re: I WAS ADOPTED- thread open for all

Quoting Savannah134:“ I'm not adopted but this is a great idea for a thread!”

Thank you!

Quoting Graham&Crackers:“ Thats awesome. How does your parents feel about it? open?”

My Father didn't want anything to do with it at first (8 yrs ago), but now he's so excited. My Mom isn't adopted, but I did search and find my baby sister that died 2 days after birth and it was covered up by the hospital.

Quoting Graham&Crackers:“ Vital records is where my husband started. He found my birth mothers DOB, and age. Then from there we started searching on line. We actually found both of my parents through obituaries.”

I know my mothers name and age and can't seem to find her   I've looked her name up online and stuff I just dont know where to start. I thought when youre a certain age that where you were adopted from could tell you stuff?

Quoting Graham&Crackers:“ This is one of the reasons that I started looking again for my birth parents. I had no idea about medical ... [snip!] ... my birth mom when my daughter was little over a year. WE all have a wonderful relationship now. All of them are great people.”

do you know if there is a way I could start looking for them? I don't know any of their information but I would like to try and find them so I have something to tell doctors if my son ever geys sick or something. If that makes sense...

Quoting Momlette:“ I know my mothers name and age and can't seem to find her   I've looked her name up online and stuff ... [snip!] ... I just dont know where to start. I thought when youre a certain age that where you were adopted from could tell you stuff?”

Do you have your adoption papers. You should have legal papers that your birth mother signed that might help you start looking. The court will sign them over to you at age 18. Thats what I did.

Quoting *Ethans Momma*:“ do you know if there is a way I could start looking for them? I don't know any of their information ... [snip!] ... like to try and find them so I have something to tell doctors if my son ever geys sick or something. If that makes sense...”

I would start with trying to get names and DOB. We started in vital records with names, and then found birth dates, and then started on google. It was hard. It took me months to find my birth mom.

Quoting Graham&Crackers:“ How did it go??? If you dont mind me asking. I updated my story at the top.”

it didnt go very well.
she had me at 14.
wouldnt call me ashlyn, called me the name she gave me at birth
needless to say we dont talk
but i am glad i met her and my sisters
i also found my birth father but he was in prison

Quoting Trio of Girls:“ My Father didn't want anything to do with it at first (8 yrs ago), but now he's so excited. My Mom isn't ... [snip!] ... Mom isn't adopted, but I did search and find my baby sister that died 2 days after birth and it was covered up by the hospital.”

Oh wow. Thats awesome though. Sad at the same time.  

Quoting *Ethans Momma*:“ do you know if there is a way I could start looking for them? I don't know any of their information ... [snip!] ... like to try and find them so I have something to tell doctors if my son ever geys sick or something. If that makes sense...”

i found my mother off an adoption registry with just my birth date.

Quoting AshlynS:“ it didnt go very well. she had me at 14. wouldnt call me ashlyn, called me the name she gave me at birth ... [snip!] ... at birth needless to say we dont talk but i am glad i met her and my sisters i also found my birth father but he was in prison”

really... the name she gave you???? Do you talk to your sister?

Quoting Graham&Crackers:“ really... the name she gave you???? Do you talk to your sister?”

no they are both underage and its not worth me dealing with the drama of the mother to speak to them.

Quoting AshlynS:“ no they are both underage and its not worth me dealing with the drama of the mother to speak to them.”

dang, that stinks. I found out I had a younger sister. We are close now. We are less than 2 years apart with children the same age. Maybe one day.... thats harder when they are younger. My siblings from my birth dad was all young. The youngest I believe is 3. WEIRD!

Quoting Momlette:“ I know my mothers name and age and can't seem to find her   I've looked her name up online and stuff ... [snip!] ... I just dont know where to start. I thought when youre a certain age that where you were adopted from could tell you stuff?”

im not sure if its the same or not but when I placed my daughter I had to sign a paper allowing them to put me in the adoption registry (ill look for it and post a link) so that if we ever lost touch(its an open adoption) and she wanted to find me they have my name birthdate and address at the time of placement. If you have any adoption papers you could contact the lawyer she went through they are usually tons of help

Quoting Mama2Eliza&Jaela((AKM)):“ im not sure if its the same or not but when I placed my daughter I had to sign a paper allowing them ... [snip!] ... time of placement. If you have any adoption papers you could contact the lawyer she went through they are usually tons of help”

now they require a lot more.... back then (20 or so years ago) the legal papers were a joke, and nothing was required besides her to sign them. My DOB was even listed different on different papers. It was crazy to see. Kind of a joke.

heres some adoption registries
http://registry.adoption.com/
http://www.adopteeconnect.com/
there is also a registry for each state so go to google and type in "states" adoption registry. so I would type in Indianas adoption registry