I'm supposed to be happy right now, why arn't I?

I'm supposed to be happy right now, but all I feel is sad. I'm trying the best I can to prepare for my baby and do things right and I was happy... It's hard for me being pregnant for the first time while my husband is in Iraq and not experiencing any of this. It's our very first child, no other children. The people who I thought were good friends are dropping like flies because I don't want to go out late or go to the bars or parties with them. I'm 5 1/2 months pregnant. That life style does not fit me anymore. They all say that I make no effort to hang out with them. I work full time taking care of people and I'm sorry that when I come home I'm beat. I just got rid of my roomate and I'm trying to get the house ready for my baby. And to top it off, my mother just decided to stop talking to me yet again. So pretty much she made her decision to be out of my life. I'm going crazy and I don't understand why things have to be this hard and why nobody understands that working and being pregnant alone is exausting. so add a deployed husband. Seriously am i out of line here and should I be making more of an effort? I just don't know what to do anymore and everyone seems to be dissapointed in me but I feel I'm doing the best I can. I just very sad and gloomy and don't want to be around anyone right now......sigh....: 

i know exactly how you feel. Im the same way. I never wanna go out either and i just wanna stay home and relax. My fiance even goes out without me because i cant drink anymore and i dont like to stay up late.

just keep your head up. sounds like you are doing the best that you can do and that is all anyone can expect of you. friends come and go. You will know who your real ones are after the baby is born.

and im sorry your husband is gone, i couldnt imagine being without mine. jus know that we are all here for you ifyou need to talk

I hear ya mommy! I don't even feel attractive anymore. My so-called friends are dropping like flies too. It's hard to deal with. Hang in there. Try to surround yourself with positive people.

i hear you 100%. Stay strong! I'm sure you're sick of hearing that, but things will always get better. It's not fun but all of that will be worth it just you wait.

It sounds like life is trying to beat you back, don't worry it happens. Between being ridiculously tired anyways because your body is working overtime, YOU are working overtime, having a full time job and worrying about your husband, it's no wonder you are less than happy.
This isn't my first pregnancy but it's the first one were i've had to continuously say "I'M PREGNANT" to people because i'm tired all the time and don't have time to do things because i'm trying to get the house and my life organized for a new baby, basically just do what you can for you and the baby. If people don't understand than at least you know who your friends are even if it's hard to take especially right now when you're super emotional and stressed. I'm less than impressed with how my life has been going since i've been pregnant but i know that when the baby comes it won't matter, it's so miraculous, i know kinda corny but the feeling that overcame me with my first was....unexpected, i didn't dislike this "thing" growing in me, i was just indifferent to it, then I had him and it was so different. Yes your whole life changes, no you can't and don't want to go party, that doesn't change after you've had the baby either, well i should say it shouldn't change rather. You are going to be busy being a mom, don't get me wrong, take time now and then for yourself when you can, if you want to go party once in awhile than do it, i just don't recomment everyweekend, life changes when you have a child and it can be scary and your friends may not "get it" but thats life.

"their is a reason why people in ur past didnt make it to ur future" try not to feel sad i think it happens to a lot of woman including my self stop having friends while they were or are pregnant...i dont know why is that but it happends...n u know what if they can understand that ur preggo n that u work then that means that they really dont care about u at all..either way i think preggo woman shouldnt be in a bar or club or partying their ass off...just keep doing what u need to do for u n ur baby...n im sorry ur baby daddy is not with u at this very momment...n i hope he comes home safe...well good luck n dont mind them i guess ur better off without them...oh yea n about ur mom thats a shame she is doing that...specially when ur about to have a kid...that aint right...

I feel the same way!!! i thought it was just me! my husband hasnt left for iraq yet but i have no idea what im going to do when he does leave in 3 months. im 10 weeks pregnant with our first child. he will miss the birth and the first 8 months of whats suppose to be the most wonderful time of our lives. i dont think i can do it without him. i cry constitanly even the thought of him leaving. i feel like i dont have any friends anymore cause i work full time and then between wanting to sleep and wanting to throw up im too tired to hang out. i feel so alone and im not even alone yet.

Quoting AmberMartin:“ I'm supposed to be happy right now, but all I feel is sad. I'm trying the best I can to prepare for my ... [snip!] ... I feel I'm doing the best I can. I just very sad and gloomy and don't want to be around anyone right now......sigh....: ”

Sweetie, I understand...believe me I do! Being that I am former military I remember seeing SO many women go through it alone. Does the squadron/his command/duty station have a Family Support Group...you know JUST with his command? Most do. This is something for you to think about. I use to be President of my hubby's chapter and those women were the best! I would highly suggest it. It truly would be worth it.
As for your friends, don't even worry about them. If they are acting like that then they aren't true friends. Plain and simple!
My best friend is going through what you're going through right now. Her hubby is in Cuba unaccompanied duty for a year and he won't be here to see his second child be born. She's quite stressed and it's taking a toll. Just remember less stress is better. Surround yourself in positive influences and always remember you have friends here!

i understand how u feel also. my ex whom i was madly in love with was a marine after 2 yrs together he broke my heart n didnt even tell me why we broke up he just cut me off completly but i kno wat it feels like to b away from ur man n worried bout them bein n danger. but ive been with my fiancee who came into my life after my ex over a yr n a half now n basically he moved me from va to ky and we only have one another here. hav been whining about missing my family and friends like crazy but honestly when i was n va n i was like 3 mths preggo none really came around n things got so bad when i had morning sickness i lost 22 pounds in 1 mth it was sooo severe they were actin like i was faking or overexaggerating. u have the right to be sad n want him to be there. my fiancee has been to every appointment with me im lucky for that but ur alone n u dont even have ur man who is proabbly the onli one u can trust. all i can say is im sorry and u gotta stay strong for ur health n the babys health. i feel sooo alone myself. my friends barely call me n from 9-9 everyday my fiancee works n im on bedrest n have no one here its sad but if we can make it thru this we will be ok. ill b praying u find a peace of mind!!