What would you do?

I'll Start off by giving you some history, I've been with my sons father on and offfor almost 2 years (it will be 2 years this summer) we met at a bar, slept with him the first night because I was drunk. Our relationship started out as a lie, a week after we met he told me he was going to fly to the other side of the country to be in a friends wedding, while he was there he asked me to be his girlfriend. Little did I know that he did not go there to be in a wedding, an online girlfriend he was with flew him to stay with her for a weekend! and he asked ME to be with him while he was there!! (stupid of me to stay with him I know) So I confonted him about it, he lied at first and then admitted it, I should have just dropped him right then and there but nope!!

I forgave him for it, but since then we have had major trust issues in our relationship, I wouldnt be with him if it wasnt for the fact that we have a child together, I got pregnant due to missing a pill (stupid I know) but theres alot of things about him that I cant stand! he has a porn addiction, he constantly looks at it and he knows that it bothers me, we don't have sex!! the last time we had sex was 5 months ago, I dont know whether its because I gained weight from having a baby or what but I feel really ugly around him especially because he would rather look at other girls. He's contstantly texting people when hes spending time with me. He never really even acknowledges that our son is even in the room, he doesnt help with diaper changes, feedings or anything! his actual excuse for not having sex with me is that he doesnt want sex with anyone, hes so stressed out that he doesnt have a drive for it anymore. Also he IS there financially for me and my son but nothing else.

I love him I really do, but I dont know if there is really a point to it if I cant trust him and we can't get along, so ladies what would you do if you were in my shoes?

Quoting *DevynsMomma*:“ I'll Start off by giving you some history, I've been with my sons father on and offfor almost 2 years ... [snip!] ... there is really a point to it if I cant trust him and we can't get along, so ladies what would you do if you were in my shoes?”

Kick him to the curb and make him pay child support.

Why is he still around? It seems to me like the only thing he is doing is supporting you financially, which he could do from across town (child support) .. I would leave him.

 Do u really need advice?? The answer is very clear

I know it's easier said than done, but leave him. He sounds like an ass.

Leave him...once a loser cheater...always a loser cheater! What would you be teaching your child if you did stay?

Quoting *DevynsMomma*:“ I'll Start off by giving you some history, I've been with my sons father on and offfor almost 2 years ... [snip!] ... there is really a point to it if I cant trust him and we can't get along, so ladies what would you do if you were in my shoes?”

You said "I wouldnt be with him if it wasnt for the fact that we have a child together,".

I don't think that we need to tell you what you should do. Yes, you have a child together and yes, he's there financially as you said... However, if you don't trust him then there is no reason for you to be with him.

There is NO reason good enough for a couple to stick together if they don't trust each other or get along. Not even having a child together. You can still be friends and civil with each other and he can still be in his son's life. You don't have to stay in a relationship that is unhealthy.

I hope that you do get out of that relationship since it is unhealthy. If not for you then for the sake of your child.

Wow, your situation is so much like mine its a little scary LOL! I also met my baby's father at a bar, got drunk, and slept with him that night. I have to honestly say that I've never done that before and never thought i would, but he was good looking and I was pretty far gone! Anyway, we continued to see each other until I found out that he already had a girlfriend and i ditched him. A few days later I found out i was pregnant. I finally decided to tell him about the baby (at first i didn't want to because i just knew he'd bail), but of course he acted like he wanted to be there and try to have a relationship with me and the baby. Guess what? I haven't ever heard from him again. He bailed just like i knew he would. Guys like that aren't even worth your time and suffering. If he will support you financially still, I would take some time apart. He needs to grow up and it doesn't sound like he'll be doing that anytime soon. Good luck with everything!

u already kno wat to do. and best of luck to u and ur precious baby

Quoting Kashi:“ Kick him to the curb and make him pay child support.”

 

I know it is very hard to leave someone you care about especially when you have a child together. Tell him the facts he needs to change his ways and if he refuses, you and your baby deserve better. My boyfriend used to look at porn I told him I would leave him if he didn't stop and he did. Make him face reality and if he really cares about you he will do what you ask.

if i were you i would leave he but its gunna be real heard have you tried talking to him?

Quoting lilmommy08:“ I know it is very hard to leave someone you care about especially when you have a child together. Tell ... [snip!] ... I would leave him if he didn't stop and he did. Make him face reality and if he really cares about you he will do what you ask.”

Lol my boyfriend is too shy to admit he likes porn..
When we weren't living together and I was pregnant, I made a surprise visit to his house.. I knew none of his roomates were there, and I knew he was 'cause the only place he ever went was work... But no one answered the door when I knocked... it was unlocked though, so I just went in.. I walked down the hall and opened the door to his roomate's room who is a super-porn addict, and there was my boyfriend watching porn with his pants down lol when I realized what he was doing I ran down the hall laughing hysterically.

sorry to hear what ur going threw but thats bullshit..sometimes we as woman believe what we want..sad to say but were blind..im not going to judge you because i too have experiance some of the problems ur going through...truth is once a cheater always a cheater..

the base of a relationship is trust and honesty and with out that u cant have a healthy relationship..keep ur head up..only u can make ur own choises and one day u will realize ur worth soo much more than to be putting up with his shit!

Quoting ♡Alijahs Mami♡:“ sorry to hear what ur going threw but thats bullshit..sometimes we as woman believe what we want..sad ... [snip!] ... head up..only u can make ur own choises and one day u will realize ur worth soo much more than to be putting up with his shit!”

Not true, my boyfriend used to cheat a lot but it's been almost a year since he has and I trust that he won't do it again.