re: Incompetent Cervix Support Group

Quoting Debra Tokarczyk:" Because it was a rushed thing. I was diagnosed on the Thursday and they had me in the next day. I wasnt ... [snip!] ... We'd been trying for our baby for so long and i'm not getting any younger (i'm 39). I'm 28 weeks now and all good so far. ;-) "

The risks are def there later in pregnant. Just letting you know if you type before someone else's post it is easier to know who you are talking to since we see who you are responding too.  

I started progesterone injections yesterday. The dr I saw said he and the other dr didn't have an opinion for or against them for me in particular, but said if I wanted them that they would offer it. So I said I just wanted to make sure the baby stayed in long enough, and he said then you might as well get them.

So that's great and all, but all of the sudden my "high riskness" doesn't seem such a big deal. Do you think that's because I haven't had cervical changes so far? I'm 21 weeks tomorrow, but have started out with a really short cervix 1.5 cm(ish). They had me freaking out in the beginning, don't do this don't do that, but now act like things are a-okay. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy things appear to be okay, but it makes me nervous that maybe things are just "forgotten" because it's not my normal dr. One other reason I feel that way is because this one dr I saw a few times all of the sudden forgot I had a cerclage, and had me explain why I got one in the first place.

I had my first son at 24 weeks, 3 days. After several terrifying months in the NICU he came home, he is now 4 years old and happy and healthy. They said i delivered him early due to stress, i had an abusive husband and it was a very stressful lifestyle. My second son, i had at 21 weeks. He lived for about 10 seconds, died before they finished with me. When i was pregnant for him, they never even checked me, or thought that i could have IC. They had me taking folic acid pills and the projesterone shots, but it didnt work. I had one contraction, and boom, there he was. I didnt even know i was in labor. THey still never said i could have IC. I am now 24 weeks 1 days pregnant. As soon as i found out i was pregnant, i called the doctors, got in immediatley, and the doctor said he was shocked they didnt stitch me up or even discuss it with me for my second son. I got a cerclage placed at 13 weeks, started taking the shots at 15 weeks. So far everything looks good. Im not on restrictions or anything, other than he tells me to take it easy. Im still allowed to chase after my 4 year old, im still allowed to excersice and have sex, so long as its gentle. Im still overly paraniod about things. I have no idea how this is going to turn out, but when i pass up where i was when i had my first son, every day after that will just be a bonus to me. Atleast i know the baby will have somewhat of a chance if she is born now. That makes me feel better.

I don't want to be a hypochondriac but this week I feel like I have been! I'm 21 weeks now, and felt funny early this week. Yesterday I had a hypoglycemic episode and almost lost consciousness and today had cramps so bad I could barely walk and felt like my vagina was gonna fall out. I took tylenol and feel ok now that I'm laying down, but dayum, they hurt! I know I should probably call but I've already been to the dr 4 times this week (2 were routine appts) and I don't want to get labeled a spaz or hypochondriac. Plus the cramps have settled down for now.

<blockquote><b>Quoting sobriety_16:</b>" I had my first son at 24 weeks, 3 days. After several terrifying months in the NICU he came home, he ... [snip!] ... just be a bonus to me. Atleast i know the baby will have somewhat of a chance if she is born now. That makes me feel better."</blockquote>


Good luck mama! Glad you've made it this far! I'm counting down until 24 weeks, less than 3 weeks to go for me. I wasn't nervous for a few weeks there but this has been a rough week for me and now I'm getting nervous again. I think once I get to 24 weeks I'll be better, but it's definitely rough to go through this   Good luck and congrats on the LO!

Quoting Sarah Brinkley-Lowry:" I had my son at 24 weeks, we still dont know why....Is there proof of an incomptent cervix now? I am kinda shocked they just did that."

the only proof with me or why they diagnosed it was because I go into labor with no contractions and just open up. my first son zander was born at 37weeks and I had diarhrea (sorry tmi) and seen blood. I called the dr and she had me go right to the hospital. I was 9cm when I got to the hospital after 45 min he was here. Same thing happened with trenton, sick to stomach seen blood went to hospital was 10cm had an emergency csection. Im now 15wks, they havent checked my cervix since the cerclage. I go back to the drs on 8-2-12 we are starting the makenna injections then. Any of you that have a cerclage in how often do your drs check your cervical length?

Quoting sobriety_16:" I had my first son at 24 weeks, 3 days. After several terrifying months in the NICU he came home, he ... [snip!] ... just be a bonus to me. Atleast i know the baby will have somewhat of a chance if she is born now. That makes me feel better."

and how far along are you now? I need all the support I can get. My husband isnt exactly thrilled about this pregnancy but im not sure if its because of fear or because hes going to be 36 soon.

Quoting Sweet_pea_f79:" and how far along are you now? I need all the support I can get. My husband isnt exactly thrilled about this pregnancy but im not sure if its because of fear or because hes going to be 36 soon. "

I would guess fear. Seems like many women have issues convincing their spouse/partner to ttc again because they are scared. Not only are they worried about another loss but they don't like seeing us fall apart.

Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" I would guess fear. Seems like many women have issues convincing their spouse/partner to ttc again ... [snip!] ... to ttc again because they are scared. Not only are they worried about another loss but they don't like seeing us fall apart."

Yeah, Im thinking after seeing the baby when I had the cerclage because they did an ultrasound made it more real for him. Its been 2 weeks since the cerclage and we had a fallout yesterday. I had an appt to have an IUD put it on June 21st and found out I was pregnant May 20th.

Im 24 weeks and 4 days now. I passed up where i was when i had my 4 year old. Im sooo happy about that. Im still nervous and overly paranoid about things, but thats to be expected.

Quoting sobriety_16:" Im 24 weeks and 4 days now. I passed up where i was when i had my 4 year old. Im sooo happy about that. Im still nervous and overly paranoid about things, but thats to be expected."

sorry I just reread your post. Im scared smurfless and know it will be worse when i get closer to 25 wks. Im 16 wks now, haD the cerclage at 13wks and started 17p shots yesterday, have the anatomy screening and cervical check aug 15. glad your 4 yr olds healthy and sorry about your loss

Hello. I just recently had my second brand new baby boy premature at 34 weeks because the doctors did not properly diagnose me with an incompitant cervix the first time around. I had gone into labor at 32 weeks with my first boy and they prevented his birth until 36 weeks then he was as healthy as ever when my water finally broke. But i think if I'd gotten into this kind of info back then I would have looked further into all of it. when I got pregnant for the second time my hubby and I asked alot about the possibility of another premature labor but all the doctors did was doubt and reassure us tht everything was going to be okay, then at 5 o'clock in the morning on July 8th 2012, my water broke at 34 weeks gestation and it was accompanied by a prolapsed umbilical cord. the hospital did an emergency c-section and my little boy was born at 5:43 in the morning with complications in his respiration... I had almost lost my little boy because nobody cared tol isten to me when i wanted to know more into why I'd gone into early labor the first pregnancy. This time the nurse came in and just simply said "i guess we can positively say that you have an incompitant cervix." and that was it... I was like what is that? and they all just said that i may never be able to carry my children to term... its heartbreaking when no one understands and Im really glad i found this site on facebook because it has really helped me alot so thank You  

I have an incompetent cervix and a history of premature labor which makes things difficult. My first son was born at 36 weeks and was a healthy 6pds 2oz. and with my second I eneded up going into the hospital at 32 weeks due to contractions and an extremely short cervix. I was there until 36 weeks and then had to be induced at 39 and he was a whopping 8pd 3 oz.s! I am now pregnant with my 3rd and will be 32 weeks tomorrow. This one has been rough but so far no hospital stays which is a huge blessing! I have been on bedrest pretty much for the last few months. I have a cervix measurement every week and this tues is my last one and Im praying its good enough to keep me here at home. I have been on progesterone since week 16 and have 4 more shots left and I have to say that its a constant struggle to get through pregnancy this way. I love my children dearly or I we wouldnt have tried for a 3rd but after this we are getting my tubes tied as I just dont think I can emotionally or physically go through this again. Its very hard being isolated from your family and your kids especially if you already have some. I have been on pelvic rest from the start with this one since I was in a car accident and found out about 2 weeks later I was pregnant. I had a internal bruise called a hematoma (sp?) and then I had placentea previa where my placenta was blocking part of my cervix but it since has been pushed up and out of the way by the baby. I then started having the cervix shortening issues again. I cannot get a cerclage due to the fact that I have premature labor so they dont want me having contractions while being stitched. I wish all you ladies out there with this luck and I pray for you all as I know the toll it can take on you. I had postpartum after my second and was on meds for years and I know that its a roller coaster ride. Everyday is another day to get through and the endless counting of the days and weeks is enough to make anyone nuts! I wish you all luck and if I could I would give you all a big hug. Im happy to have found this group and to see that I am not alone. I was treated badly by my family when we got pregnant again and I dont feel that because you struggle to have children that means you should just quit. No one deserves to lose a child and no child is a mistake and my family made me feel like that this round and it was horrible. My husband is my rock and if anyone needs to talk, vent, cry, I am more then willing to listen. Ive got lots of time right now  

Quoting Sweet_pea_f79:" sorry I just reread your post. Im scared smurfless and know it will be worse when i get closer to 25 ... [snip!] ... shots yesterday, have the anatomy screening and cervical check aug 15. glad your 4 yr olds healthy and sorry about your loss"

I also had the cerclage very early on, and im 25 weeks, 2 days. This is the farthest ive ever been, once i hit that mark i calmed down alot, but you are still gonna be scared. Thats only natural. Just know that at 24 weeks a baby can be happy and healthy, just takes a while.