re: I WAS ADOPTED- thread open for all

Quoting Adoption is Awesome:“ G&C - Things have changed a lot since you were adopted. I don't think you can have a "closed" adoption ... [snip!] ... story usally only causes adopted children sadness or feelings of being given away. Boys take it better than girls generally.”

True a lot of things have changed and I am navie to the different options out there for adoptive familys, and birth moms. Thanks for sharing your information. Earlier, I was going off what I knew of my adoption. The term 'closed' was always used. And my records were sealed until I turned 18. Its all interesting. I learn more and more everyday about adoption. Thanks for the message!  

Quoting Mama2Eliza&Jaela((AKM)):“ its interested to see how it is from an adoptees point of veiw. IDK we always saw it as it would be ... [snip!] ... and not me. We have left everything open as to when she gets older whether she wants me around and what she wants to call me”

Since you didnt post that my answer had made you upset (but I am getting emails from a friend of your about it), I will say, openly to everyone- that open I do not feel open adoption is a BAD thing. I just personally do not agree with it. That is the way I feel about it, and I have every right to feel the way I do about it. I do not put anyone down for having an open adoption, nor will I. I will respect everyone in this thread and it is a very personal thread; therefore please do NOT email me if you wish to be rude. I am open, nice, and just wanted to start a new thread for people that had been adopted to open new doors. Hope you understand, as well as everyone else. Good luck in all open adoptions.

Quoting *Ethans Momma*:“ do you know if there is a way I could start looking for them? I don't know any of their information ... [snip!] ... like to try and find them so I have something to tell doctors if my son ever geys sick or something. If that makes sense...”

I know a lady who Majored in Geneology that does this as a side job and is helping me search for my Grandparents. I can link you if you'd like.

Quoting Trio of Girls:“ I know a lady who Majored in Geneology that does this as a side job and is helping me search for my Grandparents. I can link you if you'd like.”

Have you seen how you can submit your DNA and they can tell you what nationality, or nationalities you are? I think that would be cool to do if you're adopted and have no history. Heck I'm not adopted and kind of wonder about it.

Quoting Trio of Girls:“ I know a lady who Majored in Geneology that does this as a side job and is helping me search for my Grandparents. I can link you if you'd like.”

that would be wonderful! sorry its taken me awhile to reply lol my phone broke and im back to using my junky one

Hello, my name is Nicole. I wasn't adopted but I placed my daughter up for adoption.

My story:
I got pregnant at the age of 14 by the guy I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. Well I was wrong, when I told him I was pregnant he said see you later. I felt like such a horrible person to be having a baby with him. When I was about 6 months along I decided I was going to put her up for adoption. My sister and brother in the law at the time were looking to adopt a little girl since they already had 3 boys. My sister and brother in law decided that they would be proud to be my daughters adoptive parents. I gave birth to my daughter on August 6,2006 at 3:45am. She weighed 7lbs 14oz & 19inches long. Her name is Arianna Nicole. She has my middle name to honor me. By this time I was 15 years old and that was the hardest decision I ever had to make, but now that I look back on it I made a wonderful decision for my birth daughter. I see her whenever I please, we have an open adoption with her. She does know I am her birth mother and knows why I gave her up. She is now an amazing, gorgeous, smart, and loving little 4 year old.

Quoting Adoption is Awesome:“ Have you seen how you can submit your DNA and they can tell you what nationality, or nationalities you ... [snip!] ... are? I think that would be cool to do if you're adopted and have no history. Heck I'm not adopted and kind of wonder about it.”

I've seen it and I've seen it not work too. So I don't think I'd trust it

Quoting *Ethans Momma*:“ that would be wonderful! sorry its taken me awhile to reply lol my phone broke and im back to using my junky one”

I'll PM you her FB since I can't think of her email address offhand

Quoting Nicole;;Birth Mom & Pregg:“ Hello, my name is Nicole. I wasn't adopted but I placed my daughter up for adoption. My story: I got ... [snip!] ... know I am her birth mother and knows why I gave her up. She is now an amazing, gorgeous, smart, and loving little 4 year old.”

Awwww, my LO was born Aug 9 and she has the same first name   Thats awesome that your brother & sister would take her and let you see her like that.

Quoting Nicole;;Birth Mom & Pregg:“ Hello, my name is Nicole. I wasn't adopted but I placed my daughter up for adoption. My story: I got ... [snip!] ... know I am her birth mother and knows why I gave her up. She is now an amazing, gorgeous, smart, and loving little 4 year old.”

Thats an awesome story!!!!! I think your story is amazing, and you are so luck that you were able to find family to take her, that is very special. Good Luck!   Welcome to the thread  

Hi!
I'm Meghan and I am a very proud momma to my lil crazy man Sam who is 3. We have a very open adoption with his birth momma and her family. We have tons of visits, call, text, photobucket for pics and videos, facebook, blog, vacations. We are family and I wouldn't have it any other way. Sam loves them and looks forward to seeing them all especially B his birth mom!! We would love to have a more open relationship with his birth dad and his fam but they are not ready for that yet. Hopefully one day. We are friends on fb so we are in contact but have had no visits with them.
We are hoping to adopt again and have turned down situations where expectant moms wanted closed adoptions. We are waiting for the right relationship to show up and complete our family with a baby and more family members!
Glad to see all of the people who have found their birth families, thats so awesome!!! To have answers to lifelong questions is priceless.
To all the birth mom angels.....you're awesome  

My story is a little bit different. My husband got a woman pregnant two months before we met. The biological mother signed away all her rights and let us take her. We have had her since the moment she was born. She is 4 1/2 years old and one of the happiest (most dramatic) kids I know. I love my daughter with all my heart. Her biological mother had her own reasons for doing what she did for my daughter, however she did drink and smoke through her whole pregnancy stating it wasn't hers and etc. Now I have filed for offical stepparent adoption and have to wait to see if her parents will contest it. Apparently, the grandparents have rights and I am terrified of that.
If they do contest it they can get visitation for summers and every other holiday. It scares because my daughter is only 4. I could never send her off to see stay with someone else. Especially a "Grandmother" that lost all four of her children to the foster care system when they were young and a "grandfather" that was in prision for 12 years for robbery, and evading police.
However, my lawyer stated if their lives are cleaned up now they can still get visitation rights. I don't think it should be there choice, personally. Sorry if that offends anyone. My daughter knows she didn't grow in my belly, but thats the most she seems to comprehend at her age.

Quoting Mamaof2babies:“ My story is a little bit different. My husband got a woman pregnant two months before we met. The biological ... [snip!] ... if that offends anyone. My daughter knows she didn't grow in my belly, but thats the most she seems to comprehend at her age.”

Wow, what a story. I really hope you get what you deserve. I dont really think that the grandparents should have rights now... I mean where were they 4 years ago? Besides, that would be totally confusing to your daughter... your mama, and she has a family. Keep me updated!!! Good luck! Thanks for sharing!!!

Quoting Mamaof2babies:“ My story is a little bit different. My husband got a woman pregnant two months before we met. The biological ... [snip!] ... if that offends anyone. My daughter knows she didn't grow in my belly, but thats the most she seems to comprehend at her age.”

What state do you live in? I've never heard of grandparents having any legal rights. The only way I've heard of that is if it's a foster situation. Say mom and dad are in jail then grandparents have next dibs. (I think.) And I'm not even sure of that scenario.

I'm not adopted, but when my dad was 16 he had a daughter with his ex girlfriend, and put her up for adoption. Then had a son with another girl and the mother kept him. I wish I could find them. My sister should be around 24 now.