re: anybody doing this alone?

Quoting Jen ♥:“ is anybody single and about 17 that has no father of the child to help them through this?”

i was 17 and single with my first baby. i know how u feel. it was really lonely and depressing .. but in the end .. everything works out just fine.  

Quoting Sidney's Mommy:“ Oh wow! Poor you! We all make mistakes(not the baby the drugs and stuff) Your ex b.f should support you ... [snip!] ... birth. I say its the guy's loss if he doesnt want to be involved then f*ck him. ITs still tough but your a woman your strong!!”

saame here. i try not to sweat my ex but it's so hard because he's waiting to do anything untill after the baby is born. so i'm always wondering what he's doing and always texting him and shit and we fight alot because of it. so i try so hard not to sweat him and make him wonder what's going on with me and what i'm doing just like i do to him. i stay strong for about 3 days and then i give in. he texts me when i stay strong and that makes me feel so good because then i know that he's thinking about me.. but when i sweat him.. he's probably just like god leave me alone! ya know. i'm so used to talking to him every single day and stuff and it's hard. even though we fight alot it just makes me feel good to talk to him. my mom is very helpful and my whole family is supporting me and helping me through it. my friends on the other hand... they stopped talking to me and i have friends from work and that's about it.

Quoting Jen ♥:“ saame here. i try not to sweat my ex but it's so hard because he's waiting to do anything untill after ... [snip!] ... me through it. my friends on the other hand... they stopped talking to me and i have friends from work and that's about it.”

Thats the hard part wondering what there doing. Let him wonder what your doing for a while. Just keep your mind busy. Whether is comming on Bg or taking a walk,or searching online.reading a book.listining to music anything that will keep your mind busy to not think about him. It is very hard but sometimes its good to make them wonder. It might take him a few days to call or text but he will. Sometimes you cant wait until the baby is born,he gotta step up now and help you at least emotionally for now. Its nice to get a backrub or someone to talk to once in a while ya know? Im not telling you what to do im just telling you what i do and it works..Well my ex is the nosy type,he HATES it when no one is giving him attention. He is an attention whore..lol..and im the stubborn one..Good Luck hun! Your going to have a beautiful baby and when you see that baby for the first time your going to forget about everything and just stare at your baby's face and give that baby so much love and attention. Babies seem to make things better for a while ya know? ITs like their our comfort as much as we are to them.

Stupid thing is, with my relationship prior to the one I had with my babys daddy, I left my boyfriend of almost 2 years because he said he never wanted kids (or to move out of his parents house.. psh).. I didnt want to get pregnant this soon, but not too long after that I was with Chris (babys daddy), and everything was great for the first couple of months (probably just because we were going at it like 5 times a day), then a few months after that things started to go downhill - then a couple weeks before I could prove I was pregnant (we both knew I was) he broke up with me. We kinda got back together when I told him I was pregnant but he always made things really confusing.. One day we could make out and be all over each other and the next I wasnt allowed to touch him because we arent in 'that kind of relationship' anymore. Geez. I moved to NC for two weeks (I couldnt take being away from him AT ALL, so I moved back to Ga) and the day after I got back I asked him why he was acting so weird around me and he said it was because he wasnt in love with me anymore. God, I was crushed.. Still am.. But yeah. We can talk for brief periods of time, but we usually argue. I wish we could work things out, but he doesnt want to be with me, so my efforts are in vain. He is going to help me raise Kira, but as far as emotional support during the pregnancy, Im by myself. :/

my baby's dad was supportive in the beginning, but he slowly started to turn into a complete loser.hedoesn't seem to realize that he has a daughter that will be here in THREE months. he's made it so i've been miserablemy entire pregnancy & haven't really enjoyed a single day of it. we'veconstantly beenoff & on, but this timei've decided to stay off. he puts me through way too much stress & depression. now i'm just trying to move on. bleh.

My baby's dad wanted this child dead. I was like hell no then he goes give it up for adoption i said no and he goes oh your going to tell me that the reason is your attached to it already. I get attached to people fast. So of course as soon as i knew i was pregnant i was happy and already attached to the baby. He was mad then he tried to play mr. cool and still does. He tells stories and acts like he cares in fron of his family and friends and co-workers. Its so pathetic. He makes me look like the bad guy when im the one who told him to see his son. Only when im available it isnt good for him and when it is right for him it usually isnt for me and he tries to say why dont you ever let me see my son. The thing is i will let him but when it is good for me. Its so cold now. Sid's father is not worth Sidney getting sick over..Sorry!! Maybe if he was nicer but nope its either when i say or too bad. Im not trying to sound mean but this guy is a fuckin ass (Excuse my french). His family is wack too..but thats a whole other story..Lets just say i dont want my son kidnapped like his father was when he was a baby by his own grandmother...pretty sad when your real mother is a druggie and in and out of jail and her and her mom have to steal him from the people he lives with who dont give a rats behind anyway..ya i got with a real winner didnt i..lol..

.<<<< 18 and single.
Lame.

15 & single!
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Quoting Jen ♥:“ yeah that's pretty shitty. well heres the story.. i was with my ex for about 3 years.. we broke up ... [snip!] ... shit. so i'm thankful that i'm pregnant.. but it's hard to lose the one you love and not have someone helping you through this.”

i dont mean to sound rude or anything.. but i can see where he's coming from.. put urself in his shoes..
yes u two were broken up.. but after being together for 3 years you shouldnt have rushed into anything before making sure that you werent going to get back with him. and in ur post u dont specify if u know whether its his or not.

if i were in his shoes i would want to be positive too. it has to hurt for him aswell knowing that you may be pregnant with another guys baby.

im sorry u have to go through pregnancy alone.. because idk what i would do if i had to.. good luck

Im 19 and single. Baby's father won't give up the weed so I told him I wouldn't have a baby's father that was smoking. My baby deserves better. Besides he doesnt have the money or anything to support even himself and hes spending it all on his drugs. I have my parents though and theyve been great.

19, single with an 8 month old son.
i don't want my baby's father in his life, and he chose not to be in his life.

yeah i know it's difficult for my boyfriend and i totally understand and its really hard for me so know that i actually did something to hurt him. i hate myself for hurting him because i never ment to hurt him.
but anyways.. idk it's just really hard but i just hope everything works out in the end.

Quoting gianna`s mommy =]♥:“ my baby's dad was supportive in the beginning, but he slowly started to turn into a complete loser.hedoesn't ... [snip!] ... timei've decided to stay off. he puts me through way too much stress & depression. now i'm just trying to move on. bleh.”

going through that right now... ='(

I'm single and 19.. The father of the baby is 20. He is in rehab right now and spent most of my pregnancy in jail for getting busted with coke. In the beginning he quit doing drugs and had two jobs and was trying so hard. But the pressure of bringing in money and growing up just got to him. I don't think my pregnancy horemones helped out the situation any though.. I was a raging bitch almost all the time! Anyways, I was absolutly mortified when he was arrested because he proposed t ome in front of practically all my family and we were planning the wedding and everything.. I mean I even already had a dress! I knew what I had to do though for the sake of my child and for my sanity. I broke up with him and told him that he could be in mine and the babies life when and if he ever decided to clean up. So he is... at least trying, I don't trust anything now. But he got leave from rehab for her birth and it was like he was never gone... We still love each other very much I just don't know how I can ever trust him again. He will be out of rehab in about 5 more months...

hey im 16 and pregant and the guy ran off. i hope your girls are ok i can't wait i know its gonna be hard but it will be worth it in the end  
any wants to chat i don't really know any other single moms or moms to be