Delivery Room **Kinda Long**

Do you ladies know who you're going to let in the delivery room when you go into labor??
I am kinda stuck in a hard spot. Obviously, my husband will be there and we've pretty much said both our moms will be in there. At first, I was against my MIL being in the room because I really don't know her too well. Me & my hubby have been together a total of 5 years and I've been around her maybe 10 times, mostly on holidays. Not only that, we don't really like each other, at least that's the way it seems to me. But, Brandon *husband* says it's not "fair" to let my mother in the room and not let his. This is the first grandbaby on his side of the family. It is the thrid on my side, but my mom wasn't able to be there for the births of my brothers kids (they were both in different states and they wanted to do it on their own). But both moms have just assumed they will be in the room.
Anyway, here is the problem, I've been thinking about not letting anyone in there. Me and Brandon just doing it on our own. Is that selfish of me to say no to the grandma-to-be's? And if we decide to go at it alone, how do I tell them without upseting them? What are you mama's going to do about "witnesses" in the room??

I'm not letting anyone in the delivery room with me and my brothers wife flipped out thinking that she and my mom would be allowed in the room. She went and bickered to my mom and all my mom said was, "It doesn't bother me.. this is their time, not mine." (their = mine, fiance's, and Ryan's) so I obviously dont see a problem with nobody else being in the room, I dont want any jealousy issues.. or people staring at my vagina, yeah I dont want that either.

Quoting *Jessica*Layla's Mommy*:“ Do you ladies know who you're going to let in the delivery room when you go into labor?? I am kinda ... [snip!] ... to go at it alone, how do I tell them without upseting them? What are you mama's going to do about "witnesses" in the room??”

I told everyone (becuase my AUNT wanted to be in the room) that this is something we want to go through on our own. They were upset, but quickly got over it.

well i had a c-section.. i only let my bf in. you could have had more than one person in.. but i just wanted him. its not selfish. i would only wanted my bf in the room with me if i had delievered vaginal

I don't want my MIL in the room.
Her and I have had a rough relationship throughout this pregnancy.
She's basically an idiot and I don't want her in there coaching my husband and looking at my vagina.

My husband and I got into an argument about it, he sees it the same way your does - he wants his mommy in there. I told him FLAT OUT that I didn't want my MIL in there, that I was the one pushing this child out so it should be my call. I think at that point he was so fed up with hearing me bitch, he just said, "Ok! Fine."

i don't know but i would like to be alone with my fiance. there's alot of doctors around watching my privates. the less people in the room, the better.. i wouldn't feel comfortable people watching down there.. not even my mom..

I am gonna have my bf in there and my mom and his mom will switch back and forth between coming in the room since the doc says only two people can be in there with me at one time. Now if the doc has to do a c-section i am not sure how many people they'll let in the room for that. Anyone know?

Your choice hon. I had David and my Step mom in there. If you really don't want to be the one to "break the news" you can have the nurses do it, they're more then happy to tell them that they can't be in there!! It's your delivery, Your jay jay, Your baby.. YOUR CHOICE!!   I had to have the extra support cause david ended up flipping out !! LOL

I am personally not having anyone in the room with me when I have Aria...not even her father. Don't get me wrong, if things were okay between the two of us I would let him in there but he just stresses me out like no tomorrow. I have explained to all of my family as well as her father that since I am super self-conscious and I stress easily I don't want anyone but the doctors and the nurses in the delivery room with me unless I ask for someone when the time comes. Everyone has been really understanding about it since they know I have nothing against them and I am only doing what would make me the most comfortable while giving birth.

You might want to check with the hospital about how many they will let in with you....the hospital I'm going to will only let the father/or birth partner in and no one else during labor....I was wondering about who to have there too until I went on the hospital tour....

ooo i know how you feel.... at the begining of this pregnancy i told my hubby only hes allowed in the room. he missed the birth of our first cause he was in iraq.. so i thought ok.. he can expeirence it on his own this time. and i really only want him there! i live in a different state than my mom so thats outta the option. and he somehow guilted me into letting his mom in! i dont even speak the same lanuage as his mom and i really dont want her looking at my coochie! but i dont wanna be the bitch. but they all knew my wishes and they kept pushing it and guilting me!

Quoting Mama Denise:“ I don't want my MIL in the room. Her and I have had a rough relationship throughout this pregnancy. ... [snip!] ... this child out so it should be my call. I think at that point he was so fed up with hearing me bitch, he just said, "Ok! Fine."”

I even tried to tell him no about his mom in a nice way. I said I didn't feel comfortable with her staring at my "business" so he runs to her and she says "well, I don't want to watch, I just want to be there." so that flew out the window. I was even hoping the hospital only allowed 2 people, which they do, but the doctor said you can really have as many in there as you want. grrrr.
i'm not even sure if i want MY mom in there, let alone his.

Quoting Brittany -- Ryan's Mommy:“ I'm not letting anyone in the delivery room with me and my brothers wife flipped out thinking that she ... [snip!] ... nobody else being in the room, I dont want any jealousy issues.. or people staring at my vagina, yeah I dont want that either.”

i can TOTALLY understand with that one, my fiancee has been in Iraq the entire time that i've been pregnant, but he gets home a few weeks b4 i'm due and he's the ONLY person i'm gonna have in there with me, me and him both decided it, cuz frankly? i don't want everyone starting at my vagina like it's a jack in the box and some wonder baby is gonna pop out if they twist a lever! it just kinda freeks me out  

NOBODY BUT MY BF!!! thats all i let in there. this is about you and your family, not whos feelings r gonna get hurt. it's your vagina on display, and thats for nobody to decide whos in there but you. just tell the nurse when you get there whos allowed to be in during the birth, or if you dont want to hurt anyones feelings, tell the nurse to tell your moms that only your hubby is allowed in there. then they have no say, and you dont have to feel like the bad guy. you have to focus on having that baby, not whos in there. too many people can be soo distracting. my whole family tried being in there while i was laboring and i had the nurse kick them out because i wanted to be alone. and if i hurt their feelings, too damn bad. its not their labor or their child.

Quoting *Jessica*Layla's Mommy*:“ Do you ladies know who you're going to let in the delivery room when you go into labor?? I am kinda ... [snip!] ... to go at it alone, how do I tell them without upseting them? What are you mama's going to do about "witnesses" in the room??”

You are not being selfish at all! Just simply explain to them that since it is your first you would like it to be something that just you and your husband experience together. You could also ensure them that they will be the first ones allowed to see the new bundle of joy right after delivery. You could also let them visit you while you are laboring to help give your husband the opportunity to rest and what not. I only had my husband in there with me during the actual delivery(granted my mom didn't want to be there to see "her baby" in pain), but I had a rotation of people who would comevisit me for a few minutes at a time which helped the 13 hours to pass quickly, andas soon as it was okay for anyone to come in and see the baby, my parents were the first ones "allowed." This is a huge experience for you and your hubby, and you have every right to determine who will and will not be in the room with you.