re: Post Partum Depression (PPD)

Quoting ♥ Dizzy Lizzy ϖ:“ Thank you so much. I was having a hard time on Friday night with this. I am feeling a lot better. ... [snip!] ... do he is going to have a shit fit. He did the last time. He doesn't care about anything else, he is just concerned about that.”

Glad you are feeling better! Definitely should help to have someone take the kids for a bit, everyone needs a break once in awhile. Make sure you use that time for yourself though and not cleaning or doing housework. Do something that you enjoy.

I hope your husband doesn't give you a hard time if it turns out you want to try meds. Its good that he is helping out but sometimes people need more.

I have a pretty gnarly case of PPD... No money for a doc for meds either, since I can't work with the baby. Babydaddy is ARMY and we are supposed to be getting money from them for housing and bills (As is allowed to every soldier with a family) but they keep finding reasons to push it back since we aren't married. We live together and have for a year. He's trying his damndest to support the 3 of us on his $1800 monthly paycheck. It wouldn't be so bad if we would get that allowance. That's a major issue about my depression. Always stressing about where our next meal is coming from. Theoretically, I could get a job but child care around here is horribly expensive. I would be working just to pay for child care. My PPD is getting bad enough that even babydaddy is getting PPD. I know I need help but I can't afford it. If I went to a charity hospital, I would still owe money that we don't have. I feel like just leaving. Just walking away and not stopping until I drop from exhaustion. Then he wouldn't have issues with getting the allowance because he would have undisputed full custody. (No way in hell am I going to court to give it to him now because what happens if I leave? Good luck getting her back.   )

Iunno what to do... I just feel like if our money situation was fixed, I wouldn't feel so bad. Being sad is pissing me off and sparking arguments with Babydaddy.  

Quoting JuggaletteKittye:“ I have a pretty gnarly case of PPD... No money for a doc for meds either, since I can't work with the ... [snip!] ... if our money situation was fixed, I wouldn't feel so bad. Being sad is pissing me off and sparking arguments with Babydaddy.  ”

I know how you feel, I lost my job when I was 6 months pregnant, the unemplyoment isnt coming in yet and i cant find a job. my husbands ex took him to court and he is now paying almost triple what he was in chid support. if i could go to the store and buy formula and food with out worrying which bill wont get paid this month i know i would feel better. i just want to go back in time when i wanst pregnant and had a job, when we could go out and have fun and not stress over money everyday. it sucks but i love my son and im trying to hold it together for him and for my husband, i cant let him know how depressed and stressed i am because i know it will make him feel even worse. he busts his ass 60 hours a week to support us but we keep slipping and it sucks.

Im not sure if I had PPd, but today I had a massive breakdown. (I had a cesarean a week and 4 days ago) My boyfriend and I are teenage parents and I feel fine when I have someone with me and the baby, but when Im alone with her I start to feel overwhelmed quickly and I feel like a horrible mother. I cried for about and hour and I stopped when I heard my daughter start to wake up because I dont want her to see me like this. I feel like my daughter and I are an inconvenience to my bf because he will only help out ifI go to his house, he wont come here and idk. I hope this doesnt make me sound like I cant be a parent because I know I can do it, I just dont know if this is something I should be worrie about, or not... Help?

Quoting SarahC1286:“ I know how you feel, I lost my job when I was 6 months pregnant, the unemplyoment isnt coming in yet ... [snip!] ... i know it will make him feel even worse. he busts his ass 60 hours a week to support us but we keep slipping and it sucks.”

Stay positive things will get better. My mom had the same problem when I was born. She said all she did was hope for a miracle and sure enough, mydad got a raise and they paid off their debts and everything was fine. Ill pray for you.

Quoting M0MMYS LiTTLE M0NSTER:“ Stay positive things will get better. My mom had the same problem when I was born. She said all she did ... [snip!] ... hope for a miracle and sure enough, mydad got a raise and they paid off their debts and everything was fine. Ill pray for you.”

thanks, it seems like thigs are turing around! my business has picked up agian and my husband was able to pull some money fromour retirement to pay off our debt, we still need to sell our house but its getting better and ive been more positive about things and i think thats helping! maybe im getting better on my own, no drugs needed!

My doctor put me on Pristiq last week and it stopped the constant crying but I am still having severe anxiety and panic attacks. I am trying to get an appt with a shrink but my public aide got screwed up and now i have to wait to get a new card in the mail! (that could take a month!) I have always had panic attacks and all I need is a couple valium and I'm all good...but I cant get any doctor to prescribe me any!! I'M GOING NUTS!!!!!

Quoting SarahC1286:“ thanks, it seems like thigs are turing around! my business has picked up agian and my husband was able ... [snip!] ... better and ive been more positive about things and i think thats helping! maybe im getting better on my own, no drugs needed!”

Good, Im glad things are working for your favor.  

How do you know if you have PPD and what is the difference b/t PPD and normal depression.
Also, can it develop during pregnancy? How does a doctor diagnose you with it?

I think I am depressed, but I am not sure, if that makes sense.
It started during pregnancy. My mother had PPD so I think it could be possible that I have it as well.
I cry more than I ever have in my life. It has nothing to do with my daughter though. I actually feel like if she weren't here then I wouldn't want to live anymore...or rather, that I wouldn't have anything to live for. It gets bad at night...sometimes during pregnancy I couldn't sleep because I was either too worked up from being angry or I was too upset. I still cry a lot at night. During the day I am okay becauseI am too busy to be upset with the baby.
I feel like no one cares about me as much as Icare about them, my friends, family, the guy I am dating, everyone. My friends never hang out with me anymore, barely call me, and I feel like I have no one. I keep thinking about hurtful things that have happened to me in the past and I can't let go of them. It's like my thoughts torture me, and I can't clear my head or tune the thoughts out.
I just want to stop feeling so shitty and enjoy my life and my daughter instead of feeling like this all the time. I thought it would stop after pregnancy, and it got better and now it is bad again.

I was diagnosed one year after having my son but told that I didn't have it anymore. My son's dad had left me and I was real depressed.

Now I'm having trouble with this pregnancy and emotionally connecting.
I'm excited in a way but I'm just not like overly happy.

I don't know.

So, I had my son a year ago, and my husband and I both think that I had PPD. It lasted for about 6 months before I finally felt like I was getting back to normal, and then we found out we were pregnant again. I am due March 8. My question is, since I was never diagnosed, should I bring this up with my Dr or should I just wait to see if I have problems when this one is born? And, who would I talk to about it, my OB? I feel kind of weird talking to my OB about it, if I didn't bring it up at the time it was going on. I have been having a hard time getting excited about this baby b/c I am so worried about how I felt with my son, and I don't want to feel that way again. Any advice?

Quoting myhandsomelittleman:“ So, I had my son a year ago, and my husband and I both think that I had PPD. It lasted for about 6 months ... [snip!] ... excited about this baby b/c I am so worried about how I felt with my son, and I don't want to feel that way again. Any advice?”

I am having the same problem =[

Quoting M0MMAS ™:“ I am having the same problem =[”

Are you going to talk to anyone about it, and if so, who would you talk to? Hubby thinks I should bring it up at my next OB appt.

Quoting myhandsomelittleman:“ Are you going to talk to anyone about it, and if so, who would you talk to? Hubby thinks I should bring it up at my next OB appt.”

you should I've talked to a woman about it and she said it's not to worry about right now because as long as I'm not extremely weepy or crying all the time it's not bad but you should talk to your OB if those are your symptoms because they can help you with it and you wont be in trouble or anything

Quoting M0MMAS ™:“ you should I've talked to a woman about it and she said it's not to worry about right now because as ... [snip!] ... you should talk to your OB if those are your symptoms because they can help you with it and you wont be in trouble or anything”

ok, thanks. I'm not really weepy right now--although I do have my moments. The main problem I have now is worrying about the fact that I can remember very clearly how I felt when I first had my son and i am terrified that I am going to be the same way with this one. Plus, the idea of having a newborn and a 15 month old is very overwhelming! I told my hubby I want a 3d/4d ultrasound for Christmas b/c the only time I have felt connected to this little girl was when I had the gender ultrasound and they did 3D. I felt connected to my son while I was preggo with him, butI just don't with this one. It worries me that i feel this way b/c I had a hard time connecting with my son when he was born, and I felt connected with him before he was born. Anyways, maybe if I get up the guts I will talk with her, at least so she knows to talk to me about it after the baby is born.