re: Angel baby tattoos (in AS)

Quoting Maggie~Mae:" I've miscarried and had to get a D&C, so technically I've had an abortion. I've thought about getting ... [snip!] ... a tattoo, I'm just not sure what. I might add to my ankle tattoo, get a little butterfly next to the one I already have."

A miscarriage IS an abortion, but it's a spontaneous abortion. There is a difference between a miscarriage and having to have a D&C and choosing to not have a baby.

Quoting Iyahna  :" Omg i so wanted to say something like this but i did not want to be a bitch lol."

Yea its not really the appropriate place

I don't know. For me, I just don't understand why someone who CHOSE to abort a baby would want to get a tattoo to remember it. It seems a little redundant to me. But it's really their choice. 2

Whatever helps the momma grieve.

Quoting SlightlyCrunchyMama:" I don't know. For me, I just don't understand why someone who CHOSE to abort a baby would want to get a tattoo to remember it. It seems a little redundant to me. But it's really their choice. 2"

I didn't abort to FORGET about the baby. I'm never going to forget about it, ever. With or without a tattoo. KWIM?

Quoting The Icebox:" Yea its not really the appropriate place"

I have mixed feelings about it. Imo the horrific miscarriaged i had not my choice for him/her to become an angel baby but it happened. I just don't understand why you would want a memorial for something that wasn't wanted. Like i said it's just my opinion.

Quoting The Icebox:" Whatever helps the momma grieve."

  

Quoting Iyahna  :" I have mixed feelings about it. Imo the horrific miscarriaged i had not my choice for him/her to become ... [snip!] ... I just don't understand why you would want a memorial for something that wasn't wanted. Like i said it's just my opinion."

I don't think anyone who hasn't had an abortion realizes the pain and heartache that goes into making a decision like that. I didn't abort simply because I didn't want the baby. I aborted because I couldn't support another baby.

Quoting Iyahna  :" I have mixed feelings about it. Imo the horrific miscarriaged i had not my choice for him/her to become ... [snip!] ... I just don't understand why you would want a memorial for something that wasn't wanted. Like i said it's just my opinion."

How do you know the baby wasn't wanted? There are different circumstances in everything in life.

This is not a debate, this is AS.

Quoting The Icebox:" How do you know the baby wasn't wanted? There are different circumstances in everything in life. This is not a debate, this is AS."

The reason why i said the baby wasn't wanted because the mother would not pay for him/her to die if it was wanted if anything adoption you would think. I'm not debating I'm just backing up my first comment.

Quoting mommytoisaiah:" They can... My question was asking those who have had abortions if they would personally get one."

No

Quoting Iyahna  :" The reason why i said the baby wasn't wanted because the mother would not pay for him/her to die if it ... [snip!] ... him/her to die if it was wanted if anything adoption you would think. I'm not debating I'm just backing up my first comment."

Adoption wasn't an option for me.

Quoting Iyahna  :" The reason why i said the baby wasn't wanted because the mother would not pay for him/her to die if it ... [snip!] ... him/her to die if it was wanted if anything adoption you would think. I'm not debating I'm just backing up my first comment."

Some mothers can't stand the thought of not what would happen to their children in the foster care system. Or if a good family could be found.

Lots of wanted babies are aborted for medical reasons. It's not as simple as they didn't want the baby for everyone.

Quoting mommytoisaiah:" Adoption wasn't an option for me."

I understand mama. I know it would not be an easy decision either. When i had my D&C the doctor told me it was basically like an abortion. After waking up and feeling the pain and grief I think i can some what understand your pain. I was also a little happy because i was only 16 and the man i was with at the time wasn't a real man.