want to cry but cant!

soi guess i just want to vent so im tellin you this before you read it...im venting!! Please let me!

So the FOB lives wit me cause i have a great heart but meanwhile he has gf but he treats me like his gf, he sleeps wit me and kisses me and tells me he loves me, and he never sees this other girl or talk to her but i guess he used my computer last night to talk to her cause when i got on myspace i seen their comments to each other and i seen his default pic is of him and her kissing..i mean he knows that is gonna be in my face i mean its not a big deal because its fuckin myspace but damn that shit hurts i wake him up every morning for work i make him breakfast and walk with him to his spot where he gets picked up from work then at night i go and pick him up i mean why do i let myself be in this position, i hate him for this i want to cry but i know i cant i know its bad for aaliyah!!

sometimes i wonder just how much i can take =[
what does she have that i dont?

i would kick his ass out...he isnt honoring you in anyway...besides, if he is sleeping around, you could get something and pass it to your baby...

i know you love him and blah...but its causing you stress....and you and the baby is what is important, hun

Quoting Aaliyah's Mama:“ soi guess i just want to vent so im tellin you this before you read it...im venting!! Please let me! ... [snip!] ... i know i cant i know its bad for aaliyah!! sometimes i wonder just how much i can take =[ what does she have that i dont?”

just kick him out, && ignore him it will hurt but youll get over it && know what is best for you && your daughter . he wont change unless you step up because he knows you wont do nothing .

ive tried kickin him out but he always comes back like i kicked him out once and we didnt talk or see each other for like a week and a half but then he came back and said hes changed and now hes been here for 2 weeks! and im scared that if im mean to him that when aaliyahs here hes gonna try to take her away from me =[

Quoting Aaliyah's Mama:“ ive tried kickin him out but he always comes back like i kicked him out once and we didnt talk or see ... [snip!] ... been here for 2 weeks! and im scared that if im mean to him that when aaliyahs here hes gonna try to take her away from me =[”

he comes back because you let him??

gotta put your foot down, hun...or up (his ass)

I agree...he is having his cake and eating it too! Screw that!!! Yeah it will be hard to be alone at first...but, who wants a man like that!?!!?

Quoting Aaliyah's Mama:“ soi guess i just want to vent so im tellin you this before you read it...im venting!! Please let me! ... [snip!] ... i know i cant i know its bad for aaliyah!! sometimes i wonder just how much i can take =[ what does she have that i dont?”

wow. He is basically getting the best of both worlds and why is that? Because you are letting him, you can't be angry at him because you are letting him do this to you. People will take and take and take from you for as long as you are willing to give. Please stop doing this to yourself and try to move on. If this is causing you pain then end it. Be strong for you and your baby, this is not right and you know it.

Quoting Nikra:“ wow. He is basically getting the best of both worlds and why is that? Because you are letting him, you ... [snip!] ... try to move on. If this is causing you pain then end it. Be strong for you and your baby, this is not right and you know it.”

  

Quoting Aaliyah's Mama:“ ive tried kickin him out but he always comes back like i kicked him out once and we didnt talk or see ... [snip!] ... been here for 2 weeks! and im scared that if im mean to him that when aaliyahs here hes gonna try to take her away from me =[”

If you are the one with the stable living situation what makes you think a judge will allow him to take your daughter?

Quoting MonicaNichole84:“ If you are the one with the stable living situation what makes you think a judge will allow him to take your daughter?”

Well if he gets his own place, but i live with my parents still i dunno..i want to let go so bad but i just dont know how! i hate goin through this ive been goin through this for 6 months!

Quoting Aaliyah's Mama:“ ive tried kickin him out but he always comes back like i kicked him out once and we didnt talk or see ... [snip!] ... been here for 2 weeks! and im scared that if im mean to him that when aaliyahs here hes gonna try to take her away from me =[”

lettign him stay because you don't want to be mean to him? he will not take your baby from you! He can sue for visitation, but if he has no reason to take the baby, a judge will not give him the child. You don't have to be mean to him when you kick him out, just calmly tell himt hat you need to respect yourself and take care of yourself, emotionally and physically and right now he is making you sick emotionally and physically with his behavior and you are gaining NOTHING by keeping him around, only heart ache and you don't need that. He is taking advantage of you, you need to make him see the error he has made. Stop making him breakfast and taking care of him! Do you want to be his mother or his lover and mate? He maybe sees you like a comofort, like a mother and this other skank is taking the lover and mate role. F them both and take a stand.

Quoting Nikra:“ wow. He is basically getting the best of both worlds and why is that? Because you are letting him, you ... [snip!] ... try to move on. If this is causing you pain then end it. Be strong for you and your baby, this is not right and you know it.”

i know and the messed up thing is he says his other girl is pregnant but i think they are lying to me because she has not been to a dr and everytime he talks to her she is bleeding but yet he says he cant leave her cause shes pregnant and he cant make the same mistake twice! But yet i dont think shes pregnant i want to kno if she is and i think i deserve to know because she is ruining my pregnancy and if she is lying about her pregnancy its not right to make a real woman that is carrying a real baby miserable

Quoting Nikra:“ lettign him stay because you don't want to be mean to him? he will not take your baby from you! He can ... [snip!] ... sees you like a comofort, like a mother and this other skank is taking the lover and mate role. F them both and take a stand.”

I agree   with my bad case of pregnancy brain I doubt I could have ever written this out lol

girl. i seperated from my FOB. and we are in two seperate places now... because the environment was getting to stressful. i choose not to deal with bullshit...
dont fall into the "im gonna change, im sorry" trap. they always come back, shouting i love you's and i want to be with you's. but if he can't even prove it... than he has proved to you that he ain't worth it.
you can do bad all by yourself....and you don't need that shit around you because it unhealthy.
be alone is hard, but being with a man like that is always harder.
you have to make a choice.
don't sacrafice the happiness you deserve between you and your child, for a man that does stupid shit constantly.
that pic of them kissing is a RED FLAG. if he is making it that obvious... than it shows he doesn't give a fuck. so why should you?
love can only hold so much. and YOU are the backbone of it all... and its YOU that is doing everything for him. and he shows his appreciation by being a complete dick and an asshole. he doesn't even deserve you.
love doesn't mean an excuse for putting up with his bullshit.
since you BEEN doing it by yourself.....so keep it going without him.

Until you realize that you and your daughter deserve better, it's just going to keep happening. You are worthMORE than what he is willing to give. You deserve a man who will be by you and love you the way you deserve to be loved. Simple as that. But you have to come to this realization for yourself. Believe me, it took me years to come to this self-realization so I stay married to a verbally/emotionally abusive husband for 14 years.
Don't let it take you that long hun. Life is too short to waste on someone who doesn't deserve you.