re: Signs you're being emotionally abused

Thanks for posting C- my ex(my child's father) was emotionally and verbally abusive to me. I knew there were problems as the relationship got more serious, but I decided to ignore the red flags. My mother in particular was witness to many episodes of his abuse and negative treatment of me. She would no longer allow him at our house. So I moved in with him for it to be easier for me to basically be at his beck and call- however we thought we were in "love". Being w/ him was a huge mistake and I still have not learned how to heal from the events that took place or grieve the loss of what I "thought" we had. He kicked me out when I got pregnant, threw all my stuff out of his apt. and down the stairs, all while bashing me in front of his neighbors to an extent thatwords cannot describe,and now is trying for full custody of the child he wanted me to abort-  

Quoting mommylaur:“ Thanks for posting C- my ex(my child's father) was emotionally and verbally abusive to me. I knew there ... [snip!] ... neighbors to an extent thatwords cannot describe,and now is trying for full custody of the child he wanted me to abort-  ”

Sorry you had to go through such a horrible experience.   I'm glad you are out of a relationship like that.

Quoting DawnK:“ Sorry you had to go through such a horrible experience.   I'm glad you are out of a relationship like that.”

Thank you- it was extremely hard and still is. I'm sad my daughter most likely won't have a supportive father figure. If he gets visitation/partial custody I will worry b/c he was an alcoholic, into prescription drugs, had 2 dui's, revoked lisence, horrible temper, no patience, road rage, and the list goes on. . .I guess he has tried to shape up, but I don't trust him, and will forever worry about my daughter if she is ever in his hands. . .  

although i am aware of the signs and symptoms, its nice to see it written.
i was in a very abusive relationship (emotionally, physically, verbally, mentally) but am now working on MY issues as to why that happened.
people are so quick to judge when one person in a relationship is abusive(not saying that it is ok), but the other person is usually allowing it to go on as well. usually because of childhood issues.
that is what my team of doctors are for ;-)
and also why i am still single and not looking.

thanks!

It's interesting. I've been through a lot of things since I hit my teenage years, and even though I'm in a solid, happy relationship NOW, the problems from the past still affect me, and the way I act, and view myself as a person.

A lot of those things you don't really think about, but reading them in a list like that, and having to say "yes, I do that.", or "Yeah, I feel that way a lot." to almost everything in that list is surprising, because you're being made aware of what you do.

Quoting baby-gaga user:“ although i am aware of the signs and symptoms, its nice to see it written. i was in a very abusive relationship ... [snip!] ... of childhood issues. that is what my team of doctors are for ;-) and also why i am still single and not looking. thanks!”

You know that is a super interesting point because it's true. There are abusers and victims out there and just like you said, now I'm trying to work on my issues because, even though I am not saying in anyway that I could have caused the abuse, I allowed it to last so long because it's all I've known before him and all through my childhood, andbecausewe all have the dream of living happily ever after I was waiting for that to happen but thnak God I snapped out of it and decided to refocus my life to be centered on my happiness and my son's future completely instead of continuing to accomodate his dad. I think leaving is the best thing I've done because, again, still with my dreams, because I know that regardless of my sweet dreams I still will achieve enough to give my son a decent future (and much more than that I hope), this may also help him get a perspective and see that regardless of his views on life and women, no one has the right to belittle others, ever.