Is it normal for 4yr old boys to kiss other boys?
posted 19th Jan '08
My 4yr old kisses other boys his age. I totally freaked out when I first saw him do it. Is this something I should be concerned about? I am really worried about it and I am coming down on my self trying to figure out where I went wrong. I tried explaining to him that boys dont kiss other boys but he thinks I am mad at him for it. I feel like if I make a big deal about it, that it will just make him more curious and confused. Any advice or experiance with this?
quoteposted 19th Jan '08
Explain to him it normally doesnt happen like that. At that age they don't know the difference. I wouldn't be concerned about it at all. If there is something thats up, I dont think you'll confront it for a few years anyway.
quoteposted 19th Jan '08
Ha, dont worry, its just a phase. I teach pre-k, and I have 14 boys (4 and 5 yrs old) in my class and this is their new thing, kissing each other. I just tell them that we have to keep our lips to ourself, as we do our hands and feet.
quoteposted 19th Jan '08
Of course it's normal.
At 4 or 5, boys generally aren't interested in anything sexual, and girls are still "icky" - but from parents and family, kids learn that kissing is a sign of friendship/love, so it's normal for them to show that kind of affection towards their friends. I kissed my female friends when I was young (still do, but we're just really good friends, why not?) and nobody ever thought anything of it, why should it be any different for little boys?
quoteposted 19th Jan '08
haha the title made me laugh ....
yes its fine ... it will go away, hopefully
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Maineposted 19th Jan '08
i don't think at 4 yo. they realize what they're even doing.
you don't have anything to worry about.
quoteposted 19th Jan '08
They don't know any better at this age, but either way I wouldn't really worry about it. Homosexuality isn't a disease.
quoteposted 19th Jan '08
I agree. My 3 year old and 1 year old kiss each other on the mouth sometimes and my husband gets mad, I try to tell him they're not doing anything sexual, they just love each other, but he's always so worried one of them will be gay, lol.
quoteposted 19th Jan '08
why freak out??????? He's just showing his friend he likes them. Kids that age don't need to know that boys don't kiss eachother. IMO. then again I'm not about to tell my son who to and who not to love. He's just a little boy. It's not like he's 7 and doing it to other boys in his class.
But, I'm a parent who would not be hurt, freaked or mad if my son turned out to be gay. I would know that I raised him with a kind a blind heart.
You didn't do anything wrong. Kids his age kiss. they don't know nor care what's between eachothers legs.
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Texasposted 19th Jan '08
why don't boys kiss other boys?
confused here......
nothing wrong with it unless you make it wrong...
quoteposted 20th Jan '08
I think if more boys were encouraged to show affection to each other the way women are to each other things would be a lot better in society.
C.
quoteposted 20th Jan '08
I don't thinkyou have anything to worry about. My 5 year old son is very affectionate and kisses all his friends/family. There's nothing wrong with it.
quoteposted 20th Jan '08
Quoting God:“ I think if more boys were encouraged to show affection to each other the way women are to each other things would be a lot better in society. C.”
QFT.
quoteposted 20th Jan '08
i would worry if i was a homophob i suppose...not like it means hes gay or anything. but i picture that being the only time to worry.
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Texasposted 20th Jan '08
I don't think theres anything to worry about, my niece went through the same thing when she was about 3, she kept kissing all the girls in her preschool class and her teacher just told her that when in school, we keep all our bodies to ourselves, and it seemed to work for her. My son is 2 and he kisses everything, as long as he knows them, he kisses tables and chairs, animals he even kisses the milk jug and says i love you milk, lol. I think its just a way they express themselves, and show affection, I'm sure he will grow out of it. If you want to try and get it to stop just tell him we don't kiss everyone becuase we don't want to get sick or spread germs, something like that might help. Good luck!
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