I really need some good advice!

so, I talked to my new social worker yesterday (who also happens to be a NEW social worker) and we were talking about my last court date and about how we need to start figuring out how we're going to organize the visits with my daughter onceI give birth to Aden which will be sometime in March... and THEN, out of no where she tells me that she doesn't want my bf/fiance (not either of my babies' dad) to see my daughter as much as he's been seeing her because of her emotional trauma (and hedoesn't even seeher much b/c he's so busy working his ass off so he can provide for me and the little one on the way, who, once again, isn't even his baby!),she thinks it's a bad idea to bring 'so many new people' around her when in reallity, the only people that ever go see her are myself, my sister, and my bf,HOW IS THAT 'SO MUCH NEW PEOPLE'?!? The worst part is that my boyfriendREALLY wants to adopt her and wants he to see HIMas her dad but when I told him this, he got really hurt and now feels like they're not gonna even try to work with him. I dont know how to talk with my social worker about this! I'm so pissed specially since they're still trying to gether dad involved eventhough he's caused so many problems! I seriously think that my daughter's grandmother ( who she's in foster care with) is the one brainwashing my social worker b/c all of a sudden 'my bf has a baby', or at leastthat's what SOMEONE told my SW, guesses anyone? 

What emotional trauma is she going through? And the current bf isn't the father to either child? And is she with your mother or his mother? I'm sorry...I wish I could help but I don't really understand the situation...

Edited to add: Nevermind...I remember a post about this situation. I say that your daughter's safety and comfort comes first and everything else comes second. If the social worker doesn't like the idea of multiple people around, then trust that. They'll be time later for bonding...

Quoting missing my babies:“ so, I talked to my new social worker yesterday (who also happens to be a NEW social worker) and we were ... [snip!] ... my social worker b/c all of a sudden 'my bf has a baby', or at leastthat's what SOMEONE told my SW, guesses anyone? ”

you need to focus on getting yourself straight so when you finally get your daughter back, you will be the safest and best option for her. Your social worker is a trained professional, if she thinks your guy is too much of an overload on your daughter, then maybe she knows whats best. Ultimately, if you plan on having your daughter back, your guy will be in your daughters life....i know its hard being patient with these kinds of things...but you need to be while the situation works itself out  

good luck, hon

Quoting BrittanieY:“ What emotional trauma is she going through? And the current bf isn't the father to either child? And ... [snip!] ... And is she with your mother or his mother? I'm sorry...I wish I could help but I don't really understand the situation...”

Wwll, my daughter is having a hard time crawling and her physical therapist thinks that her developmental delays might have to do with her emotional trauma, as in, dealing with her brother's death (her twin brother), dealing with the fact that her dad never cared for her & isn't around now, dealing with her being removed from my care, dealing with all the things her dad used to do to her, and dealing with the complications of having been born premature.
No, my current bf isn't either baby's dad, they're both from my previous relationship.
My daughter is currently with her dad's mom, she has been for about 7 months now.

I read an earlier post and I don't understand why your daughter is not with you. If you are going to ask for advice, it would help if you gave us the details. Like what was the exact reason for taking you r daughter from you and what they told you to do to get her back. I have 2 friends who work for CPS here in Michigan and I know they just can't take your child without very good reasons.

I'm thinking if your daughter has such emotional and physical delays, maybe its best to let her be for now... let her get back on her feet

Isn't you Sw supposed to be there to help you out? i believe that the more people there are to love the child the better off they will be.

Sorry hunny but that is slightly F'ed up. she's your baby. no matter what.

And may i ask what happened? you don't really need to tell me but i am intrested in things like this because i am trying to go to collage to be a social worker! but i would be a good one! the one that everyone requests!

My daughter was removed because my son passed away and since CPS was already involved when this happened (because I was too young to be a good mother for premature infants), my daughter had to be removed until the investigation of my son's death was over. I WAS gonna get my daughter back after the investigation was done but I decided not to because I was afraid that her dad might harm her so I told CPS that I wanted to put her up for adoption, since that wasn't really what I wanted and I didn't want to be with my ex neither, I decided to run away from him and get my daughter back and my life back on track. But since I had dissappeared for a bit longer than a month after my son's funeral, now I have to do a case plan (parenting classes, AA or NA meetings, I have to see a therapist weekly, and move out of my mom's house) BEFORE I get her back, which I really have no problem with anymore b/c everything has been so helpful to me.
"the more people there are to love the child the better off they will be." that was my SW's way of thinking too, before she met Barb. That's why I'm so confused and pissed now! I think Barb is just pissed b/c Junior (my bf) has been a better dad to Alize (my daughter) than her son ever was or could be.

you know i used to be a foster parent and i know a lot about social work and cps ... it takes a lot of work to get you kid back..a lot..and they will not let you have that baby if there is any concern that she is in ANY danger both emotionally and physically i think that she needs to get better as well and that you should just cooperate with cps and do whatever they say and stay on your plan that is the only way to get her back ...

Quoting lindseyglover:“ you know i used to be a foster parent and i know a lot about social work and cps ... it takes a lot of ... [snip!] ... that you should just cooperate with cps and do whatever they say and stay on your plan that is the only way to get her back ...”

Thanks for your advice. 

Quoting missing my babies:“ Thanks for your advice. ”

no problem! good luck i wish you the best