Feed Up (VENT)

I am 20 years old and over 21 weeks pregnant. My husband and I were married a year and a half ago. I love my husband, don't get me wrong ... but I'm so sick of him and his unforfilled promises.My husband and I both smoked prior to me becoming pregnant. HE Signed US up for a quit smoking class where we both quit (due to financial reasons and we wanted a baby) and thenconceived a month or so later.Of course now he is smoking heavier than before and promised I'll be done by the end of tri 1, I'm still waiting on that one. But now for my main problem.My husband is 25 and still thinks he needs to be out in the bar scene (without me!!!) and that its acceptable to tell me I'll be home at 10:30, 12, 1 etc and then when that time comes I'm still sitting at home ALONE with not even a courtasy phone call to say hey I'm running late. Example being tonight... supposidly it's his Sgt's birthday at some bar, free drinks "I'll be home by 10:30 baby, so we can finish our movie" it is now 12 and I have yet to hear a damn word. I've called and texted still without a damn word back. I'm so damn sick of being a fucking doormat, I'm being walked all over and half the time I don't even believe him when he says where he's been or his stupid fucking excuses... I'm trying to hold on as long as I can but I'm this close to kicking him and his lying self to the curb. ERG Help.

I know how you feel! My husband tells me every other day that hes quitting.. I also smoked up until i found out, and he promised he was going to quit and still hasnt and now smokes a pack a day.. its like geez!! and he wont even leave the room sometimes when he smokes, it pisses me off!

my husband does kinda the same thing.
says well ill be home at nine.
and then hes gone til like 11 or even later depending on his activities.
although he doesnt go to bars or anything it pissesme off cuz EVERY TIME i say soemthing he goes well younever told me!
and its like iasked you to txt if youdbelate! i askyouevery time!
i getthe urge to punch him in the face so much that it sickens me sometimes,.
ugh.
men are gay like cream cheese

it sucks, he comes in stinking like an ashtray then trys to be in my face kissy kissy or even worse when we are going somewhere him trying to light up when I'm in the car

Quoting Ryans Mom:“ my husband does kinda the same thing. says well ill be home at nine. and then hes gone til like 11 ... [snip!] ... time! i getthe urge to punch him in the face so much that it sickens me sometimes,. ugh. men are gay like cream cheese”

Wow i think we have the same husband! haha, mine hasnt been going out lately anymore because everytime he went out and wasnt back by the time he said he would be either i would go stay the night at a friends or i would lock him out (he doesnt have a key to the house) hah.

Un-fucking-acceptable! Get in his ass! You are not a damn doormat!

Quoting cassibabezy:“ it sucks, he comes in stinking like an ashtray then trys to be in my face kissy kissy or even worse when we are going somewhere him trying to light up when I'm in the car”

My husband will fucking lay in the bed and smoke while im trying to go to sleep.. its like uhm hello are you retarted?!

yes punching him in the face would be great right about now, but it would do nothing. He'd still be doing this same crap next weekend and making me feel like crap again... I mean seriously we are out here 1000 miles from our family, he is the only one I have... yet I spend the days alone with him sitting right there ignoring me, playing video games then going out etc. I mean seriously are you 25 or 6.

Quoting CindyDarling:“ My husband will fucking lay in the bed and smoke while im trying to go to sleep.. its like uhm hello are you retarted?!”

I think I wouldhave killed him by now, that and chopped up his bank cards and drowned/broke his cigarettes.

Yeah i've stopped myself from punching him in the face a few times.. between that and the video games hes lucky hes still alive

thats funny
my husband comes home and IMMEDIATLY goes online and checks his stupid WNYAL bullshit. (western new york airsoft league) and then spends oh about 8 hours ont hecomputer playing some stupid video game and he complains that i never wanna do anythignwith him.
its like if i call youname you dont listen i have to SCREAM to get his attention an then hes still a freakin zombie.
i wanna delete all his games form the puter and hide them.
hehe

Quoting Ryans Mom:“ thats funny my husband comes home and IMMEDIATLY goes online and checks his stupid WNYAL bullshit. (western ... [snip!] ... to get his attention an then hes still a freakin zombie. i wanna delete all his games form the puter and hide them. hehe”

Oh hes got one of those addictions too... mixed martial arts or more popularly known as www.mma.tvhere in this house. I swear hes got an addiction to everything and anyone but spending damn time with me.

Quoting cassibabezy:“ Oh hes got one of those addictions too... mixed martial arts or more popularly known as www.mma.tvhere ... [snip!] ... known as www.mma.tvhere in this house. I swear hes got an addiction to everything and anyone but spending damn time with me.”

EXACTLY!
like is sit back and watch tv cuz i have no job (no one in ny wants to hireme cuz im pregnant or something) buti take careof my grams and a bunchof crapall day.
and he complains that i dont wana spend time with him and i do but sometimes its so annoying when i say lets go see a movie and then we cant decide onthemovie and hes a puchover so he says we'll see yours this time and then we go and hes a asshole the whole time. like seriously it doesnt even matter to me anymore. i couldcare less ifhe hangsout withme or not.

but it bothers me when i ask him if he wants to feel the baby or even see him, (he kicks hard!) and he gets freaked like i asked him to drink poison. hes terrified of babies. lol

uh uh babe. My hubby has gone out w/o me( except deployments haha) 2 times. One was to basketball on base and the other was to eat with his family... thats it. Don't let him get away with it.

yeah well hes soon to get to go out all he wants it is now 2 hours past the time he told me he'd be home to finish our movie and I still haven't been called or probably even thought of.