re: Post Partum Depression (PPD)

Quoting *auzzysgirl*:“ Yeah grinding your teeth is one of the side effects. You can try using a night guard for that, I heard ... [snip!] ... anxiety, insomnia, yawning, twitching, nausea, etc. But like I said, after 2 months they start fading away...thank goodness!”

good.. i hope so.. i cant stand this it hurts to chew! lol.

Hello everyone i'm dealing with PPD so bad that my doctor wanted me to check myself into a hospital but its gotten some what better now that my 2nd child is 6 months old she was due dec 4th but i went into labor nov 8th and 450 am and was in the nicu for two months and we finaly got to bring her home jan 14th the meds they gave me ain't working so i'm going crazy trying to deal with both a 5yr old and 6 month old any ideas for me until i go back to see my doc

Quoting aNNIE22041:“ Hello everyone i'm dealing with PPD so bad that my doctor wanted me to check myself into a hospital but ... [snip!] ... working so i'm going crazy trying to deal with both a 5yr old and 6 month old any ideas for me until i go back to see my doc”

If you don't mind me asking, what are the meds that you are taking? Maybe we can suggest something that might work better for you?

I'm not sure what I'm dealing with so I haven't talked about it to anyone.
Jackson is nearly 8 months old. For the first month of his life I felt overwhelmed and I cried, but it didn't seem serious. I am a first time mother, my SO and I are both military and are away from family. I was on maternity leave but Jason was working constantly and I had no help and didn't know what I was doing. That seems pretty normal to be upset about. So then I wasn't concerned about any serious problems.
As time has gone on, I feel like the only reason I do anything for Jackson is because it's what I'm supposed to do, or because I have to. I love him and I do take good care of him, but shouldn't that be because I WANT to? But it's not. I don't want to. I feel like he's a burdon and is annoying. I pick him up and hold him because I don't want to listen to him whine, not because I want to comfort him. It drives me crazy when I'm busy doing something and Jackson is upset and Jason doesn't jump right up to calm him down. I'm like "WHY AREN'T YOU KEEPING HIM QUIET?!" I'm angry that I can't keep up with the dishes and the laundry and the typical house work, and then I'm sad on the weekends about all of the housework that I have piled up and have time for nothing else. And then it never gets finished of course. I can't remember the last time I vacuumed...anyhow the point is that I don't enjoy taking care of Jackson. I just do it because I feel like I have to. I've never felt like I wanted to hurt him, or myself. I just feel like he's annoying and I'd rather not deal with it, but I do, because I'm supposed to, and someone has to. I do love him, I want him well taken care of, I guess I just don't want to be the one doing it. I just don't feel like I have any bond with him.

Now after reading what I've just written, I feel embarrassed. It sounds like I'm just lazy.

Quoting Jackson's Mama:“ I'm not sure what I'm dealing with so I haven't talked about it to anyone. Jackson is nearly 8 months ... [snip!] ... like I have any bond with him. Now after reading what I've just written, I feel embarrassed. It sounds like I'm just lazy.”

It doesn't sound like you are lazy. It sounds like you might have PPD. One of the signs is a lack of attachment to your baby. You feeling like you are only taking care of him because you have to, not because you want to, is a definite sign, from what I've read. And your feeling of a lack of a bond...I urge you to talk to a doctor.

However, the thing with the house being a mess and chores not getting done...oh that's completely normal in every house with an infant. I too can't remember when I vacuumed last. lol

Quoting sooz the Formula Guru:“ It doesn't sound like you are lazy. It sounds like you might have PPD. One of the signs is a lack ... [snip!] ... not getting done...oh that's completely normal in every house with an infant. I too can't remember when I vacuumed last. lol”

Same here, I don't vacuum my house and I have a hard time keeping up with chores, not because I'm that busy actually, just because I don't feel like doing it. But I get to hear about it from my family! Boy! I don't even want to start about them...But it doesn't make me happy to be around them because they don't have a clue how I'm feeling. It sucks.

Quoting *auzzysgirl*:“ Same here, I don't vacuum my house and I have a hard time keeping up with chores, not because I'm that ... [snip!] ... to start about them...But it doesn't make me happy to be around them because they don't have a clue how I'm feeling. It sucks.”

I don't think any mother EVER feels like cleaning. That is not a bad thing. Now, if you are living in filth, then yes, you need to clean. lol

And no one will ever know what you are feeling or going through unless they have been there, and even then, each woman has such different symptoms that we don't know exactly how you are feeling. But we can understand. Even women that have just had "baby blues" have an idea of what you are feeling.

Don't let your family get to you. It's hard, but YOU and your baby are the most important things, not them. They can go kick rocks.  

Lol thanks, you made me cheer up. Of course I wouldn't let my house go THAT bad, but yeah it's been pretty messy at times. But yeah I need to not let my feelings get so hurt by my family...I really need to work on that one...

I had my daughter april 18th and she stayed in the hospital for 4 days and not being with her made me go nuts and when i got her home i couldnt handle it i was crying all the time and i felt like a bad mom went to the doctor and i have PPD soo i got put on meds and im starting to do better im just glad im not the onley one whos going threw this any ladys have any advice for me id like to here it

I have PPD. I'm on Zoloft. It's been about 3 weeks since I started the meds...things have improved but I don't know if we're back to 100%.

My doc says PPD hits 1 in 10 women. I'm outraged that this common of a mood disorder is not discussed more often!! And I'm frustrated at my mom for not telling me she had PPD too...depression is hereditary afterall...at least in part.

Quoting CatLuvr83:“ I have PPD. I'm on Zoloft. It's been about 3 weeks since I started the meds...things have improved but ... [snip!] ... often!! And I'm frustrated at my mom for not telling me she had PPD too...depression is hereditary afterall...at least in part.”

ya thats what meds im on is zoloft they work great

Quoting CatLuvr83:“ I have PPD. I'm on Zoloft. It's been about 3 weeks since I started the meds...things have improved but ... [snip!] ... often!! And I'm frustrated at my mom for not telling me she had PPD too...depression is hereditary afterall...at least in part.”

Isn't that insane? That so many women get it, and it's almost taboo to discuss? I tried talking to my family doctor about it, he's an old guy who's been practicing for 30+ years, and he got this almost panicked look on his face and said, "I'm going to refer you to someone that is better equipped to talk about this." lol Which is kinda sad, since he used to be a OB/GYN. I wonder what he told his poor patients back then? I hope he referred them, like he did me.

Quoting sooz the Formula Guru:“ Isn't that insane? That so many women get it, and it's almost taboo to discuss? I tried talking to my ... [snip!] ... sad, since he used to be a OB/GYN. I wonder what he told his poor patients back then? I hope he referred them, like he did me.”

Every doc I see congratulates me on recognizing something was wrong and not being afraid to talk about it, blah blah blah. But I'm thinking this is something no one should be afraid to discuss - it's serious. And if PPD were actually covered during our OB appts perhaps many women wouldn't feel weird or scared...

One of the psychs told me that it's possible to start anti-depressants during your 3rd trimester or immediately after delivery to stave off PPD symptoms. If it's as easy as that, why isn't this routine for women who have a family history of depression??

Quoting CatLuvr83:“ Every doc I see congratulates me on recognizing something was wrong and not being afraid to talk about ... [snip!] ... to stave off PPD symptoms. If it's as easy as that, why isn't this routine for women who have a family history of depression??”

my OB was the one who actually perscribed my meds for PPD... at my 6 week PP check up they asked if i was okay mentally... i said NO.. and im seeing her every month till i can get into the psyc... not till AUG!!
but i went to my follow up appt at the OB today.. the celexa is doing good for me.. ive noticed that im not pissed off ALL the time like i was before.
i think alot of the reason im doing better is b/c i work full time and im not around the baby for 10hrs/day....
but then the weekends come.... i wake up saturday morning.. and im like SHIT i have to do this ALL day?! i almost brought him to the baby sitter last weekend.... ahhhh i hate this i just wana be able to enjoy spending an entire day w/ my baby..... during the week im okay.. i come home and actually feel excited to see him... but the weekends are a different story =[
i feel so bad for feeling like this twords my baby.. he didn't do anything.. he's so innocent. and i get so frustrated w/ him... and its just makes me feel terrible for getting frustrated b/c he is so innocent and knows no better. and its just so over whelming knowing that im the sole provider for this helpless little being.
i mean im only 20 y/o! i can barley provide for MYSELF.. now i have to provide for a helpless little baby?

Quick question, do you call your ob/gyn if you think you have ppd and make an appt with them or do you call like a primary care doctor?