co-sleeping moms (sad)

So int he paper today there was a story on some mom who accident rolled over on her baby who was only 5 weeks old..



5-week-old suffocates sleeping with mom



Modesto woman tells cops infant wasn't feeling well
By EMILIE RAGUSO
eraguso@modbee.com
last updated: December 04, 2007 03:25:53 AM

A 5-week-old infant died Monday after apparently suffocating while sleeping in bed with her mother, who may have rolled on top of her daughter, Modesto police reported.
There were no signs of abuse and the death appears to have been accidental, said Sgt. Craig Gundlach, Modesto police spokesman.
The Stanislaus County coroner's office identified the girl as Nadia Romero.
About 1 a.m. Monday, the Modesto baby wasn't feeling well, said Gundlach. Her mother brought Nadia into bed at their home in the 3600 block of Seminole Lane.
The mother woke about 10 a.m. and saw that her baby wasn't breathing, so she called 911, said Gundlach. Rescue personnel responded and tried to revive the baby, but Nadia didn't respond. She was taken by ambulance to Doctors Medical Center, Gundlach said.
The mother, whose name wasn't released, lived in the home with the baby and two teenagers, Gundlach said.
A doctor pronounced Nadia dead just before 11 a.m., said deputy coroner Katie Soto. An autopsy likely will be performed, she added.
In July, a 3-month-old girl accidentally was smothered in Merced by her 10-year-old brother after he rolled over the infant in his sleep.
Controversy surrounds bed sharing, also called cosleeping or having a family bed. In 2004, eight accidental infant smothering deaths in 18 months led Philadelphia health officials to warn parents against bringing babies to bed with them.
Critics say cosleeping makes it too easy to suffocate a baby in thick covers or for an adult to roll on top of the infant. Supporters say safe bed sharing encourages breast-feeding, makes it easier for infants to sleep, and promotes the bond between mother and baby.
In 2005, the American Academy of Pediatrics issued a statement discouraging bed sharing. The academy acknowledged studies showing its effect in promoting breast-feeding and bonding. But, it cautioned, other studies showed that bed sharing "can be hazardous under certain conditions."
These studies linked infant death by suffocation to other children or parents in the bed. Some studies only showed a significant link among mothers who smoked. One European study found Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, or SIDS, to be a significant risk of bed sharing for infants up to 8 weeks old.
Most pediatricians endorse the pediatric academy's position on bed sharing, said Dr. Pamela Simms-Mackey, a pediatrician and the associate director of the pediatric residency program at Children's Hospital and Research Center Oakland.
"But there are a lot of pediatricians who cosleep with their own kids or have patients who cosleep," she added. With her own patients who cosleep, she advises them not to smoke, not to have a lot of bedding, not to put infants underneath their covers and not to use substances that impair alertness. "We try to come up with a way to get the baby out of the bed."
Increase in cosleeping
Bed sharing has become more common since the 1990s, according to a study in 2003 by the National Institutes of Health. The study, a telephone survey of more than 8,000 people, found that the proportion of infants usually sharing an adult bed at night increased from 5.5 percent to 12.8 percent from 1993 to 2000.
Supporters of cosleeping say studies discouraging the practice often are skewed and that not enough research has been done to examine the results of healthy bed-sharing situations.
"They lump all kinds of sleeping situations together," said Dr. Linda F. Palmer, the San Diego-based author of "Baby Matters: What Your Doctor May Not Tell You About Caring for Your Baby." Water beds, sofas, beds where parents aren't present, they're all in the statistics, she said.
Often when infants die during cosleeping, she said, the baby is already sick or the bed sharing was a result of an impromptu, rather than established, decision.
"With cosleeping, the mother can monitor the baby throughout the night. Mother's hormones are there to wake up and listen. Her filters are on," said Palmer, who practiced cosleeping with her son. "And mothers get more sleep. I don't think I would have slept at all otherwise. I would have been up every hour looking in the crib to make sure he was still breathing."

that gives me the chills and brings tears to my eyes ... poor babies ...

Matt and i have co-sleeping down to a science though, im not worried

That's sad. One of the many reasons I no longer co sleep.

Poor baby......And poor mother. She'll probably never forgive herself. Not that she SHOULD feel guilty, but I know I wouldn't be able to fogive myself and I would be soooo mad at myself.

I refuse to co-sleep. My son will stay in his crib or basinette, but I decided this for other reasons, as well.

i co sleep with mallory... Jeremy doesnt sleep with us though because we're on different schedules, but i wouldnt ever let him sleep next to her like i do, he will roll over ME without waking up..

how did that mother dont notice that her new baby wasnt breating? i mean the baby being that yiung should have awaken once in those 9hrs to eat....
Even when mallorys sleeping in her bouncer and hasnt stirred in a while, i tug on her hand just to get her to move.. just to 'double check'

im scared to death of SIDS... so she will be sleeping with me for a few more months.  

she was probally so exhusted that she just didnt wake up and whatnot

i co sleep.. but lately with the weather being so cold and my room will probally get as high as 65-70 degrees at night ive been sleeping in another part of the house on the couch while she sleep in her bassinet.. but tonight we are sleeping in the room and her bassinet is also a moses basiket so im just putting the basiket in hbed with me..

it was just so sad..

very sad, makes me nervous!

Quoting Mallory[is]my ♥:“ i co sleep with mallory... Jeremy doesnt sleep with us though because we're on different schedules, but ... [snip!] ... to move.. just to 'double check' im scared to death of SIDS... so she will be sleeping with me for a few more months.  ”

i do the same thing if he sleeps for too long lol

Quoting ♡JapaNessa♡:“ i do the same thing if he sleeps for too long lol”

LOL I do it to Rick and my cats! I can only imagine how terrible it will be with Lysander.

I'm so hyper-aware of Alina, if she sighs in her sleep, I wake up! A Snuggle Nest is good too. I have one that has a baby wedge in it. She always sleeps clasping my finger (adorable) I'm not a heavy sleeper at all, but I did stop taking my prescribed sleeping pills while she sleeps with me. I just don't feel safe with her in her crib yet  

That's so sad. That poor woman. I'm sure there are factors that have not been released yet though, especially if the baby was already sick.

We co-sleep. Phoenix sleeps well and so do we. It works great for us. This is the 4th child I've done it with and never had any problems. When I wean them from the breast at a year I also wean them from the bed and into their own.

I feel for anyone who can;t make it work though. It's wonderful.

The same thing happened to 2 of our patients. rolled over on the babies and didn't notice at all. I know both of them now have serious psych problems due to all the guilt they have felt about the infant's death. I will not be co-sleeping - the bassinett next to the bed is more then close enough. I would never forgive myself if i was the cause of my little man's death. I have also personally witnessed one mother who was sleeping in bed with babe and she rolled over and the baby fell out of bed and the nurse I was working with literally caught the baby just before she hit the floor. very scary and just not worth the risk as far as i'm concerned

Co-sleeping is the only way I get any sleep. The one time I put my lil man in his bassinet, I literally woke up every 3-5 minutesto checkon him. He usually sleeps on my chest. When I was in the hospital, the nurses put him in bed with me. It was and still is the only way bothhe and Isleep soundly.

That is really sad - i would be inconsolable.

I do find it difficult to understand how this can happen though. I co sleep with Megan some nights and i am so aware that she is there. She never goes in between me and my husband though. Mainly because she gets hot really easily but the hubby is also a really heavy sleeper. She gets swaddled or put in her grobag and lies next to her moses basket. I usually put her into her basket when she is sound asleep.

I've only coslept with Kat a couple of times for fear of this. Something I've noticed though is that when she is in bed with me I am so unbelievably aware of her that I knew when she twitched as cool as the bonding was I got no sleep from it. I'm so glad she sleeps so well on her own