someone like that?

I think he is a very bad person and you need to be strong enough to tell him good-bye and SAY NO when he tries again!

its like maybe if there wasnt a child involved it would be easier to let him go but i never wanted to raise my daughter as a single parent like my mom did me and my siblings because its hard now and days. he says he loves me but if you love someone you wouldnt want to hurt them right?

Quoting tee_5/31/08:“ its like maybe if there wasnt a child involved it would be easier to let him go but i never wanted to ... [snip!] ... and my siblings because its hard now and days. he says he loves me but if you love someone you wouldnt want to hurt them right?”

honey you dont need a "boy" to raise a child. you can be strong enough to do this on your own, lots of women have and will continue to do so.

Quoting tee_5/31/08:“ its like maybe if there wasnt a child involved it would be easier to let him go but i never wanted to ... [snip!] ... and my siblings because its hard now and days. he says he loves me but if you love someone you wouldnt want to hurt them right?”

Would you rather be with him and be miserable or be single and happy?

Children do much better in a single family home if the parent is happy than in a house with 2 parents who are miserable.

It's quite obvious he doesn't love you and doesn't know how to treat you.

I've said it before but I don't think it's sinking in. You should leave him before it gets worse.

im not with him he is just my baby's father n we just broke up so it was still kinda fresh. im willing tolet him go but i dnt want my daughter to end up like me 17 and pregnant. my family is always having babies at a young age. it will take time to heal but i think cutting him off will be best for our child n for me too.

It is so sad how many of these girls come on here with the same story. I mean there are like 3 a day that I see. The sad part is that they know they have to leave these losers.

Why are there so many men having babies with women and then having more women on top of the ones that are having their babies, its like they think it is cool or something to have kids from different mothers. Why are women not seeing these guys for what they are and taking matters into their own hands, liek using protection when having sex with a potential loser??

Plus you don't have to be with him in order for him to be a part of your child's life. If he wants to be a part of the child's life he will.

Quoting tee_5/31/08:“ im not with him he is just my baby's father n we just broke up so it was still kinda fresh. im willing ... [snip!] ... having babies at a young age. it will take time to heal but i think cutting him off will be best for our child n for me too.”

You're not with him... but still sleeping with him? You gotta stop.

at first he was just the greatest guy ever but now that im about to pop in a couple months he changed so much. he wants to be in her life its just that i dnt kno if i can deal with him myself. i havent talked to nobodt but my best friend n she doesnt understand what im going through so its simple i kno that he is hazardous to me and the baby but everytime i feel her kick or look at her ultrasound i think of him. i really did want to be a famly with him i was just so stressed that i pushed him away i guess. maybe because i am young that plays a major part in ehy i wont let go. 

Quoting tee_5/31/08:“ at first he was just the greatest guy ever but now that im about to pop in a couple months he changed ... [snip!] ... just so stressed that i pushed him away i guess. maybe because i am young that plays a major part in ehy i wont let go. ”

Being young can play a part in it but having a baby pretty much means that you can't use that arguement anymore. You gotta grow up quick. It's not just you anymore. Plus, depression and your emotions can play a part in your baby's developement.

It's gonna be hard but you gotta try to move on and see him for the ass that he is!

Really, the only way to prevent becoming pregnant young would be to teach your baby the ways to avoid it. She'll make her own choices and accidents can happen. That's really all you can do though, whether her dad is in her life or not. And honestly, if you don't put an end to things now, it will keep going on. How will you feel when one day your baby asks why daddy has another girlfriend? And then when she gets older and realizes what was going on, she isn't going to have very much respect for you. I can understand that a part of you feels like you need him to be in your life but the truth is, you don't. You will find somebody else, a MAN this time. Someone who will be able to help you raise your child the right way, not show her a different girl every time he stops by.

Quoting tee_5/31/08:“ im hurt really bad because my bd is with anohter chick n i feel like im being used by him cuz i have ... [snip!] ... me on n it hurts badly to feel like im the other woman when im caring his child.  anyone have any advice for me?”

you better leave his no good,proly small dick wit bumps on the tip ass.! do female needs that,and if you stay with him after hes goes from one (sorry but got to be real) chocha to the next, then you loca.